At a loss of what to do and how to proceed

[Ken051]

Ok so I'm still trying to discover if i am gay or bi. I know I am attracted to me, oh trust me. But one question my friend brought up is how does the whole dating process go with a gay lover. When in high school I was able to get a girl with little work but now it feels like i am having to relearn everything. I want to meet guys and date them but idk where to start. One question I have is on a date out to dinner, who pays, basic stuff like that.

[minhthien94]

Gay or bi is just a concept. As long as u happy with who u are, u know the answer. Only u know it. :smile:

go to bar and club, most of the time u'll meet your date there. :biggrin:

make conversation with dudes and see who u like to be with and start to date. :redface:

about the paying part, u have to ballance it out like u pay this and he pay that. :cool:

good luck man. :invasion:

[fenris]

Best thing is to do it the way you feel it is right.
By example .... at the first dinner... everyone pay for his own... or the one who has invited the other pays.... or you are a macho like me ... you let the other pay :-)

A good advice is ... don´t choose the rooster with the most colorful feathers... or the one who crows as loudest .... choose the silent rooster in the corner... the one who cares very nice for the other roosters ;)

[Ken051]

I do want to go to bars and clubs but im not 21 :(

[minhthien94]

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aight. are u going to take the risk of meeting someone online. If yes, a friend of mine on this page offer me this link: [Only registered and activated users can see links] (which might come in pretty handy) or just google "gay search"

Good luck :biggrin:

[brybry87]

I don't think it's that different from asking out any other person.

We all have different interests. Not everyone will be into the club/bar scene, some guys are into just having a cup of coffee somewhere or even just hanging out and watching movies.

Just because it's gay, it doesn't necessarily mean it'll be different. Most gay guys are pretty normal and boring. [Like me...] lolz :]

[Ken051]

I know what I am interested in I do want to go to a bar/club but I also want to be able to meet a guy in a coffee shop also mainly in the latter though. Ugh lol

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Its actually no different than straight dating. One takes the dominate position, and the other follows. Thus if you initiate with the first date (offering to take them out) then you pay. Unless they want to go dutch.

If I initiate the idea of dating, I make certain its my treat - ME taking YOU out. If the guy is initiating I'm expecting him to want to pay my way. I offer to pay in part out of curtsey - if he insists he's got the tab then I will pay the tip, or I will at least buy him some token of thanks either on the date or as a thank you gift.

If its a dinner and a movie, I will push a little to buy the popcorn, soda/fizzy drink, candy whatever.

Its basically politeness.

[Ken051]

Well atleast I now know how to proceed lol thanks all for the comments :)

[dfiant]

G Day Ken and welcome :)

[Dan1980]

Hi Ken what ever you decide the most important thing is to be happy.

[pellaz]

if you like him make him take you to an expensive place in town and have him pay. Offer to pay for the next date at a better place.
I think its less critical with guys just who pays.

Ok so I'm still trying to discover if i am gay or bi. People tend to be fluid or not at all by a big difference. dont try to put a label on it. Other than your self, who could you have a relationship with? The sex, you can get your self off right?


volunteer at the local lgbt center, do the front desk

[Rainbowmum]

Hi Ken,
Relax and be yourself , only you know how you feel.
Do not label yourself , or live up to others expectations , time will tell.

[brybry87]

lol,

I remember once this guy asked me to visit him, we've hung out before but he lives 4 hours away. So I drove to his place, but during the time I was there he always offered to drive me around and paid for food, etc..

He was sweet. Damn, I miss him, lolz