Introverts and Extroverts.

[XRIMO]

Well, I'm always curious about what kind of personality types people have. I am a major introvert. I am always tense going to public places. I am very nervous meeting new people. I don't even like answering my phone if I don't know who is on the other line.
Anyway, thats me. I share dozens of other ticks that are associated with introvertedness.

So where do you think you fall:
Introvert
Extrovert
Somewhere in the middle.

(please ask if you need a definition of the terms)

[drocko17]

i am somewhere in the middle, a bit more introverted. my difficulty is to know people when i know that the person is thought to be superior and much better than me in something, specially in social status. i easily feel intimidated and i tend to be shy when this happens.

[Insomniax]

Hmm... I'm an introvert, tend to be very shy when meeting people and quite often will remain quiet in group discussions.
Altho once I get to know people I tend to be more open.

[GayComputerDude]

tend to be extrovert

but have a shy side too - it's more of a trust side really than a shy side

once I trust someone a bit - very extroverted

[spotysocks]

I tend not to talk much in groups of people , i will choose to be quiet observe and think what i say and how because i learnt that the less one talks the better it is! I dont share much infromation about myself, personality , situation. The things i said here (and doing so right now) talking about my personality traits, life, family, sexuality and coming out is a progress.

New people will think i am mysterious. Id say i am an introvert among people i dont know well , extrovert when i am with friends. :biggrin:

[fjp999]

I use to be a real introvert but then got into performing magic. Yes, I was a magician. I started during elemetary school and by Jr. High School I was doing semi professional shows.

It really helped to change me from an introvert to an extrovert. I learned that if you take control of the situation then you can be more comfortable and then be able to express yourself in front of others.

It helps to put yourself in situations that force you to speak to strangers - like work in a library where you have to interact with the public but it isnt too chaotic. You can also volunteer somewhere to visit with the elderly or something like that and then you are forced to interact with strangers and create conversations and such...

frank

[wouldlikemuscle]

I'm very much the shy introvert - around friends and even moreso around strangers. I'm a very quiet person and have several of the traits you've been describing above.

-Hate answering phone
-Quiet in discussions
-Find it difficult to talk to superiors
-Think that the less I talk, the better - although finding the opposite is true, but can't seem to change that.
-Don't open up about myself.

[Shadow]

What an interesting question :smile:.

I tend to fluctuate depending on my setting ...

When I'm with my friends and feel safe and comfortable and secure, I'm absolutely fine; when I'm socialising over dinner I'm fine, but when I'm in pubs or clubs I'm still extremely clammed-up - I don't drink, I get embarrassed easily, and I don't really know how to fit in, in that sort of setting.

I don't like taking meetings with strangers (my hands get all clammed-up), and I'm at my worst if I find somebody attractive, as that makes me even MORE shy ...

... but I'm very open of myself, so I almost always answer direct questions honestly, and I find that I'm reasonably good at hiding how shy I am, so I tend to come across in person as more relaxed than I really am ...

People find me easy to talk to, and to open-up to, as I try my best to be trustworthy and approachable (which again helps to reduce the overall shyness-impression), and to give them honest, constructive help and suggestions wherever possible ...

... so my shyness kinda hides behind all that :smile:.

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[Michael]

XXXXXtrovert..... Unless I'm speaking in public, then I'm totally useless.

I was actually hoping this was going to be a belly button question...:-)

[Wilem]

I'm a complete introvert. I can't go out without getting paranoid and depressed. =S

[Shadow]

A[Only registered and activated users can see links] babe :bighug:

You're safe with us - we'll look after ya x

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[Wilem]

lol cheers

i find the internet is easier

(monitors don't judge :wink: )

[Shadow]

Mine does ... every day I swan up to it and go "monitor monitor on the wall ... WHO is the fairest of them all ?"

... and it NEVER answers me the cheeky b@stard !! :mad:

So I'm going to trade it in for an Acer ... muaahahahaaaaaaaaar.

