GaySpeak Gay Forums | Online Friends Community | Chat http://gayspeak.com/ 50 posts)]]> en Wed, 22 May 2013 05:09:01 GMT vBulletin 60 http://gayspeak.com/images/blue-lake/images/misc/rss.jpg GaySpeak Gay Forums | Online Friends Community | Chat http://gayspeak.com/ Weighing my options http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25476&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 23:22:31 GMT Youre just growing up, maturing.....thats all. A lot of people go through this. Some already know, some are just themselves and have few... Youre just growing up, maturing.....thats all.

A lot of people go through this. Some already know, some are just themselves and have few questions.

Dont know your age, but if you are over 21, dont worry, there are a lot of "late bloomers" out there.

Regardless of your age, you are just growing up and maturing. Only you can figure out who you are and what you like. Those are things you have to find out for yourself. ]]> Need Your Advice MisterTinkles http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25476 Sorting through Ideas..... http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25445&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 23:01:20 GMT Theres tons of guys out there who dont mind your "status" as long as you are clean and not prone to any side effects.

Im drug and disease free, and not an alcoholic, dont smoke, but I am overweight.
Ive been told all my life I am "the marrying type", because Im domestic and a homebody.
But yet, nobody has wanted to marry me, except for one guy (long story). I was stupid to refuse, but there it is.

There is so much bullshit, lying, and game playing going on, because nobody wants to get their feelings hurt, but thats all that DOES happen BECAUSE they dont do anything but lie and play head games with people.

I say, start looking LESS for they physical, and start looking MORE for the personality and emotional well being of a guy. If you want something so serious, then you need a guy with a secure personality and that is emotionally stable. So what if he's got a couple of extra pounds.

Fat can be worked off.
Ugly can be fixed surgically.
Bad personalities and emotional baggage are there for ever. ]]> Need Your Advice MisterTinkles http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25445 <![CDATA[I don't want to be gay.]]> http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25077&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 19:16:19 GMT Ok that makes me feel better. I get what you are saying about the text but u can also type a letter form via text. And texting is the new letter and... Ok that makes me feel better. I get what you are saying about the text but u can also type a letter form via text. And texting is the new letter and best form of communication these days.but I think the letter will be my choice. If anything it might be therapeutic for me at minimum. ]]> Need Your Advice inthecloset http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25077 looking for them but cant find them http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25454&goto=newpost Mon, 20 May 2013 11:24:44 GMT i'm always up for chatting :)

feel free to join me in the chatroom :biggrin: ]]> Need Your Advice megumidesu http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25454 social advice. http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25381&goto=newpost Mon, 20 May 2013 08:23:15 GMT ---Quote (Originally by hank)--- I actually did go through with the assignment, it payed off, that surprised me, personally straight male class...
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I actually did go through with the assignment, it payed off, that surprised me, personally straight male class several of my class mates said they had respect for me for saying such things without fear. Don't have to walk on egg shells any more.
nice one ~~ :) ]]> Need Your Advice megumidesu http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25381 Advice from gay families pls http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25443&goto=newpost Mon, 20 May 2013 04:35:31 GMT Ive been in a similar situation, with two daughters who were 7 & 9 when I came out, and also lived in a small East Midlands market town.

It wasn't an issue at any point during their schooling years or subsequently. I stayed in the family home for three years, then moved out and maintained regular contact all the way through, including school open evenings etc.

The most important thing was to ensure the children were aware of things from an early age, and its helped them accept me for who I am.

I didn't have have the GS forum to turn to for advice, and while you say you don't need relationship advice right now don't be afraid to ask. The children wont be the challenge, the relationship with your husband will be. You should point him in this direction as well.

Good Luck,
ObW
X ]]> Need Your Advice OlderButWiser http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25443 very nervous most of the time http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25417&goto=newpost Mon, 20 May 2013 00:29:02 GMT thanks guys, but to be honest this thing drives me crazy; it prevents me from doing my job. it is very serious not being able to talk right in front... thanks guys, but to be honest this thing drives me crazy; it prevents me from doing my job. it is very serious not being able to talk right in front of others. that sucks. ]]> Need Your Advice strangerrr http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25417 <![CDATA[Can't take it anymore.]]> http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25438&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 22:21:10 GMT Apparently youre obsessed about your obsession, and this is the only thing in your life. If you arent working towards solving your problems, then... Apparently youre obsessed about your obsession, and this is the only thing in your life.

If you arent working towards solving your problems, then things will only get worse.

If you want to become someone famous (for the right reasons), then you need to get your mentality adjusted. Sitting there obsessing about your obsessions isnt getting you famous. Well, if you crack up and go crazy, you might get your face on the evening news broadcast. Is THAT the kind of famous you want?

I would say you REALLY need to talk to a counselor, or maybe even a psychiatrist. And I despise those people, I think they are all scam artists. But Im sure there are a few real ones out there. You need to find a really good counselor or psychiatrist and get some help, otherwise it sounds like you're going to "crack up". ]]> Need Your Advice MisterTinkles http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25438 Boyfriend trouble(s)... http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25367&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 19:13:51 GMT The choice is yours, ultimately. But I do think you both need a couples therapist and start working on 'stuff'.

