When did you realise you were attracted to guys ?

[princealbertofb]

Originally Posted by bigphils

Erm, well I guess when I was young I knew I was different from my mates but just didnt know why then I went through a time of thinking it was just a phase and I would grow out of it n that was stupid.

It took me till I was around 20 to actually admit it and then 22 to do sommit bout it, so I am sorta new to it all

Now i just regret the years I missed really but al get ova it jst need to find sum1 nice now...and my life will be complete lol

Why would it be stupid to think that it was just a phase when the whole of society is generally so heterocentred...?? That's the message you got and heard, I'm sure... There is no gay role modelling that says it's alright to just be yourself when you're gay... I'm not surprised. No, I see nothing stupid about thinking that way, at that period of your life.

[Dereck]

Originally Posted by marshlander

You do realise that answering isn't compulsory?

Oh I don't really know what that means.. but sorry.

[princealbertofb]

Originally Posted by Dereck

Oh I don't really know what that means.. but sorry.

Compulsory, means "obligatory"... so you don't have to answer if it's too private.

[marshlander]

Originally Posted by Dereck

Oh I don't really know what that means.. but sorry.

Originally Posted by princealbertofb

Compulsory, means "obligatory"... so you don't have to answer if it's too private.

I didn't like the thought of you being embarrassed, but telling us anyway

[Andy]

I was about 6 when my mum's friend and her student doctor bf took me out to the theme park. He was the first guy I sorta had a crush on... bit weird when you're 6 as you don't really undestand what is going on!

[edtracker]

My first crush was in 7th grade, Tom Laucik. A pain in the ass, not literally - yet, but damn good looking. Round beautiful face with the cutest freckles I'd ever scene. But, I digress. Anyway, looking back, though, I remember kind of looking at other boys since about third grade, but, not really realizing what was going on! I sure was good at tetherball, though!

[woodchip50]

i know i always had a sort of thing about guys. but.

the first time i actually realised i liked a guy was when i was 11/12 ish

had a really vivid fream about a guy, who wasn't even that attractive, lying in bed with me. naked. rubbing our bodies against eachother and holding each other. oddly i was seeing this from the celings perspective so i could see me too.

i woke up and was SO wierded out by that!
not by the guy so much, more so that i dreamt about me.

then a few days later i realised i had dreamt about a guy and me, and i just thought something along the lines of 'sssshhiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii iiiittt!'

[Dereck]

Ohh. Sorry. I understand now.

Originally Posted by marshlander

I didn't like the thought of you being embarrassed, but telling us anyway

Um... I think you lot realised you were gay when you also realised you like to sleep around and be shallow wich is bascailly seems to be the 'rules' of gay society.

[fjp999]

Originally Posted by jmfoster

Um... I think you lot realised you were gay when you also realised you like to sleep around and be shallow wich is bascailly seems to be the 'rules' of gay society.

someone is going byebye

Oh well xD

[princealbertofb]

Originally Posted by jmfoster

Um... I think you lot realised you were gay when you also realised you like to sleep around and be shallow wich is bascailly seems to be the 'rules' of gay society.

A very unfair and antisocial remark.... That certainly doesn't apply to me so I guess not to every gay person in the world... Wish this man a lot of happiness, anyway.

[Twazzle]

Originally Posted by jmfoster

Um... I think you lot realised you were gay when you also realised you like to sleep around and be shallow wich is bascailly seems to be the 'rules' of gay society.

LOLOLOL -Didnt get to meet him :(

[princealbertofb]

Aren't you glad? He was a bit of a sad character... difficult to cheer up.

[Twazzle]

Originally Posted by princealbertofb

Aren't you glad? He was a bit of a sad character... difficult to cheer up.

I know it sounds bad but I like people like that - that come on sites like this and say comments like that, as to me it allows me to gain someone else's views may be negative and not nice but I find it interesting unravelling why they think in that trail of thought.

Like the comment he made is based on years of gay men having to hide the fact they are gay and well did kinda sneak around sleeping around and that..

And can I just say (will get bashed for this), but the pride events now seem to copy this, and I can't really blame people for thinking that way? The pride festivals to me don't scream pride - It screams 'I want a quick f*ck' and if Im a gay lad thinking that... then obviously the anti-gays will be thinking that way too!! (Rant over) :D

[princealbertofb]

I think you'll find that all sorts of people and all sorts of walks of life and lifestyles walk along in a gaypride, so while some may be flaunting a very open sexuality and be claiming they WANT SEX, a lot of others will be marching along too who are parents of gays and lesbians, politicians who want to make a stand, children of gays who don't have that agenda etc... Difficult to categorise on that criterion alone, in my opinion.

[Twazzle]

But then Im only sharing what I see advertised on websites and TV that are the bad parts.. I went to a pride event 3 years ago.. A lot of people getting sexual on a field, drunken out their mind and bleh >_< Wasn't nice. I don't understand them? :(

364 days of the year people moan about equal treatment - then this one day they choose to single themselves out with some parade and (this you have to agree on) a lot of men and women basically nude.. well wearing VERY revealing things?? Is that really what 'Gay pride' is? :(

[princealbertofb]

Maybe the March is... but Pride, as you know, is a feeling that comes inside you and that makes you walk tall, not slinking along walls trying to look like a wallflower.

[marshlander]

Not everyone in a Pride march strips off! I certainly haven't and nor did I see anyone nearby who has either. For me a Pride event is a celebration of the freedom I have to express who I am, specially when so many people around the world take their lives in their hands by doing so. It is also a personal declaration of hope of a better future for my glbt brothers and sisters in those less enlightened places and a reminder to myself that what we may enjoy here and now can, so easily be taken away.

[IanG]

Originally Posted by fjp999

I think my first stirrings came from early Tarzan on TV...

Must have been 8 or 9...

That wouldn't have been Ron Ely, would it? If so, I had a similar experience; I couldn't take my eyes off him.
I knew from about 13 or 14 that I liked men and I had a huge crush on a well-built PE teacher which sort of established my taste in men from then on.