depression... damn it

[matthew91]

I seem to be randomly depressed at the moment. I have a few friendship problems going on at the moment and it is really distracting me and I have been getting so depressed recently. I am usually quite a happy person but recently after I came out of the closet I have felt a bit shit to be honest.
There is this guy in our friendship group and he is really nice to everyone but me and I don't know why. It just seems to really get me down. I do get very down after the slightest of relationship problems. Because I have always been a lonely person really.

I have been really agitated, easily annoyed, randomly angry, randomly depressed. It has been going on for about 2 - 3 weeks now. I don't know weather it is something to worry about or not...? should I speak to a doctor maybe?

[fredv3b]

The following is purely Fred's personal opinion.

We all feel like that from time to time its one of the disadvantages of being human. No usually for quite so long, but 2-3 weeks isn't abnormal. In addition you are 16 feeling low unfortunately goes with the turf. Life does get better as you age, trust me.

In the mean time you have my sympathies. You just came out of the closet (many years younger than I did), of course its going to be tough, its natural not the be in the highest of spirits. If this lad wants to be mean to you then that's his problem, don't let him spoil your friendships and beyond that just try to ignore him.

P.S. Chin Up!

[yar]

Depression at 16 is a normal way of life at times and it is common. However: if you are contemplating hurting your self or others pleas seek out a Dr. for help.
Coming out of the closet can be a trying and depressing time in our lives usually not lasting to long. You are the smart one never allow anybody to take your happiness. They just are not worth your time.
Think you need a big hug and a friend to confide in.
:bighug:
We here at GS can be your shoulder to lean on and we will listen to what you have to say. Luck Sweet Lad.

[zeon]

Hey DJS,
Dont get down babes life is a massive rollercoaster and when i was your age 8 years ago babes i got big time down. What alot of it could be as i am now older and more alert is it could be to do with the fact that your hormones are just sort of all over the show at moment.. Your still in ya young ears and ya may hate hearing this from someone like me whos mid 20's as i did when i was 16 but its not ment like that.. Try to enjoy everyday that comes babes. I grew up kinda lonley in this world and it is a fustrating time for people in that boat..
Have you thought about maybe trying various gay youth groups around brighton?? I know there is one or was one on Marlborough place/old steine in Brighton and i never attended it because i was kinda in denial at 16 and sort of in indenial until 20 but at 20 it turns around.. As you get older you do meet people in life who you may take with you let you may let them go.. With depression babes it is a horrible thing but your adapt in your own time hunni.. Once ya hit 18 babes then do what i did and grab yourself by the balls and go out to a club or pub and start learning about life within brighton.. Now with me my confidence was massively down i used to panic that people were watching me but its not too bad.. If you need a few starter pubs in town which are pretty friendly then let me know.. Ill still be on gayspeak and still be hovering around for many moons to come and anytime ya need someone to talk to whos local or wanna vent some fustration or anything feel free to message me..

Just to show u where im coming from and know about depression in teenage years babes go to [Only registered and activated users can see links] ([Only registered and activated users can see links]) and look for a journal named zexer Your find my experiences of 18 months worth there =) including how i battled with depression and at times do get down in dumps even now...

As long as you got us guys here babes we will help ya when ya need it

Big massive hugs and a kiss

zeon x

[fjp999]

hi djs, hopefully during the downtime of GS you found some help.

I think anytime that one asks if they should see a doctor then YOU should see a doctor... but if they push meds right off, instead of something like a therapist or some other form of help... then maybe seek a second opinion.

Big Hugs and try not to let things get so serious (yeah, I know, easier said than done :tongue: )

[marshlander]

Truly 16 is a very good age in which to indulge in adolescent depression. I used my low times to write a lot of poetry and a lot of songs. I found trying to find a voice a very good therapy. I came across this body of work a few years ago and almost without exception, each song is really, really terrible :eek: Still, I didn't write them for anyone else than me.

Would it help to be aware of a couple of things?
a) You sound perfectly normal, and
b) We like, these days, to pathologise normal experiences.

There is a point c), but that would be after you (and perhaps more crucially, those around you) have decided there may be something else going on.

Hope you feel more chipper soon
:bighug:

[fredv3b]

Would it help to be aware of a couple of things?
a) You sound perfectly normal, and
b) We like, these days, to pathologise normal experiences.

Couldn't agree more.

[CardShark]

Its the sick way that the government treats us, take away all the activities for kids, oh oh wait theirs PE at school (if you didn't realize I was sticking a middle finger up at the screen their aimed towards PE).

Com'on brown pull your finger out and give kids a better chance of avoiding the dreded anti depressant pills because soon enough it will be pumped by the gallon into our drinking water.

