How do i found a guy?

JoshiBoy · 23-10-09

I Want to know how i can find a guy....a bit of a stupid question maybe

but i really cant find one. I dont know where to look, or where to go, its hard to tell who is gay and who is not around here, ive been looking online, but i just cant find the right guy online, so i thought i might look about in town and things like that, but i just cant seem to pick out who is right, yeah ive seen a couple of nice looking guys, but how would i know if they are gay or not.

I was just wondering the best way to figure these sort of things out. I really want a boy in my life, so ive been looking as hard as i can, im near the point where im just going to have to settle with a long distance relationship online, but i cant be dealing with that, i need someone to hold and to kiss in real life , not someone who lives on the other side of the map.

Can anyone help?

Vegasjay · 23-10-09

It is very hard finding the right guy when you are looking so hard. I don't know where you live, but aren't there any gay bars, bookstores or bathhouses you can look in? I have always found that when I am not looking for a relationship is when it finds me.

JoshiBoy · 23-10-09

Well even if there where gay bars i dont think id be aloud in them, as im 16.

Rychard the Lionheart · 24-10-09

Are you going to college? You may find you have a better chance in finding someone there, or they may have information on gay groups. Check the web for any gay groups in your area.
Also maybe it would help if yours friends know you dont have any issues with gay people, you find someone you already know.

Just be careful out there and good luck.

marshlander · 24-10-09

You could try ringing Hereford and Worcester Lesbian and Gay Switchboard to ask if there are any youth groups or clubs in your area. Concentrate on meeting others and making some friends first. You might come across as being a bit too full on if you are seen to be so desperate for a boyfriend!
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Good luck!

rb17 · 24-10-09

Quote:

Originally Posted by marshlander

Concentrate on meeting others and making some friends first. You might come across as being a bit too full on if you are seen to be so desperate for a boyfriend!

Yeah, just act natural and be yourself. Love isn't something you find, it finds you y'know?

"A watched pot never boils"

But seriously, you're a cute guy, but you're only 16 - you've got plenty of time for relationships. You should focus on friendship right now; that's what matters.

When it's meant to happen, it'll happen. When you least expect it ;)

peterinmalaga · 08-11-09

Marshie and rb have given good advice. If you are desperate, you will possibly find the wrong people. Make a long-term plan. If you intend to go on to Higher Education, how about Manchester: there's a good gay scene there. I have only driven through Hereford and that was a long time ago but I think there's not a lot going on there. You could contact the GOC (Gay Outdoor Club) and see if they do anything in your area [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] . And ring Gay Switchboard more than once, different people will give you different information.

Mr.Dude · 08-11-09

Would anyone happen to know if there is an equivalent to this GOC in the US? Sounds interesting.

Mf1611 · 17-11-09

its hard finding people u just got to keep your eyes open and eventually you find the right person ive been through a couple relationships and neither of the people i was with were the right ones for me yet

gaygay33 · 17-11-09

mr.dude i was thinking the same thing... there should be that in us!

kimiroger · 13-12-09

It is sometimes hard to find a guy because in some areas it has not been taken properly. But you can try out various gay dating sites around the internet. Some are free some are payable. I suggest you try out the free ones. Some of them are good actually. Try googling them. I have found 2 good guys through one of the sites.

m4m · 4 Weeks Ago

You probably hear this many times lol love come when you least expect it. Sorry :) but it's true though. Live your life and he'll come along. Maybe get an iphone, there's an app for that to tell who is gay or straight, haha.. j/k

But yeah, it ranges from sometime the town you are in too. Small or big does make a difference.

