Am I gay or not?

sweetlad86 · 08-10-08

right then, could be gay?

I'll start by say I class my self Bi, but I really cant chat girls up, guys no problems.

I'm starting to think that I'm just trying to not say the word "GAY" lol!

I think I fancy girls but I have never had sex with a girl so don't know if I really fancy girls with out having that sort of contact.

Any ideas please?

marshlander · 08-10-08

Anything's possible! Try yourself out in different situations. Eventually you'll find out which way you swing. It's not always obvious, specially if you've enjoyed the influence of tradition and religion

Good luck and in the meantime have (safe) fun.

sweetlad86 · 08-10-08

I always feel right chatting guys up thought lol!

08-10-08

I find women very attractive, I think they can be very beautiful, not sexually though, I am gay. I shall now pop over and give you my warmest of welcomes

XXXXX

wouldlikemuscle · 08-10-08

Some of my closest mates are female, I could quite happily say I love them... but not LOVE them if ya get me!! The whole sex thing with women.. I just wouldn't be able to go there! But like Star Twister, can recognise a fit bird when I see one, but I'm still not sexually interested in them.

You say you've never had sex with a girl.. but what about a male? (you don't have to answer that, just to make things easier in your mind). If so, then you're probably leaning more towards the gay side of the scale.
What makes it easier for you to chat up guys than girls?

But does it really matter whether you're gay or bi... if you find someone to love whether that be male or female, and you are happy.. that should be the main thing.

CardShark · 08-10-08

I suck at chatting up people, but I would like to sleep with male or female, so I consider myself Bisexual

sweetlad86 · 09-10-08

lol I'm slightly experienced with men, I've had 2 parters and other encounters with men lol!

sparky71 · 11-10-08

Also get confused about this issue sometimes ,have loads of female friends and have had girlfriends for a while in the past . Theres nothing to say you have to make a definate deviscion about being gay or bi just chill out and enjoy yourself

zeon · 27-10-08

Hiya Mate,
This period is the worst period and i was in the same boat as yourself.. Well as for me i kinda accepted who i was and would say that it may be worth you just having a think about your lifestyle i mean it could be that you are gay but cannot accept it or it could be that you have a nervous problem and thats why ya a bit oooo round women ya never know listen to yer heart babes

kindest regards

zeonn x

Dannehkins · 28-10-08

I've had a couple of experiences with bi-sexual friends who tend to just learn towards a particular gender. This could possibly be the same in your situation.

You may be more inclined towards men, but at the same time still have feelings towards women.

sweetlad86 · 17-11-08

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dannehkins

You may be more inclined towards men, but at the same time still have feelings towards women.

Yeah thats how I think too, but some times I feel like I like men more but then a girl comes along who I really fancy..

But don't know if I could have sex with a girl though..

CardShark · 17-11-08

Why not?

I've never really chatted up women or men come to think of it.
But I believe I can talk to women better.

Australia · 17-11-08

I can get turned on by a girl, its just I get more turned on when its a guy. I dont consider myself a bi, just always horny.

sweetlad86 · 18-11-08

I nearly had sex with a girl once but I got put off at the last minute..

CardShark · 18-11-08

Quote:

Originally Posted by sweetlad86

I nearly had sex with a girl once but I got put off at the last minute..

I have no clue what I was about to post...

Gimme a sec...

Ah here we go... why did you get put off?

Smurlos · 18-11-08

i had a girlfriend when i was a young teen. but i soon realised i couldnt go through with having sex with her... however like you say in your first post, I still classed myself as "bisexual" because that seems more dilute than "im gay". It's more grey than black or white and you feel it'll wash better with people. I still find it difficult to use the "gay" word in public sometimes. But it's getting easier now I'm in a long term relationship :-)

sweetlad86 · 18-11-08

Quote:

Originally Posted by CardShark

I have no clue what I was about to post...

Gimme a sec...

Ah here we go... why did you get put off?

Cant really explain to this day why!!

XRIMO · 18-11-08

I have a funny story.

A friend/classmate/former roommate (all the same person) and I were at a collegue's house and we all got drunk. My friend was there with her boyfriend and was there alone. Well, at some point in the evening she wanted her boyfriend to show off his throwing technique so we went to one of the spare rooms and he threw her on the bed (marial arts style), then she insisted that he throw me. So he did. Then he left, thus leaving the two of us, drunk, alone and on a bed... I can't remember clearly but she attacked me and we fell off the bed and were on the ground when she looked at me and said "kiss me"...

Well, I flipped out and scrambled to my feet because 1. her boyfriend was in the other room, and 2. well, you know, the whole gay thing... so I was like "um, isn't your boyfriend in the next room"... her reply, "we have an open relationship"... so I panicked, said I had to go and promptly departed.

Needless to say, when we had class the following Monday, it was slightly awkward. Fortunately, she never made another move on me, and like I said we were even roommates for awhile. (also one time, the collegue whose house we were at actually took me aside one day and asked if I was gay... I was completely shocked since I really don't act gay).