Seriously tho, welcome :bighug:.

xx

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[Wilem]

:biggrin: Cool

[ardus]

I'm an oddity, I tend to be more open with strangers than with people I know. Is wierd I know but that's how I am. i can bare my soul to a total stranger but someone I know is harder for some reason.

[Wilem]

if you bare ur soul to someone you don't know at all, you don't care about their reaction, so it's a lot easier. :wink:

[XRIMO]

if you bare ur soul to someone you don't know at all, you don't care about their reaction, so it's a lot easier. :wink:

I wish that worked for me, but I am always worried about everyone's reactions, whether it be my parents, or the guy I'm in the elevator with. It is nearly impossible for me to bear anything to anyone...
I have trust issues...

[Shadow]

These things develop in time tho babe ... confidence can be built-up with the right environment :smile:.

xx

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[Wilem]

mmmm i see

I go for the gay abandon thing in unfamiliar situations. Never really pans out well, but never mind!

[452]

Introvert.

I have no problem meeting and talking to new people, but I never reveal anything about myself to them, or tell them anything about me really. That's just because I don't trust people, never have, it's just my nature. My mom's like that two, I mean we can go out to eat and we both immediately psychoanalyze the people sitting around us. Then we share out gathered information through a 'look.' Haha. I do the same thing when with friends and when I give them the look they have no idea what to do. lol

[Smurlos]

I am fairly introvert. I am outgoing... but I always have this sense of being in edge if you know what I mean. Like I'm a little nervous.

When meeting people I've never met before, if it is planned, I will worry and worry and get so nervous it often makes me feel sick.

That said, after a few times, I come out of my shell and tend to be fairly outgoing.

Although if I am in a club or anything, I must say I never ever dance until I have had a damaging amount of alcohol - my brain ends up analysing my surroundings, threats, who is where etc. too much and I get too paranoid that people are watching, so can never dance til all those functions have been disabled by alcohol hehe

[GayComputerDude]

I'm an oddity, I tend to be more open with strangers than with people I know. Is wierd I know but that's how I am. i can bare my soul to a total stranger but someone I know is harder for some reason.

makes complete sense actually ...

[Star Twister]

I am deffo Extrovert, saying that, when I am on my own and not working I am quite the opposite

Okay you can call me skitzo :eek:


xxxx

[GayComputerDude]

I am deffo Extrovert, saying that, when I am on my own and not working I am quite the opposite

Okay you can call me skitzo :eek:


xxxx

LOL

isn't everyone?

[Star Twister]

LOL

isn't everyone?


Oh yeah


lloll

xx

[XRIMO]

Wow, this thread was dug up from the past :biggrin:

I'm still as introverted as ever, secluding myself to my cold dark room when I have had my brief social interactions with my roomies.

[Star Twister]

Wow, this thread was dug up from the past :biggrin:

I'm still as introverted as ever, secluding myself to my cold dark room when I have had my brief social interactions with my roomies.


(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

[XRIMO]

(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))



You're in my personal bubble! Ack! :poke2:




Thanks Star. :bighug:

[Star Twister]

You're in my personal bubble! Ack! :poke2:




Thanks Star. :bighug:


Your welcome.......


It's just nice to be nice






XXXXXXX

[CardShark]

LOL I actually hate people being close to me, I am actually like PERSONAL BUBBLE!!!

Not a fan of touchy feely people, unless they have another thought on their mind ;).

[sweetlad86]

LOL I actually hate people being close to me, I am actually like PERSONAL BUBBLE!!!

Not a fan of touchy feely people, unless they have another thought on their mind ;).

I kind of like that my self cardy.

I really like to keep my self to my self most the time.

But want to charge a little bit, because I'm not making that many friends being like this.

Other people not my self have to go past that part of me to become my friend, my problem is I've let people in the past and then they just start being nasty and untrustworthy towards me, so now I dont trust any one that much any more.

I have such a negativeness about me I'm not sure how to get reed of it now as its been around me for so long..

