How do you feel about meeting people IRL that you've met online ?

[Shadow]

Hokay, so now I'm curious ...

How do you guys feel about meeting up in real life with people you meet on Gayspeak (for example), on a 1-2-1 basis ?

I've attached a poll for your perusal, but if you have any thoughts, feel free to post away !!

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[malcs]

Having only met 1 person online in a 1-2-1 situation I was defo nervous, let my mates know where I was going and when. But it was all good! Even though nothing happend we turned into mates and meet up every now and again for a chat/drink

[wouldlikemuscle]

I'm torn between option 1 n 2!! lol

Having already met one great person off here... and possibly another soon enough... and the possibility of a group meet from a bodybuilding forum.. I like it.. at the same time.. get nervous!!

[Shadow]

You're so sweet xxx

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[Dan1089]

Met my previous partner online but I wasn't nervous at all,just wanted to see how he would compare to his cute pic.Of course if you're going to meet somebody,don't do it in the woods!

[Smurlos]

Well for a forum I co-ran, I went to a group meet up about 6 years back now - that was the first time I ever met anyone online. But my friend Kayleigh also was a member and came with me so we went as a two.

I then met a guy called Vinny - but that doesn't really count as it was through my mate Nik (who is an RL mate).

Then I had a friend called Ingrid come to stay with me from Sweden. She was a girl (yes a GIRL!) I met on a buffy/angel forum, but I was going to see The Rasmus and she wanted to go too. From the same forum it turned out another two of the people we spoke to were going to the exact same gig. So we had a mini-meet up between us, which was reeeeeeeally cool! Because we were both quite shy and such it was a bit weird and quiet at times, but generally speaking it was fun.

My first meet with a guy arranged by myself etc. was with a guy called Colin. I didn't do what every person SHOULD do and that is to tell someone where you are going... I felt like maybe they would judge me for meeting up with a guy online and think I was a slut and after one thing. But I had seen him on his webcam and spoken to him on the phone so I knew he was ok. He turned out to be a really nice down to earth guy, we got along really well and I really liked him. But things didn't really work out (long story).

So yeah... I think that meeting people online is not all bad. You just have to be sure and certain that who you are meeting is who they say they are.

[Star Twister]

Sorry pips

what does IRL mean ?

[Shadow]

IRL = In Real Life babe xx

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[Star Twister]

IRL = In Real Life babe xx

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:xyxthumbs:

[Shadow]

My pleasure x

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[marshlander]

Done it a few times and learned the hard way :eek:

Usually tried to meet for the first time in a public place, but other than that it's not any more risky than cruising ...

The maddest first meet was to fly to Geneva to spend a weekend with Albert. He was held up for a couple of hours and I really wondered what I'd let myself in for. Now look where that's got me :wink:

[Gay]

I led a VERY sheltered life through my early teens and was an active member of a chat service run by Lycos. I was wholly addicted, spending hours and hours at the computer, neglecting my schoolwork, and often sitting up til 2am. At 14 and 15, that isn't good.

I "met" a lot of people on there, some I considered friends - in the furthest extent someone you've never seen CAN be considered a friend - and often wished to meet them.

I eventually DID meet the ones closest to me, under circumstances that were rather forced on me, and I have to say, I learnt a lot. People are not often like their alter egos online - I know I wasn't - and whatever occurs IRL was always used as some kind of ammunition once everyone returned to the safety of their PC's.

I was terrified of doing it, having heard all kinds of stories, but for the most part, I've enjoyed meeting people offline, and would do it again now I'm more confident in myself.

Dan x

[Shadow]

Very sagely put *nods with respect*.

xx

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[princealbertofb]

Done it a few times and learned the hard way :eek:

Usually tried to meet for the first time in a public place, but other than that it's not any more risky than cruising ...

The maddest first meet was to fly to Geneva to spend a weekend with Albert. He was held up for a couple of hours and I really wondered what I'd let myself in for. Now look where that's got me :wink:

Hopefully, it's got you a second home country.... and plenty of new people to play with. :wink:

[marshlander]

Hopefully, it's got you a second home country.... and plenty of new people to play with. :wink:
I may have made lots of lovely new friends, but there's only one with whom I want to play:bighug:

[Steven]

ive met up with about 10 pps online now...I think i was nervous with most especially if were meeting up for dating purposes.

[fjp999]

Well, there is one I have my eye on and the date aint coming fast enough

[joseph]

i would be very very happy if i met them in rel life but i woud be very abit scared and shy aswell.

