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Doug??? :(

Twazzle — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:25:25 GMT

Doug!! Where have you gone? :confused:

I miss you! :cry:

Get in contact!!! :cry:

Btw anyone else heard from him? :confused:

Break up

adzie — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:21:48 GMT

I finished with my boyfriend a week sunday, we were together for exactly a year. However, over the space of that time I developed a mental illness and have been seeing my doctor for the past 6 months.

This happened because he would NEVER tell me what was wrong or why he was upset, which led me into a state of mind where I blamed myself and saw myself as a seriously bad person, which led to a few attempts of suicide (Because i couldnt picture myself without him).

Anyway, he never ever wanted to go to the 'scene' and I always wanted to try it. So I kept seeing my old mates from school and college and we would all go to the local gay bar and eventually we went to the gay club. Nothing bad ever happened there, i'd just chill, have a few drinks and chat with people.

He was seriously jealous and would always drive to my house to check up on me, or text me constantly to check up on me.

Anyway, he then started somehow having lots of guys from the gay bars on his msn and facebook and eventually texting them. This really upset me and made my illness much worse.

However, once I broke up with him he decided he loved the gay clubs and well' now im sure hes built a reputation and if I go to the clubs, he'd have spread shit around and ill just get shit all night.

Im confused what to do, I just want him out of my life :(

Adam

Vatican hit by gay sex scandal

peterinmalaga — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 11:27:10 GMT

I only came across this today but I think it makes very interesting reading for those who enjoy the spectacle of a vatican sex scandal exposed in the media.
A few days ago the vatican was rocked by a sex scandal reaching into Pope Benedict's household after a chorister was sacked for allegedly procuring male prostitutes for a papal gentleman-in-waiting.
Angelo Balducci, a Gentleman of His Holiness, was caught by police on a wiretap allegedly negotiating with Thomas Chinedu Ehiem, a 29-year-old Vatican chorister, over the specific physical details of men he wanted brought to him. Transcripts in the possession of the Guardian suggest that numerous men may have been procured for Balducci, at least one of whom was studying for the priesthood.
Apparently the chorister was sacked but (surprise, surprise) they have no mechanism for getting rid of a papal gentleman in waiting!
If you would like to know more, follow the link below.
Vatican hit by gay sex scandal | World news | guardian.co.uk

HELLO OUT THERE . Look for love

marioferrer — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:48:53 GMT

My name is Mario. 42 y.old. Young and healthy looking, HIV negative but i don�t mind if someone is positive. Look for Love. I am Virgo ascendent in Libra. I am Fashion Designer and Art director,
I look for someone between 26-42 years old who looks for love,
I never go to Gay bars or so. I don�t have sex with strangers. I am a healthy looking and thinking man.
I look after someone who is reliable, honest and interested in Spiritualism.
I am Spiritual Healer for Body and Mind and Soul.
Feel free to contact me.
I live in Frankfurt Germany

Love

hey hey

malex — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:05:15 GMT

hey guys , im marco from qu�bec .
nice to meet you all and hope to find nice peeps here

later guys

What are you cooking?

Wintereis — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:59:40 GMT

Recently sweetlad86 started a really interesting thread requesting easy recipes. But, I like to cook, to experiment with different flavor combinations, and to challenge myself with more difficult recipes. This summer I focused mainly on Indian cuisine and acquired a new favorite recipe, Jardaloo Boti. And this past Christmas I tried my hand at Beef Wellington for the first time, which was no easy task. For one thing, I substituted a wine reduction for the usual p�t� folded between the beef and pastry shell. I used the same basic components as a Coque au Vin sauce but doubled the number of mushrooms, chopping them finely, and reducing the sauce to a paste consistent with p�t�. The Wellington turned out great, and it was much cheaper than if I had stuck to the original recipe.

Also, my father was watching a cooking show recently and took it in his head that he was going to make Cassoulet this summer in his dutch oven on our family camping trip in the Rockies. It will be quite interesting to watch him make it out-of-doors. But everything tastes better when eaten under the sun and in the wild. So, I say go for it.

YouTube Video
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By the way, until recently I thought Julia Child was British. Who would have guessed she was an American with that accent.

Is this slutty?