Ralwatt · 18-11-08

My advice would really just be the same as what others have said.

It's best not to worry about your sexuality, just take your time and enjoy meeting people you like, in the end it'll become clear which orientation you have. ^^

princealbertofb · 18-11-08

I was just reminded by a picture map that I downloaded of how many countries there are in this world where being gay is not only punishable by imprisonment but also by death.... Just a thought.... We are definitely lucky in the western world.

08-10-08	#1 (permalink)
sweetlad86 Mad but with it! Join Date: Oct 2008 Gay Friendly Single Straight Man in Newport / Chippenham (UK - England) Age: 23 (Starsign: Scorpio) Posts: 1,174 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	Am I gay or not? right then, could be gay? I'll start by say I class my self Bi, but I really cant chat girls up, guys no problems. I'm starting to think that I'm just trying to not say the word "GAY" lol! I think I fancy girls but I have never had sex with a girl so don't know if I really fancy girls with out having that sort of contact. Any ideas please?

08-10-08	#5 (permalink)
wouldlikemuscle Forever Growing Join Date: Aug 2007 Single Gay Man in London (UK - England) Age: 25 (Starsign: Pisces) Posts: 2,434 Gallery photos (12) My Mood:	Some of my closest mates are female, I could quite happily say I love them... but not LOVE them if ya get me!! The whole sex thing with women.. I just wouldn't be able to go there! But like Star Twister, can recognise a fit bird when I see one, but I'm still not sexually interested in them. You say you've never had sex with a girl.. but what about a male? (you don't have to answer that, just to make things easier in your mind). If so, then you're probably leaning more towards the gay side of the scale. What makes it easier for you to chat up guys than girls? But does it really matter whether you're gay or bi... if you find someone to love whether that be male or female, and you are happy.. that should be the main thing. __________________ ~Michael "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

08-10-08	#6 (permalink)
CardShark Unforgettable Join Date: Aug 2008 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in Saturn, Milkyway, Deep space (UK - England) Age: 20 (Starsign: Libra) Posts: 1,110 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	I suck at chatting up people, but I would like to sleep with male or female, so I consider myself Bisexual __________________ I'm a victim of my own success. I have never failed, I have just found many ways which are incorrect. Everyone has a story, some people just have a better way of telling it. In this Concrete Jungle we live, our survival is love that we give. Last edited by CardShark : 08-10-08 at 09:17 pm.

27-10-08	#9 (permalink)
zeon Godlike Join Date: Oct 2008 Gay Male Couple in BRIGHTON (UK - England) Age: 24 (Starsign: Capricorn) Posts: 658 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	Hiya Mate, This period is the worst period and i was in the same boat as yourself.. Well as for me i kinda accepted who i was and would say that it may be worth you just having a think about your lifestyle i mean it could be that you are gay but cannot accept it or it could be that you have a nervous problem and thats why ya a bit oooo round women ya never know listen to yer heart babes kindest regards zeonn x __________________ - Zeon Xavier - "And If you want then start to laugh, if it hurts then start to cry, if yourself dont take, just beleive in destiny, dont care what people say, just to follow your own ways, dont give up and use to,change its the return to innocence" ..

17-11-08	#12 (permalink)
CardShark Unforgettable Join Date: Aug 2008 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in Saturn, Milkyway, Deep space (UK - England) Age: 20 (Starsign: Libra) Posts: 1,110 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	Why not? I've never really chatted up women or men come to think of it. But I believe I can talk to women better. __________________ I'm a victim of my own success. I have never failed, I have just found many ways which are incorrect. Everyone has a story, some people just have a better way of telling it. In this Concrete Jungle we live, our survival is love that we give. Last edited by CardShark : 17-11-08 at 10:38 pm.

08-10-08	#2 (permalink)
marshlander On here too often Join Date: Jan 2008 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in The Fens or the Alps, what day is it? (UK - England) Age: 54 (Starsign: Taurus) Posts: 4,068 Gallery photos (0)	Anything's possible! Try yourself out in different situations. Eventually you'll find out which way you swing. It's not always obvious, specially if you've enjoyed the influence of tradition and religion Good luck and in the meantime have (safe) fun.

08-10-08	#3 (permalink)
sweetlad86 Mad but with it! Join Date: Oct 2008 Gay Friendly Single Straight Man in Newport / Chippenham (UK - England) Age: 23 (Starsign: Scorpio) Posts: 1,174 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	I always feel right chatting guys up thought lol!

08-10-08	#4 (permalink)
~~Star Twister~~	I find women very attractive, I think they can be very beautiful, not sexually though, I am gay. I shall now pop over and give you my warmest of welcomes XXXXX

09-10-08	#7 (permalink)
sweetlad86 Mad but with it! Join Date: Oct 2008 Gay Friendly Single Straight Man in Newport / Chippenham (UK - England) Age: 23 (Starsign: Scorpio) Posts: 1,174 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	lol I'm slightly experienced with men, I've had 2 parters and other encounters with men lol!