[princealbertofb]

I may have made lots of lovely new friends, but there's only one with whom I want to play:bighug:
A[Only registered and activated users can see links] that's just cutissimo.... Love you too, dearie.
:herz::bighug::herz:

[CardShark]

I'd be nervous thinking they where a serial killer !?!?!
If you had that option I would of selected it :laugh:.

[SElondon87]

I have done before, met an ex on a social networking site, we met in a public place, had a drink and went home, did that a few times before we even went near doing anything, felt a bit less like some random internet meet then!

I think as long as its a public place and you can get away easy (should the worst happen) its all cool!

[Hyde]

Depends who it is. I recently met my boyfriend, and thought I would be really nervous! But the second I got off the plane it felt completely normal and nothing was "weird" at all. Everything seemed perfect actually - oh, especially when everyone was staring at us as we kissed and hugged, haha.

[Star Twister]

Hokay, so now I'm curious ...

How do you guys feel about meeting up in real life with people you meet on Gayspeak (for example), on a 1-2-1 basis ?

I've attached a poll for your perusal, but if you have any thoughts, feel free to post away !!

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!



I think it's a brilliant idea, I know this is a global site, but couldn't everyone all meet and have a little party in their own countries and then share stories and pictures here on GS?

Or even be more ambitious and everyone meet in one country and treat it as a holiday? (not UK please :laugh:)

I have been a member of a certain forum for four years now and for the last two of them alot of us have met up once a year and had a big party at a public venue. Our first was in Peterborough, this year was in Brighton and our next one which is in January 09 will be held at a venue in Birmingham. It is so good meeting up with friends old and new.
About 150 odd go now


Any ideas, or is it just thinking overly ambitious ????

:smile:

[fjp999]

Or even be more ambitious and everyone meet in one country and treat it as a holiday? (not UK please :laugh:)

Any ideas, or is it just thinking overly ambitious ????

:smile:

We should have a poll :poke:

Maybe first question should be: Most Gay country? or Most Beautiful? or another description???

[princealbertofb]

We should have a poll :poke:

Maybe first question should be: Most Gay country? or Most Beautiful? or another description???

Let's meet in Spain, Canada or the Netherlands, we can marry there... hehehe.... should we want to.

[Maffyew]

Iv met 4 guys online before in relaity, about 2 hours after we all met up we were like, 'were so stupid, should of got at least one person to come with us and meet all you guys with us', but at the same time we was also saying 'good thing we all were who we said we were'! :)

[marshlander]

Let's meet in Spain, Canada or the Netherlands, we can marry there... hehehe.... should we want to.
Or South Africa ... or, er, Belgium :rolleyes: Maybe not ...

[fjp999]

Or South Africa ... or, er, Belgium :rolleyes: Maybe not ...

Good suggestions there Marsh :scatter:

[Sam]

I would love to but i'd be extremely nervious.

[XRIMO]

Let's meet in Spain, Canada or the Netherlands, we can marry there... hehehe.... should we want to.

I'll host if everyone comes to Canada! Though Fredericton will probably bore all of you :grlaugh:

[Sam]

Lmao, oh how i wish i come go to canada

[princealbertofb]

I'll host if everyone comes to Canada! Though Fredericton will probably bore all of you :grlaugh:


... OR .... we would make Fredericton the most gay and happy city in the world for a few days. How would that be??? I can just see it, dancing with Marshlander and me, singing with Marshlander and Jamie and whoever has a good voice, making food with Joseph and whoever is good at cooking, partying with BiPenny and WouldLikes, talking nonsense and having high browed conversations with Shadow or JFP, political - cinema - literature debates with Xrimo and Dan1089 & anyone else likeminded... and just having lots of bighug sessions... maybe a few cries when listening to a sad story of redemption or coming out... Hey Fredericton could be the place where it all happens. Now, I don't want to exclude anyone from my list here... Those of us who are into sports might even get on their bikes, find a ball to play soccer or have a wrestle or swim...
You are ALL welcome, aren't they, Doug?
:invasion:

[XRIMO]

Everyone's welcome!

I think Fredericton would be more in shock from a slight tourist influx, than a gay influx.

[marshlander]

Everyone's welcome!

I think Fredericton would be more in shock from a slight tourist influx, than a gay influx.
Yes, I'm a slight tourist :rolleyes:

[joseph]

i think it would be relly good if we all met:smile:

[sweetlad86]

Wouldn't say no to a meet up, but it'll have to be some where cool!