Anonymous — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 03:07:43 GMT

Ok, I recently got off with a guy who took it very badly when he found out i'd got with 5 guys a year, I told him the oldest person i'd seen was 30 (I was 20 at the time) and he started telling me that I was a slut, probably had HIV and that he thought it was a big mistake sleeping with me. I've never thought of myself like that before, but the aggressive way he was talking to me made me feel like an extremley sick person. I tried justifying it to him saying that I don't go out looking for one night stands, that having sex with less then 1 person every 2 months is relatively low statistically speaking etc etc but he wouldn't have any of it.

I'm not trying to win him back, I just want to know if I'm acting in a bad way or not. It's really starting to bother me in case other people see me as twistedly as he did.

Religious Civil Partnerships & Lazy Journalism?

fredv3b — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:00:55 GMT

I have just read this article, in the Telegraph. It concerns the effects of the recent House of Lords vote, to ammend the Equality Bill to allow for religious Civil Partnership ceremonies, on the Church of England. The article repeats a claim that vicars could be sued if they refuse to conduct Civil Partnership ceremonies. The article makes no attempt whatever to explain or question this claim. Surely, somebody at the Telegraph should have the number of a lawyer who could say whether there may be legal grounds for such litigation or whether it would be dismissed? Or am I asking too much of journalists?

Confused Friend

confusedfd — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:38:24 GMT

----nvm edited..

problems at home...

prinnydood — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 05:02:30 GMT

i have a bit of a dilemma on my mind...

my mom and her boyfriend are breaking up, again. they've been together for years, and i think this is it for them.

first, i don't know how to comfort my mom or help her feel better :(

second, i'm moving out within the month and feel very bad about leaving her alone with an empty apartment...

this makes my plans to move out feel really selfish... but i want to move in with my bf and try living on my own. listening to my mom argue and yell at her bf and crying whenever they talk is reeeeeeeeeally making this hard :(

i'm also a little worried about the fact that depression runs in our family, and if she happens to become suicidal after i leave, i'd never forgive myself.

anyone have any advice?

Being yourself

Anonymous — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:22:19 GMT

I'm a guy who's attracted to guys and girls. I've known since I was quite young but am only really facing the prospect of what that means now. I've kept this to myself all my life, but recently I'm interested as to how my life would change if I was to tell my freinds and family. I was recently talking to a friend of mine who is gay. I asked him what it was like when he came out and he told me it wasn't about courage it was about being yourself. It's really made me think. I've always thought that I am "myself". But I've noticed that I behave entirely different among different groups of people. I'd consider myself to behave like any other guy most of the time. I don't do drama or screaming or gossipin, and like most other straight guys I tend to keep my guilty pleasures to myself! But I've noticed that when I'm around my family - who are the people I have the most desire to tell - I get really camp. And it annoys me because I know that isn't really me. Its like some kind of subconcious hope they'll find out without me having to tell them. And that is such a cowards way out. Up until this year I've had mostly guy mates, and it was great - drinkin beers and playin videogames and usual kinda guy stuff. But this year I have basically no friends that are guys because I've moved away from all my old ones. It's like I feel guilty for bein friends with guys incase they find out and think I was only friends with them cos I wanted sex. I spend all my time around girls which is fine in small doses but it's really startin to do my head in. And I'm worried that I'm slowly becoming someone really camp. I don't mean this as any offence to guys that are camp - Its just not me - It's like in trying to express who I am, I'm not bein myself at all. Does that make any sense? Anyone got any advice?

I have a bit of a dilemma

Anonymous — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:21:16 GMT

I am gay and I am very much in the closet. Coming out is something which is not an option for me due to circumstances and attitudes. However, I am being pursued by a girl. I don�t have to be straight to know all I have to do is give the go sign and I am in a relationship. This is a pitfall of being gay and in the closet. So how can I let her know I am not interested without hurting her feelings or leaving her wondering why?

Rage against bad indiviuals in the LBGT commuinty

ShinigamiLegend — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 03:46:03 GMT