11-10-08	#8 (permalink)
sparky71 Insane Poster Join Date: Oct 2008 Single Bi Man in cardiff (UK - England) Age: 38 (Starsign: Cancer) Posts: 197 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	Also get confused about this issue sometimes ,have loads of female friends and have had girlfriends for a while in the past . Theres nothing to say you have to make a definate deviscion about being gay or bi just chill out and enjoy yourself

28-10-08	#10 (permalink)
Dannehkins Veteran Join Date: Oct 2008 Single Gay Man in St.Helens (UK - England) Age: 18 (Starsign: Virgo) Posts: 14 Gallery photos (0)	I've had a couple of experiences with bi-sexual friends who tend to just learn towards a particular gender. This could possibly be the same in your situation. You may be more inclined towards men, but at the same time still have feelings towards women.

17-11-08	#13 (permalink)
Australia Insane Poster Join Date: Nov 2008 Single Gay Man in Australia (Australia) Age: 24 (Starsign: Sagittarius) Posts: 172 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	I can get turned on by a girl, its just I get more turned on when its a guy. I dont consider myself a bi, just always horny.

18-11-08	#14 (permalink)
sweetlad86 Mad but with it! Join Date: Oct 2008 Gay Friendly Single Straight Man in Newport / Chippenham (UK - England) Age: 23 (Starsign: Scorpio) Posts: 1,174 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	I nearly had sex with a girl once but I got put off at the last minute..

18-11-08	#16 (permalink)
Smurlos Millenium Bug! Join Date: Oct 2007 Gay Male Couple in Basildon (Essix ;)) (UK - England) Age: 23 (Starsign: Cancer) Posts: 1,350 Gallery photos (7) My Mood:	i had a girlfriend when i was a young teen. but i soon realised i couldnt go through with having sex with her... however like you say in your first post, I still classed myself as "bisexual" because that seems more dilute than "im gay". It's more grey than black or white and you feel it'll wash better with people. I still find it difficult to use the "gay" word in public sometimes. But it's getting easier now I'm in a long term relationship :-) __________________ Smurlos The early bird may get the worm but the second mouse to the trap gets the cheese Some people are like slinkys - not really good for anything but bring a smile to your face when pushed down the stairs! Ganz ohne Drogen geht es nicht, es wird immer so sein. Und Jesus sah das genauso, denn aus Wasser machte er Wein

18-11-08	#18 (permalink)
XRIMO Northern Exposure Join Date: Oct 2007 Single Gay Man in Fredericton (Canada) Age: 24 (Starsign: Taurus) Posts: 1,348 Gallery photos (12) My Mood:	I have a funny story. A friend/classmate/former roommate (all the same person) and I were at a collegue's house and we all got drunk. My friend was there with her boyfriend and was there alone. Well, at some point in the evening she wanted her boyfriend to show off his throwing technique so we went to one of the spare rooms and he threw her on the bed (marial arts style), then she insisted that he throw me. So he did. Then he left, thus leaving the two of us, drunk, alone and on a bed... I can't remember clearly but she attacked me and we fell off the bed and were on the ground when she looked at me and said "kiss me"... Well, I flipped out and scrambled to my feet because 1. her boyfriend was in the other room, and 2. well, you know, the whole gay thing... so I was like "um, isn't your boyfriend in the next room"... her reply, "we have an open relationship"... so I panicked, said I had to go and promptly departed. Needless to say, when we had class the following Monday, it was slightly awkward. Fortunately, she never made another move on me, and like I said we were even roommates for awhile. (also one time, the collegue whose house we were at actually took me aside one day and asked if I was gay... I was completely shocked since I really don't act gay). __________________ In the end, it boils down to two simple choices. Either you do or you don't. You'd think with all the problems in this world, there'd be more answers. It's not fair... but its the way things are. The choice is yours. ~ Zidane Tribal Hope is comforting, it allows us to accept fate no matter how tragic it may be. ~ Yunalesca Love is a trick nature plays to get us to reproduce ... good thing I'm gay then.

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18-11-08	#19 (permalink)
Ralwatt Insane Poster Join Date: Nov 2008 Single Gay Man in Stroud (UK - England) Age: 21 (Starsign: Leo) Posts: 143 Gallery photos (0) My Mood:	My advice would really just be the same as what others have said. It's best not to worry about your sexuality, just take your time and enjoy meeting people you like, in the end it'll become clear which orientation you have. ^^

18-11-08	#20 (permalink)
princealbertofb King of the Word??? Join Date: Jan 2008 Gay Man in a Monogamous Gay Relationship in near Geneva (France) Age: 50 (Starsign: Cancer) Posts: 4,014 Gallery photos (2)	I was just reminded by a picture map that I downloaded of how many countries there are in this world where being gay is not only punishable by imprisonment but also by death.... Just a thought.... We are definitely lucky in the western world.