[marshlander]

Wouldn't say no to a meet up, but it'll have to be some where cool!
Just what are you saying about Fredericton? :rolleyes:

[XRIMO]

Just what are you saying about Fredericton? :rolleyes:

Perhaps it is you and not he who believes that Fredericton is not cool...:tongue: I won't argue with you!:xyxthumbs:

[marshlander]

Perhaps it is you and not he who believes that Fredericton is not cool...:tongue: I won't argue with you!:xyxthumbs:
How could I possibly make a judgement when we've yet to have our day out there? :wink:

[Serfdom]

Hokay, so now I'm curious ...

How do you guys feel about meeting up in real life with people you meet on Gayspeak (for example), on a 1-2-1 basis ?

I've attached a poll for your perusal, but if you have any thoughts, feel free to post away !!

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!

I think if I got to know them very well on MSN, talked on the phone and developed a genuine friendship then I'd have no problems. Making and meeting new friends can be scary sometimes, but if a bond exists in some form then I guess it should be OK.

[New guy]

I did it. Probably the most nerve wracking thing I've ever done. It was a quickey one night stand at like one am. I was terrified, but I went through with it, and everything was cool.

[TuxSky]

Meeting up offline with people on here? I'd definitely be nervous, I haven't really met anyone who knew I was gay and vice-versa. I DID meet some people online and later ended up meeting them offline and we've all become best of friends though. There was that initial awkwardness but that eventually disappeared, I'm guessing it'd be the same with people on here. So I'm all for it! Once I know you online well enough, why not meet up offline?

[marshlander]

... Once I know you online well enough, why not meet up offline?
Only if you pay the fare!

[joseph]

to trinidad tobago soca.in you blood. i wont to meet my frinds off the interent it is vvery fun

[TuxSky]

Only if you pay the fare!

Oh you! :tongue:
I completely forgot that we'd have to pay though. lol

to trinidad tobago soca.in you blood. i wont to meet my frinds off the interent it is vvery fun

Oh, you know about T&T?

[SrChulo]

I am okay with it. I've only done it... maybe 8 times total. I'm always nervous, but it's mostly butterflies about the guy himself because I think I like him so much. :P I don't ever meet to have sex. I have met a couple of them with hopes to... mess around a bit, though.

...Now that I'm thinking about it, several of the guys i've met fell really hard for me, but we are still 'online friends' today. Also, a couple of them I fell really hard for. Those ones, I don't keep in touch with as much. hehe interesting.

[marshlander]

What I like about this site is that it is nice to meet people from here and not have any delusions about expectations of sex! I have met a couple of people and would love to meet more of you, because it's just fun to sit and chat for a few hours, put a face to the name and get to know the man (or the woman) behind the keyboard. Of course I met PA as a result of an e-mail friendship and we have been partners for several years now, but Sabrina on this list and her lovely family have become firm friends to us both. PA and I have met MarkGVA several times when we have invited him over for a meal and I greatly enjoyed meeting Sudanese a couple of times recently in London. This is a marvellous opportunity to learn about experiences of other people from other parts of the world. I learned so much about Sudan that never hits the news and feel very enriched by these contacts.

I pass through London most months, so if anyone fancies meeting for a chat and a coffee pm me. No doubt Starbucks needs more customers ;)

[joseph]

i not relly now a botu trinidad tobago but i love soca music.from trinidad called socatrini it is very good music

[TuxSky]

Ohh. I like it too but it's not something I'd listen to 24/7, mostly around the Carnival season.

[joseph]

i wont to go to carnivle what is it like

[matty7]

i met someone from GS n i think we were both scared at first but seen as we had loads on common on then it made it loads easier - i found a friend and thats the best thing ive had from comming to gayspeak ever - lifes a bit too short to worry so i bit the bullet and whent to meet that person and thankfully we got on great

[TuxSky]

i wont to go to carnivle what is it like

It's fun! It puts you in a wild mood. lol
It's really just lots of people in costumes jumping around and dancing to music.
The only thing I hate is the heat, it's always so hot.

[joseph]

that is very good!i woud love to go it trinidad carnival. but aswell in london carnival nottingill carnivel. it is soca and dancing an costomes aswel.

[Kiid]

I'd met them. But about the thing with knowing too many people.... Well there are too many people that know my name but I don't know theres.

[JtheYoungBear]

I have met plenty of people from Gay online sites - none from here yet though.
Overall, the meetings have been really good. I have developed some friendships. However, I'm dealing with some things such as guys suddenly losing contact / connection with me, which is saddening.

Kinda dealing with a best friend suddenly letting me go.