[XRIMO]

You sound like me sweetlad (or at least what I was like when I was a little younger). You just need to be self-confident. I usually have a hard time talking to people, but in the last couple years I have made many friends at school and at work because I decided to just be myself.

Also, I know what its like to let someone into your life and then they act like a total douchebag... but don't let it get to you. Some are like that, and some aren't. The ones that are like that, you just ignore.

Anyway, instead of looking at the negative things in your life (which is something we all do, but we only seem to focus on them), find your positive attributes and focus on them instead. It does wonders for your spirit.

[sweetlad86]

I'm charging but very slowly lol...

Well to day I've started making friends with other people in my tutor group at Uni. Two of them are gay (well gay and a lesbian, both older than me), so I think thats a start, I'm starting feel happy with who I am, but I'm still finding it hard to be my self.

I think I'm scared of being my self though.

The only time I ever felt my self was when I first came out (gay) back at college.

[zeon]

sweet babes never fear nothing hunni.. I am always open and to point about myself and if people never accept it then they can go run and jump

[Amanda1981]

I am an introvert. I just don't like large groups of people.

[(V)aster(V)ind]

I am pretty much introverted. Until someone gets to know me, they will hardly ever hear me talk or see me do anything. Someone new almost always has to make the first move / say the first words. Introvert/Extrovert personalities pretty much depend on what happens to a person in childhood (as most psychological issues do). I just so happened to be very fat (ok... obese) when I was younger. It wasn't my fault really, I had bad health problems and had to take steroids and they made me blow up like a balloon. My self conciousness from childhood has followed me all the way up until now and I doubt it will ever fade away. Even now that I only way 125 pounds (a very nice weight for a person my age/height) I still feel very sensitive about how people view me (whether it be physical or mental). Somehow, when I was younger, the two became mixed. I suppose this was a good thing in the long run, though. It was probably the major aspect of my life that caused me to be so open to so many things. Wow, that was longer than I meant it to be. Best of wishes to everyone. ^_^

[Yosuke]

I am both.

When I'm not in the best of moods or tired or just want some alone time, I go into introvert mode, where I just seclude myself...usually this is a time of introspection I guess.

And then when I go to school I turn extrovert on..especially when running for political office. I can speak to large crowds in a campaign, then go home and read a book by myself. Guess it's good to be versatile :D

[charliemonster93]

I am an extrovert all the way. i will walk up to a total random in the street and start talking to them, some people get freaked out but some people like it. like for example the other day i was grabbing some lunch at a take away. i saw to guys sitting on camp chairs in the middle of a parking lot :-S. i had to know what was going on lol
so i just went up and spoke to them, they were kinda cute actually but i couldn't see from a distance.
turns out they were BF's dam lol

any hoo..
i reckon people would be happier in public if everyone was friendly and just spoke to each other. That's what i love about Australia
if you see someone in the street, and lock eyes wit them, you smile and say hello. people need to be more like Australia :D

[Mr.Dude]

I spose Im pretty introverted because Ive been alone for a while. Like not just in terms of relationships just that the friends I have have all been transferred and such. I keep to myself alot and its dificult for me to talk to people sometimes because I get nervous or I imply things Idont mean to imply or etc. Like I was staying at a hostel in Ireland and a British fellow asked me if I took milk with my tea and my answer was nervously delivered thesis statement to which he replied "...most people its just yes or no..." So I guess I need to learn how to relax or something.I can be extroverted with people I know and am comfortable with but its not very frequent.

[Lake]

Am very introvert and private:peepwall: very close to my friends:knuddel:

[libertylove4]

I guess it depends on the situation but mostly I'm pretty extroverted. If I'm attracted to a guy then I might be more quiet and shy, but for the most part I'm the one who starts conversations. I love people so I'm always trying to make new friends and make other people feel welcome.

