I wish that................

[clontarf]

.............. I had the ability to see through clothes and therefore know what every man I fancied would look like naked

[Dan1089]

I wish I'd make decisions on impulse instead of over-analysing the situation.

[Smurlos]

.............. I had the ability to see through clothes and therefore know what every man I fancied would look like naked

Interesting that you put what people look like naked before other things :tongue:

I wish......

most gay men were not so superficial and took into account one's intelligence and personality :smile:

[Dan1089]

I wish that the spirit that this forum was started is kept alive and we will never have another Enigmagate again.

[wouldlikemuscle]

I wish that family, friends (including everyone here) and myself will have happy, healthy lives.

[Wilem]

wouldlikemuscles's one was so sweet!
Mine is much more selfish:

I wish that i was some sort of attractive.

[talkochoww]

I wish... to have a lot of work. jeje or millions and millions.

[fjp999]

Hell, why wish for millions and millions... its gotta be billions and billions so ya can buy a beautiful island and invite ALL your friends to come live there with ya.

[Dan1089]

I wish I knew what men want.

[princealbertofb]

I wish I knew what men want.

Some men wish that they knew what women wanted.... So I guess that's normal.

[marshlander]

I wish I knew what men want.

Some men wish that they knew what women wanted.... So I guess that's normal.

Ask? :rolleyes:

[Dan1089]

Except it's not that easy.

[marshlander]

Except it's not that easy.
Of course, sometimes you're right. Being a perverse kind of person I have generally found it more difficult to speak about difficult things to the people I care about the most. That has happened even when I have known that, in the longer term, the kindest thing would have been to be open with the truth. It's just not the way I feel comfortable doing things. I'm afraid I don't subscribe to the school of thought that goes, "I say what I think, that's just the way I am, take it or leave it". Too often, in my experience, people like that are not only hurtfully blunt, they are also plain rude.

What I discovered late in my life though, is that it is possible to say things that need to be said and to be able to have a civilised discussion. Fits of histrionics and of acting the wounded party don't really get one anywhere.

Contrary to what some may think, Albert and I do hold different opinions on some matters and I find that stimulating. We can both present and defend individual points of view without it having to end up as a competition with a winner and a loser. To be honest this is a relatively new experience for me and I have learned to be able to value myself more, because he values me too. He is the only person I have ever known who I feel deserves to know the truth of my opinions. It may not come any easier to me to open up, but I want to make the effort ... for him. That's not to say I come to him with a list of complaints about things I may imagine have caused me grief. The day to day worries that caused me huge anxiety in my previous relationship don't seem to matter any more, but he knows what I think is important and I feel I know what he values too.

That aside, one assumes you are thinking about your new man here, Dan? Either he's worth the effort spending time getting to understand him, or you think he's playing games with you. If the former, you have to trust that he will accept you and your worries sometime. That might as well be now, before feelings take root too deeply. If he's messing with your head you have to decide where you draw the line marking what you are prepared to tolerate. That's not to say you have to end the relationship if he doesn't meet your standards, but I personally think you are better off recognising it for what it is. That way, you don't pressure yourself to try and turn what might be just "fun" into something that ultimately proves to be unattainable.

If I've misread your subtext I apologise, but may I wish you well :bighug:

[marshlander]

.............. I had the ability to see through clothes and therefore know what every man I fancied would look like naked

Interesting that you put what people look like naked before other things :tongue:
Hmm, two light-hearted comments with a bit of an edge?

Aren't most people curious about others? Even many straight guys have perfected the art of moving their eyes without moving their heads when they stand in silent contemplation at the porcelain shrine. :rolleyes:

Actually, doesn't this curiosity go back even earlier? The Superman comics I bought as a child in the 1960s were full of adverts for x-ray spectacles which implied that it was possible to see through a person's clothes to the secrets beneath.

[Dan1089]

With age comes wisdom,not that I'm saying you're old marshlander!The thing is my relationships with men have always been the "wham,bam,thank you Sam" sort.Now that I'm in an actual relationship,I'm not really sure what to do.It's also a new relationship so I am not really sure whether I should tell him the truth or sugarcoat stuff.I want to impress him and not scare him off.Although I wanted to use the restroom at his place,I couldn't bring myself to ask!

[princealbertofb]

But surely he didn't ask you to torture yourself...??? Holding it in when you need to go is one of life's most excruciating experiences... You'd have been far more relaxed if you'd just done your business and come back relieved... Next time, ask. He's human, he knows what human needs are.

[Smurlos]

Hmm, two light-hearted comments with a bit of an edge?