Love comes with conditions. Your condition is that he has sex with you more often. That is Conditional love. He has other conditions for this love - well for the sex part.

Clearly he loves you you all went through all of this trouble to live under the same roof and instead of going out to get a hook-up (as he could), he resorts to taking matters to hand to scratch that itch.


I ended a 14 year relationship the middle of last year. We survived 14 years together because we did go to a couple's counselor and learned a good deal about 'us' and at least I learned a good deal about myself. Him... I don't know what if anything he learned.

We uncovered 'crap' together that we didn't even know was 'crap'. We assumed our issues as a couple were clear cut and 'simple'... The therapist helped us to reveal to ourselves that nope, it wasn't so clear cut and so simple.

If there was one thing and only one thing I learned through CC, it was that I was too close to the relationship to see it clearly... Sort of that can't see the forest because of all the trees sort of thing.

Apparently you both have expended a great deal of time, energy and made sacrifices in order to share the same bed and sleep under the same roof. You both owe it to all of that stuff to see a therapist and see what lies beneath.

There is no such beast as a perfect relationship. All relationships need a 'tune-up' and there is always other erroneous crap laying around that should be tended to once in a while. ]]> Need Your Advice Bowyn Aerrow http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25367 Trying to combat a discriminatory policy, unsure where to go from here http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=24954&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 09:42:30 GMT Apparently you didn't live through the 1980's and were not personally traumatized by the AIDS epidemic - it wasn't merely a scare, many people died slow, debilitating, horrifying deaths.

The most large scale case of infections among children resulting from contaminated injections and unscreened blood transfusion occurred in Romania between 1987 to 1991 when more than 10,000 babies and children were infected with HIV as a result of unsafe medical practices.9

http://www.avert.org/children.htm

It wasn't just a scare, it was a real deal situation that played out and real reasons were in play for these rules to be put in place.

I went through the 80's, I watched many people slip away... No, I watched them waste away, lose eyeballs, break out in horrible sores, dwindle, weaken and finally (which for many was a real mercy by the time it came) die and escape the horror of the disease.

My own brother was a statistic, he ended up losing both eye balls and his mind before it was over. It was a gut wrenching horror.

Yeah sure, today people don't have to die from it, so many treatments, so many options - no real cure, but hey the 'emergency is over'... Right?

Face the facts that gay men are more sexually active and do partake of high risk activities and are indeed, in the USA, the largest population that has the HIV in it. Like it or not there are more gays with HIV than straights - percentage wise. 1/5th ofthe gay population are infected, only 1/100th of the straight population is. Its this statistic that counts, not the numbers of infected, but the percentage of infected.

Yeah sure, they could test the blood... They do that any way.... but why take unnecessary risks?

Until there is a cure we have to deal with the virus in some measure, if that means blocking the high risk population from donation, then so be it. ]]> Need Your Advice Bowyn Aerrow http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=24954 Just want to vent my anger http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25437&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 02:47:20 GMT ---Quote (Originally by Aeneas)--- why not release all that built in anger with sex? ---End Quote--- Yeah! Fuck the hate out. Sex solves...
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why not release all that built in anger with sex?
Yeah! Fuck the hate out.

Sex solves everything. ]]> Need Your Advice Wade http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25437 Question for all or what do you think http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25309&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 00:31:13 GMT you should have played along and ask him to which address he would like you to send it to. you should have played along and ask him to which address he would like you to send it to. ]]> Need Your Advice Aeneas http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25309 Feel like a pervert http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=24335&goto=newpost Sat, 18 May 2013 18:22:24 GMT Pervert - A person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable. A pretty simple definition, one would think. But if you ask... Pervert - A person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.


A pretty simple definition, one would think.
But if you ask 100 people their definition of "pervert", you would get 100 different answers. ]]> Need Your Advice MisterTinkles http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=24335 Why do you want to date? http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25425&goto=newpost Sat, 18 May 2013 10:02:19 GMT because loneliness is evil and everyone deserves to have their special someone who loves and cares for them so that they can relax and share memories... because loneliness is evil and everyone deserves to have their special someone who loves and cares for them so that they can relax and share memories with someone that isn't family... but will be ]]> Need Your Advice Undreamt http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25425 how do i be confident http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25388&goto=newpost Sat, 18 May 2013 04:54:01 GMT I'm confused?

Is it that you are very hairy and need to shave is the reason you are not confident? or that you shave and think that gives away you are gay?

Both I guess are the same answer, instead of thinking you need to be confident, which is slightly different to not giving a care what people think of you, try for that instead of the confidence, as once you stop caring what others think of you then the confidence will come too.

oh and straight men shave too, in the USA more so, have you not been in a gym locker room lately LOL

or if all else fails, stop shaving so much, gay guys like hairy men too (me) ]]> Need Your Advice Johnny http://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=25388