[Mr.Dude]

I think the most amusing example recently of my tendency to accidentally imply things was when a guy I was talking to thoughtI was hitting on him but I wasnt and hes all NO I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOU and I was kind of taken off guard. Talking to people is a challenge for me :p

[libertylove4]

I ran into that before, I was being friendly with a guy at a frat party and he thought I was hitting on him. He said something like I wasn't his type and was very rude about it, all I said was "Oh that's a shame, but honey I wasn't hitting on you, tools with beer guts just don't turn me on." It may have been kinda bitchy, but I just can't stand rude people.

[cutepepper2]

I'm a INFP which stands for Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving. So I'm a bit more on the quiet side unless I know someone and am comfortable around them. sometimes like 2 different people depending whos around. So I'm more the introverted.

[gaygay33]

I'm introverted too! I've always felt spaced out in large crowds.
that's how I am too cutepepper2, I guess it never leaves:wink:

[cutepepper2]

lol. must not :) And I agree, I've felt spaced out in crowds, or if theres all these new people i wait for them to approach me.lol

[Para0402]

More to introvert. I don't make frens that easily.
I kinda have this issue where i dun really trust people...
So the root of it all is my lack of trust.

I'm like you(cutepepper2)... in a way.
I am fairly intuitive on a person's character.
So if i find that i can trust the person... when i speak to him or he speaks.
Then i'll be friendlier and can talk better.
But if not... Well... i just smile and nod and can't wait to get the heck out.

[Narkissos]

I'm an introvert with moments of socialibility.

[cutepepper2]

I think trust definitely has a part in people who are introverted. Like you mentioned Para0402. I often find it hard to befriend people who I don't feel I can trust, although WHen I speak with people I honestly share quite a bit about myself because I want people to trust me, especially if I trust them.

[WINTERFRONT]

I'm somewhere in the middle,.

[peterinmalaga]

Generally I'm extrovert and assertive. I can be a real embarrassment for my friends. I haven't got time to wait until the ice melts. I wasn't always like this: it's something I've learned. I hate people who are polite and pussyfoot around. Life's too short. If you've got something to say, say it. My redeeming feature is that I am very tolerant of everyone and anything (except intolerance).

[snoopy]

i,m an introvert , i like to hide in a crowd :invasion:

[Marty1987]

Im an introvert too, I do have moments where im more confident, but thats mainly if I have to do something and sort of put on a subconcious front. Also being shy, and having anxiety issues/being agoraphobic doesnt help with it either.

[eastofeden]

My therapist told me after we first met that I am an introvert pretending to be an extrovert to protect the introvert...busted! :biggrin:

[TimmyThink]

I think I start off as in introvert depending the situation, but when a get comfortable in my surrounds and I’m able to gage the people around me it can be hard to get me to shut up.

[Aaycle]

I am INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving), very one on one! What I've found from observation is, really, beautiful people are introverted, the not so lovelies are so nice, friendly, and sociable. Hmm...

[fenris]

I´m very introverted and shy .... but both I don´t practice

[Genersis]

I am INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving), very one on one! What I've found from observation is, really, beautiful people are introverted, the not so lovelies are so nice, friendly, and sociable. Hmm...
I am a INFJ. (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging) AKA The counsleor/Confidant/Empath type.
The rarest of all the personality types making up 1% of the population......and most INFJs are Women...so yeah....a rare kind indeed......:redface:

Shame i can't remember what test these results were from......
The page i found that reminded me of my results(Also explains the type):
INFJ (Confidant) Personality Type - Jungian ([Only registered and activated users can see links])

Out of curiousity i took another test......i got only 3% for extrovertedness.:redface:

[eastofeden]

I am an INFP...my lover is an INFJ...it is a perfect match really.

[TimmyThink]

Interesting I love doing these online test things, i'm to sleepy to do it right now but be sure to take it first thing in the morning.