I am really in a seething rage at a specific individual who I would love to blast negative energy at on here in order to point out this bad apple in the bunch! Maybe someone out there can talk some sense in this person and his cohorts.Heres the story I called an escort one night for the first time and asked about hanging out and becoming friends as well as taking pictures and a video of his gorgeous body for some porn websites he said we can do all that he was down and it was cool because he didn't want to do escorting anymore! After that first meeting I didn't give it much thought until he kept calling me to pick him for beer and food and to hang out. One night I took him out to eat and we talked he told me a lot about himself and his past a lot of info I didn't need! One night he called me to hang out again and he took me to his friends apartment where I mingled with more of his friends. He then asked me to help him get job were I work he didn't have a resume then he told me to make it for him so I did then submitted for him he got the interview over two more qualified friends that I also submitted resumes for. I wanted to take those of him so the night before the interview he invited me over and had me buy him beer and cigarettes after I told him I could affrod it he said he would pay me back I bought the beer and cigs and went over there and took the sample pics of him for the websites.Early the next morning of the interview I picked him up and took him to the interview and after waiting to called he told me he didn't want this job! To me after all that effort I put in he could have at least did the interview even if he didn't get job or didn't want it which tells me he didn't appreciate the effort I put in I got mad and said a few words to him then he had me give him ten dollars for gas for his boyfreind and he said he would pay me back I trusted him and he screwed me because he never called me to give the money back or to follow up on the pics for websites which the webmasters wanted him for more pics he told me in exact words after he gave me my money back he wanted me to leave him alone. I told him to tell me the truth and stop leading me on he didn't pay me back the money! I found him another job more to his liking I apologized for any thing wrong I did and I said all I care about is the friendship if its real and he stops taking advantage of my kindness and using me! He then invited me over and asked me to buy him beer and cigs (sound familiar) I told him that I didn't want to cause I didn't trust him and all he wants is for me buy him stuffs he wants he got mad and tried to say that's how him and friends roll I invited my so-called friends to go with me and they all flaked out on me he then had one of friends tell me not call him again because I was obsessed with him and that because hes 20 and Iam 33 its weird for us to be friends and that he didn't owe me any money an argument broke out and things were said! I let things die down for a while then sent him a Christmas present of art work I did and a card an some liqueur to say happy holidays and show I cared and encouraged his relationship with his boyfreind he didn't say thank you or I appreciate it! How Ungrateful! I am so pissed to the point I don't care get all I want is my revenge a let the judge and lawyers sort it out from that point on. Maybe someone here can fix this before it gets to that point!

Dont know what to do - help please :D

scotyboy — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 01:50:50 GMT

I recently met a guy through another gay mate. Hes really cool and i really like him, i went to his place a few weeks ago and within half an hour we slept together. I have been meeting him once sometimes twice a week since and each time we have slept together.

I really like this guy and i get a feeling he likes me back. It seems like its more than just sex, theres a lot of passionate kissing and hugging before and after sex and we talk a lot about what we have been upto that day/week etc. Which is another reason why i have a feeling he likes me to, i know he wants a relationship and thats what he is looking for - just like me. I promised myself to not get to emotionally involved with him before i met him but i feel like i am and im afraid of being hurt again, i really could do with someones advice as im sure there are other guys/girls out there that have been through the same. I talk to other gay people on the internet and have cam shows etc (im not a slut honest) but recently i feel really bad, like im cheating on him - whats wrong with me??

I never really felt this way towards my ex boyfriend, although that did not last long as it got quite messy, is this possibly a reason why im feeling the way i am now? Like problems with past relationships coming back to haunt me etc? I dont know, just really confused and dont know what to do!

Any help would be appreciated guys :D

Thanks in advance

Bisexuality

colinmackay — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:42:37 GMT

Over in the welcome forum an interesting topic was raised, and I really don't want to drag that way off topic (becuase I seem to have managed that a few times), so I'm posting here.

The issue that was implied was that bi-sexuals are not generally as well accepted as being one way or the other.

I don't understand this at all. Maybe I've not been around long enough (i.e. I only accepted my sexuality in the last year so it is only recently that I have come into contact with this issue) that I don't really fully understand why.

To me, it doesn't seem unnatural that if you can have hetrosexuals and homosexuals that you can also have folks that sit in between as well. I know some people that can't accept this. They say bi-sexuals are really gay but just don't want to fully accept it.

Perhaps others are somehow offended by the idea that bi-sexuals can publically appear to be hetrosexual, but seek gay encounters (gaydar has examples of this - I've noticed that while 90+% of gay profiles I've seen are marked as out, 90+% of bi profiles are marked as not out). The result of this is that bi's don't get singled out as often for homophobic abuse.

Or perhaps there is some other reason I'm not aware of.

Incidentally, last year, before I came out, I considered the possibility that I was bi-sexual because I had been in a long term hetrosexual relationship and did almost get married. I eventually concluded that I wasn't for a number of reasons.