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JoshiBoy Newbie Join Date: Oct 2009 Single Gay Man in Hereford (UK - England) Age: 17 (Starsign: Pisces) Posts: 8 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	How do i found a guy? I Want to know how i can find a guy....a bit of a stupid question maybe but i really cant find one. I dont know where to look, or where to go, its hard to tell who is gay and who is not around here, ive been looking online, but i just cant find the right guy online, so i thought i might look about in town and things like that, but i just cant seem to pick out who is right, yeah ive seen a couple of nice looking guys, but how would i know if they are gay or not. I was just wondering the best way to figure these sort of things out. I really want a boy in my life, so ive been looking as hard as i can, im near the point where im just going to have to settle with a long distance relationship online, but i cant be dealing with that, i need someone to hold and to kiss in real life , not someone who lives on the other side of the map. Can anyone help? __________________ ~In Search Of A BF~

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m4m Newbie Join Date: Dec 2009 Single Gay Man in U Land (USA) Posts: 7 Gallery photos (0)	You probably hear this many times lol love come when you least expect it. Sorry :) but it's true though. Live your life and he'll come along. Maybe get an iphone, there's an app for that to tell who is gay or straight, haha.. j/k But yeah, it ranges from sometime the town you are in too. Small or big does make a difference. __________________ M4M Blog: mym4m.blogspot.com M4M Site I go to: yetanotherm4m.com

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Vegasjay Newbie Join Date: Oct 2009 Gay Man in an Open Gay Relationship in Las Vegas (USA) Age: 41 (Starsign: Gemini) Posts: 6 Gallery photos (0)	It is very hard finding the right guy when you are looking so hard. I don't know where you live, but aren't there any gay bars, bookstores or bathhouses you can look in? I have always found that when I am not looking for a relationship is when it finds me.

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Rychard the Lionheart Godlike Join Date: Sep 2009 Single Curious Man in Middle England (UK - England) Posts: 534 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	Are you going to college? You may find you have a better chance in finding someone there, or they may have information on gay groups. Check the web for any gay groups in your area. Also maybe it would help if yours friends know you dont have any issues with gay people, you find someone you already know. Just be careful out there and good luck.

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marshlander On here too often Join Date: Jan 2008 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in The Fens or the Alps, what day is it? (UK - England) Age: 54 (Starsign: Taurus) Posts: 4,712 Gallery photos (0)	You could try ringing Hereford and Worcester Lesbian and Gay Switchboard to ask if there are any youth groups or clubs in your area. Concentrate on meeting others and making some friends first. You might come across as being a bit too full on if you are seen to be so desperate for a boyfriend! Tue - Thu 7.30pm - 9.30pm, Sun 12pm - 2pm 0 1 4 3 2 275700 Good luck!

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peterinmalaga Unstoppable Join Date: Aug 2009 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in Malaga (Spain) Posts: 330 Gallery photos (2) My Mood:	Marshie and rb have given good advice. If you are desperate, you will possibly find the wrong people. Make a long-term plan. If you intend to go on to Higher Education, how about Manchester: there's a good gay scene there. I have only driven through Hereford and that was a long time ago but I think there's not a lot going on there. You could contact the GOC (Gay Outdoor Club) and see if they do anything in your area [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] . And ring Gay Switchboard more than once, different people will give you different information.

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Mr.Dude Veteran Join Date: Jul 2009 Single Gay Man in Schweinfurt (Germany) Age: 19 (Starsign: Pisces) Posts: 68 Gallery photos (0)	Would anyone happen to know if there is an equivalent to this GOC in the US? Sounds interesting.

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Mf1611 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2009 Single Gay Man in schenectady (USA) Age: 25 (Starsign: Cancer) Posts: 28 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	its hard finding people u just got to keep your eyes open and eventually you find the right person ive been through a couple relationships and neither of the people i was with were the right ones for me yet

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gaygay33 Insane Poster Join Date: Oct 2009 Single Gay Man in Worcester, Mass. (USA) Age: 34 (Starsign: Aquarius) Posts: 150 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	mr.dude i was thinking the same thing... there should be that in us!

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kimiroger First Time Poster Join Date: Dec 2009 Single Gay Man in kgp (UK - England) Age: 22 (Starsign: Scorpio) Posts: 1 Gallery photos (0)	It is sometimes hard to find a guy because in some areas it has not been taken properly. But you can try out various gay dating sites around the internet. Some are free some are payable. I suggest you try out the free ones. Some of them are good actually. Try googling them. I have found 2 good guys through one of the sites.