[TimmyThink]

and now for my test results........drum roll...dadadadada ting

16% Extraverted 84% Introverted

I am a INTJ - The "Strategist" INTJs are introspective, analytical, determined persons with natural leadership ability < I don't know about that last one.
INTJ (Strategist) Personality Type - Jungian ([Only registered and activated users can see links])

[Jay]

According to the test that I took, I am somewhat extroverted. "You tend to have a more extroverted personality but with a good balance of introvertedness. "

I'm not shy and do not have problem to mingle around in a crowd place. But sometimes I prefer to spend my time alone - quality personal time.

[Marvinteck]

Im intorverted all the way. My social phobia controls every aspect of my life. So much so I suffer from selective mutism where my voice box freezes if I am to nervous while talking. I hate talking on the phone.

[marshlander]

I thought I'd answered this. Apparently not.

I find mixing with lots of people quite difficult. If people see me as a performer they see the me that has learned to mask this and get on with the job. I am more comfortable fronting a band, where I can share the attention, than performing solo. At a party I generally stand in the corner at talk to one person only. I like to be acknowledged, but I don't like to be noticed :redface:

[Ultra]

I would consider myself an extravert. At times, I can be extremely introverted. Maybe that's why I spend some time over here on the Internet. It really depends. I can approach a stranger and talk to them with no problem. My aunt (my mom's sister) is the same way. She's very extraverted. My mom is introverted though.

[Ingz]

well, I'm actually kind of addicted to socialising, I have many friends(most of them gay men). I really like being with friends. As for meeting new people, I get really nervous and don't say a lot. If I'm meeting somebody for the first time, and I'm also with friends, then it's no problem at all. Although when I meet a group of new people, where I don't know anybody, I get terrified.

I work at a gay-club, and I really love going clubbing there. The staff is amazing and I look at them as my family. I'm a recovering alcoholic, so I don't drink, but I can still be one of the wildest people on the dance-floor if my mood is good.

Although I find it really easy to write what ever I feel like, and what ever is on my mind, even with people I don't know.

I still really like being alone too, I have great quality time sometimes with myself and my laptop. I also don't handle too much socialising very well, if it's too much I'll end up being moody and stuff. Sometimes somebody calls me to meet up with them, but I don't want to because I'm too comfortable alone at home.

So I'm actually not sure which category I fall into.

[Genersis]

I thought i'd answered this thread with alittle more detail.:confused:

Meh. Well:
I am EXTREMELY INTROVERTED. I find it incredibly hard to say a word to someone i do not know.
But once i warm up to someone, i become alittle more outgoing. Though i'm still a man of little word. And tend to fade into silence around more talkative types or large groups.

Oh yeah. And i don't DO phone calls. I comunicate by reading people, i find it incredibly hard to comunicate without it. As its like a safty net for me, i can always use the other persons facial expresions and body language to help gage intentions and how what the person said was intended to be taken.
Over the phone i just turn all shy and just....get really nervous.

Over the internet though, i'd say i'm pretty extroverted thanks to anoymity. And the fact the net is a pretty informal form of comunication.(And smilelys help.:biggrin:)

[Genersis]

well, I'm actually kind of addicted to socialising, I have many friends(most of them gay men). I really like being with friends. As for meeting new people, I get really nervous and don't say a lot. If I'm meeting somebody for the first time, and I'm also with friends, then it's no problem at all. Although when I meet a group of new people, where I don't know anybody, I get terrified.

I work at a gay-club, and I really love going clubbing there. The staff is amazing and I look at them as my family. I'm a recovering alcoholic, so I don't drink, but I can still be one of the wildest people on the dance-floor if my mood is good.

Although I find it really easy to write what ever I feel like, and what ever is on my mind, even with people I don't know.

I still really like being alone too, I have great quality time sometimes with myself and my laptop. I also don't handle too much socialising very well, if it's too much I'll end up being moody and stuff. Sometimes somebody calls me to meet up with them, but I don't want to because I'm too comfortable alone at home.

So I'm actually not sure which category I fall into.
It doesn't have to be "either, or".:smile:
So you're kinda in the middle then?

[Ingz]

It doesn't have to be "either, or".:smile:
So you're kinda in the middle then?

Hehe, yeah, I know.
Oh, and I don't do well with phone-calls either, although it's not for the same reason as somebody here above mentioned. I have a mild case of Asperger Syndrome, and I can't detect what people mean very well. I'm just more comfortable seeing the person I'm talking to, I have no idea why actually. Although I'm always trying to study people, and the ones closest to me I have learned on. I can see it every time when my sister lies, while nobody else can. I know her too well.

And while I have many friends, I let very few close.

I really like going crazy and having crazy-fun, but I like being easy-going just the same.

[princealbertofb]

I thought I'd answered this. Apparently not.

I find mixing with lots of people quite difficult. If people see me as a performer they see the me that has learned to mask this and get on with the job. I am more comfortable fronting a band, where I can share the attention, than performing solo. At a party I generally stand in the corner at talk to one person only. I like to be acknowledged, but I don't like to be noticed :redface:


But you are gradually getting bolder and braver, hon...:biggrin:

[joseph]

what dose it mean plese

[XRIMO]

what dose it mean plese

Here is a brief definition of what introverts and extroverts are joseph:

An introvert is someone who likes to be by themselves and finds being around others exhausting.

An extrovert is someone who enjoys being around other people and gets their energy from others.

[bluefox4000]

I'm whatever I want to be. Sometimes I'm outgoing, inviting. Other Times I want space. It either with me.

Mick

[joseph]

im abit shy quiert but i like peple as well if it is nice peple

[I-heart-U]

It seems like many gay people on here are Introverted (me including), this is quite remarkable considering gay people are portrayed by the media as extremely Extroverted divas with attitude issues.

[marshlander]

It seems like many gay people on here are Introverted (me including), this is quite remarkable considering gay people are portrayed by the media as extremely Extroverted divas with attitude issues.
They're the ones out in the clubs and pubs. We're the ones at home on our computers ;)

[princealbertofb]

I guess extroverted and introverted are like the Kinsey report about being straight and gay. You could fall anywhere in between the two opposites, somewhere in that bracket. Maybe the brazen gays are the ones who've had to fight the hardest to overcome their hatred of being gay? Or who've actually managed to come to terms with being invisible and are now proud and out. It's a good thing there are gays of every possible introversion and extroversion, just like among straights. It's called diversity.

[Sil]

am I right in thinking - Introvert and extrovert seem to just be two pigeon holes for measuring confidence...

it's logical to think that most people feel fairly similar levels of social anxiety, but deal with them in different ways - tackling them head on or just waiting until we're ready. I don't like the idea of one being better than the other, or categorising people; there is normally a lot of logic and intelligent thought invested in these psychological profiles, but to summise human existance and personality into less than 16 categories is almost depressing.

The same debate crops up in music - what genre is this? what category? it's an odd human compulsion, we seemingly can't deal with ambiguity.

[flyerwolf]

Haha .From my study of psychology I think it is obvious I'm introverted.
But my theory is introversion consists of two parts: sensitivity and inhibition. Some people are more sensitive in emotion, taste and things than others. But only if one inhibits a lot of the thoughts that he/she would become introverted. (Like thinking very often, 'oh how can I think like that', 'how can i have this kind of feeling' or 'I'm really abnormal' ) A sensitive person can be extroverted if he or she finds ways to express himself/herself in a socially acceptable way or find a group that he or she feels safe.
Grouping is important. So find safer people to hang around with, people who cherish you, who share similar interest and identity.
For me, I am fine with public speaking, everybody just listens to me. but when i'm talking to people one on one or in a group, i often don't know what to talk about. I was a extroverted kid when I was young but since school I think my inhibition went right up and until now.

[verse-a-tile]

i used to be intro
now i'm medium :)

[DarkDaisuke]

I'm way more intro when I'm by myself but when around those that I love, I become more extro than before still intro though :/