Aren't most people curious about others? Even many straight guys have perfected the art of moving their eyes without moving their heads when they stand in silent contemplation at the porcelain shrine. :rolleyes:

Actually, doesn't this curiosity go back even earlier? The Superman comics I bought as a child in the 1960s were full of adverts for x-ray spectacles which implied that it was possible to see through a person's clothes to the secrets beneath.

Yes, this is true. But what I mean is, if you had say 10 wishes, maybe that would've been down with wish number 5 or something.... rather than being wish number 1 of a total of 1 allowed..... and that surely there are other things that top this such as "i wish someone could find a cure for every kind of cancer" (if that's possible) I wasn't saying what he asked for was wrong... as I just looked back and realised how bitchy the comment sounded haha, but I didn't intend that at all - I just meant that it was interesting that out of EVERYTHING, that was what he would wish for :smile:

[marshlander]

Yes, this is true. But what I mean is, if you had say 10 wishes, maybe that would've been down with wish number 5 or something.... rather than being wish number 1 of a total of 1 allowed..... and that surely there are other things that top this such as "i wish someone could find a cure for every kind of cancer" (if that's possible) I wasn't saying what he asked for was wrong... as I just looked back and realised how bitchy the comment sounded haha, but I didn't intend that at all - I just meant that it was interesting that out of EVERYTHING, that was what he would wish for :smile:
Sure, I understand and accept your points. And yes, I took "interesting" to mean precisely that. No value judgements intended. While I wouldn't dream of speaking for clontarf, I can think of a few times when I have verbalised rather random thoughts (I think it's an age thing - we do it as children - both times :wink: ) ... it doesn't mean that I don't place more or less value on other thoughts, values and beliefs.

[princealbertofb]

Yes, this is true. But what I mean is, if you had say 10 wishes, maybe that would've been down with wish number 5 or something.... rather than being wish number 1 of a total of 1 allowed..... and that surely there are other things that top this such as "i wish someone could find a cure for every kind of cancer" (if that's possible) I wasn't saying what he asked for was wrong... as I just looked back and realised how bitchy the comment sounded haha, but I didn't intend that at all - I just meant that it was interesting that out of EVERYTHING, that was what he would wish for :smile:


Yeah, a bit like: what's the ONE item you would take with you on a desert island?... (that is, you can take only ONE)... phew, that's a tough one.

[Wilem]

I wish I didn't need drugs to think in a straight line.

[Star Twister]

I wish I could say goodbye to my mum one more time

[princealbertofb]

I wish I could say goodbye to my mum one more time

Has she been long gone, Twist?

[Star Twister]

It will be the first anniversary this August

Oh and I wish I could fly, always done it in my dreams just never been ble to do it in reality
:biggrin:

[fjp999]

My flying dreams always took me to really scary places.

[Star Twister]

My flying dreams always took me to really scary places.


Really

Mine were always very controlled

[fjp999]

I had waking nightmares for a number of years in my youth. I would control the flying for a time at the beginning then at some point it all gets very DARK and I couldnt escape.

I have been very lucky to have experienced a number of "out of body" experiences which were totally cool!!!

[Star Twister]

I had waking nightmares for a number of years in my youth. I would control the flying for a time at the beginning then at some point it all gets very DARK and I couldnt escape.

I have been very lucky to have experienced a number of "out of body" experiences which were totally cool!!!

WOW


xxxxx

[Smurlos]

I wish I didn't have to work this weekend :frown: - sorry that sounds quite superficial put next to Star Twister's request *blush*

[marshlander]

It will be the first anniversary this August


Best wishes to you. Just gone the sixth anniversary for my mum.

Oh and I wish I could fly, always done it in my dreams just never been ble to do it in reality
Douglas Adams had the right idea ... just throw yourself at the ground and miss :wink:

[Star Twister]

I wish I didn't have to work this weekend :frown: - sorry that sounds quite superficial put next to Star Twister's request *blush*

Not at all mister, I have to travel to Birmingham today and I wish I didn't have to :biggrin:

Sorry I didn't mean to bring a downer on things, no need to blush sweet pee......

I'm not sad, life's too short

xxxx

[Star Twister]

Best wishes to you. Just gone the sixth anniversary for my mum.

xxxxxxxxxxx



Douglas Adams had the right idea ... just throw yourself at the ground and miss :wink:


:laugh1: :laugh1: :laugh1:

[James]

I wish that everyone in the world would understand that we are all in this together and that the outcome would be much better if we supported each other rather than blamed each other

[YoungPup]

I wish I could live without fear