[marshlander]

Its the sick way that the government treats us, take away all the activities for kids, oh oh wait theirs PE at school (if you didn't realize I was sticking a middle finger up at the screen their aimed towards PE).

Com'on brown pull your finger out and give kids a better chance of avoiding the dreded anti depressant pills because soon enough it will be pumped by the gallon into our drinking water.
OMG, don't get me started on PE teachers (viscious, homophobic, sadistic, cretinous bunch that they are ... not that I like to generalise, you understand) :mad:

[yar]

OMG, don't get me started on PE teachers (viscious, homophobic, sadistic, cretinous bunch that they are ... not that I like to generalise, you understand) :mad:


They must be like those in the U.S. their neck size matches there IQ.

[zeon]

Hello matey,
Noticed you havent been online... I hope your feeling better soon and everything is going alright for yas... When i was in depression i thought to myself i can only go so low before i suddenly come back up again... Bear this thought in mind as it gives hope to there being a sudden uplift from within

big hugz

zeon x

[Star Twister]

Com'on brown pull your finger out and give kids a better chance of avoiding the dreded anti depressant pills because soon enough it will be pumped by the gallon into our drinking water.


I think the good kids of today are going to have pull their own finger out and not rely so much on government....

I look at the youth of today especially when I travel by public transport and there just seems to be a lack of respect (anyone else agree with me) none of the kids got up for the OAP's and were made to stand even when people mentioned it to the kids they just laugh and do nothing......

Should we blame the parents?

Hey Sims I agree with most on here so not much more for me to add except.........



good luck fella


Hope you snap out of it soon


Much love to ya


xxxxx

[matthew91]

Hey peoples. Thanks so much for everything you are all such great people. I am alot more happier at the moment, cause its my birthday i suppose. I have spoken to my teacher at school and she reckons it is hormones. i think it may be aswell.

I would jsut like to thank all of you who posted you are fantastic people! ILY! :knuddel:

[yar]

:birthday2:dj Glad to hear that you are better. To day is is your day to have supper day enjoy.:bighug:

[matthew91]

Thanks people
But today - Friday 13th March its all just started.

Me and someone most popular in the group have fallen out because of roumers going round that i like him in that way, which i do but no one knows about it. We were speaking and stuff i try to get on. He seems to be a little homophobic towards me, saying random stuff like dont touch my bum. It became a loud argument. The it progressed on to a small fight taking place, no blood just pain.
I talk to my other friends about it and they seem to be complete fuckwits about it. They just keep saying stop being so pathetic and petty. I tried speaking to my mum about it and she is the same. Basically at the moment i have no propper friends because they dont seem to be supporting me in anyway. I keep saying the reason why i have a short attention span is because i am depressed. My friends seem to tease me and aggitate me so i get angry and they get some fucking humour out of it MY OWN FRIENDS LAUGH AT ME BEING UNHAPPY. I am probably at one of the lowest points in my life right now.

I do love you people though. You all seem to slightly understand me.
:remybussi:

[marshlander]

People, whether friends or not, can be feral, specially in a gang. Sometimes it's best just to walk away and let things cool down. Under the circumstances you describe there is no way to win. What is it you think you are hoping for when you are looking for support? It takes a strong person to stand up to a pack leader and his closest acolytes and, in my experience, that kind of person is pretty rare. Why do you think any of these guys will risk their status in the group for you? We often deal with difficult stuff by making something funny out of it. Most males seem to prefer not to have to address issues to do with their feelings in any serious way. The humour often masks the frustration and anxiety surrounding being unable to offer you any meaningful support. Once the jokes start everyone can pile in and the real issue is neatly avoided. I don't think they are laughing at you being unhappy. It seems more likely that they are masking their inability to help you by laughing. It really is different. If there happened to be a single friend you could confide in confidentially ...?

The one who is worried about his bum sounds very immature. Maybe this group has served its purpose in your life and it's time to cultivate pastures new.

If your mum is unable to see how unhappy all this is making you I am very sorry. None of my kids have been, or will ever be, too old to get a hug from me when I didn't have the words to help sort things out (and they are in their 20s and 30s now). Sometimes they are far away (like thousands of miles) and the best I can offer is a listening ear.

You will get through this, djsims2. I hope it is sooner rather than later, but you will get through this and will come out a little stronger I am sure.

Best wishes
x

[yar]

dj Marshlander gives good advice and you are in my thoughts and prayers , I too would like to send you a big hug sweet lad. Know that you are responsible for your own happiness. Love your self and others will follow , if not forget them you are of great value trust in your self. Like marshlander said all this bad things happening to you will make you stronger pleas believe us , thier is an old belief that to experince great joy you have to suffer a bit first. Just know that it will pass.

Regards
yar:bighug: