Oh these mixed signals!

[Miles]

Dude, he's queer as a three dollar bill. Saying "I'm gay" in a deadpan voice can be dry humor but when put together with his always touching you and holding your crotch and asking you about love and playfully jacking it in front of you and letting you watch him naked it seems like a good sign he's at least very VERY curious if not full-on craving your mojo.

(Or not.)

[angiemari]

Sounds like he's telling you loud and clear. Go for it!! What do you have to lose? This is what you want it looks like he's starting to put himself out there and I say you do the same. You don't want this to pass you by

[CCRox]

If he is under 18 and you are 24 I'd be VERY concerned about the criminal implications! Parents can be very vindictive despite their child's wishes. Exploring the attraction is only respectable if it is not illegal! You could be setting him up for some very real pain and it is ALL your responsibility given the ages and law. Personally, I don't feel as strong about the morals and law. But personal thoughts and feelings won't matter if you get caught and have to deal with the VERY serious ramifications. I hope you'll be smart and responsible for yourself AND for his best interest. No offense intended, just careful consideration.

[CCRox]

I tried to reply but it has to be screened before it will post because I'm so new here.

LISTEN, it is ILLEGAL!!!! The criminal record, offender registry, social and vocational impediments are NOT worth it. Be his friend yes, but I can almost guarantee that Dad will prosecute you.

I hope you won't get hurt and hurt your interested friend in the mean time. If he knows he can count on you now when he is struggling then you make it more likely he'll be available when he is of age! PLEASE be careful.

[Buffylo]

In some states it is not illegal. It is important to know the age of consent in your state. People REALLY need to read the law before parroting what they think they know because they heard it somewhere before....

[princealbertofb]

The plot thickens....
Has Josh done it? Has Josh not done it??

[nikgee]

Have you considered the thought that you might not really want to find out where this guy is coming from. Think about right now you got something. A close friend , that pays attention to you . Goes everywhere with you. Now what is going to happen if you confront him with how you feel and want to know how he feels, etc. There are basically two directions things can go. The best case scenario is he feels just like you. you get together and live happily ever after. On the other hand, your worst case scenario if he rejected your advances, pushing you aside, walking awy never to be seen again. Now it's all gone you have nothing . Not even the illusion you had so safely guarded those past two years... I really don't see you confronting him till your ready.Right now you don't want those answers bad enough.

[CCRox]

Originally Posted by Buffylo

In some states it is not illegal. It is important to know the age of consent in your state. People REALLY need to read the law before parroting what they think they know because they heard it somewhere before....

This "people" REALLY does know the law and is not parroting what I think I know because I heard it somewhere before. Why have you got to be rude? Is it not better to care about the man's safety and err on the side of caution with just a question rather than assume it's okay and maybe pay heavily later?

I meant no offense and no harm...even said so.

So why you h8in on my comment? I think it is a very valid matter of concern.

[Buffylo]

Originally Posted by CCRox

This "people" REALLY does know the law and is not parroting what I think I know because I heard it somewhere before. Why have you got to be rude? Is it not better to care about the man's safety and err on the side of caution with just a question rather than assume it's okay and maybe pay heavily later?

I meant no offense and no harm...even said so.

So why you h8in on my comment? I think it is a very valid matter of concern.

For the most part the age of consent is 16 in the US. Very few states have 18 as their age of consent, while a few have 17. Can't post links yet, but the info is out there.

Just making an educated guess, but I'd say the OP is from West Virginia, where the age of consent is 16.

Not really hate on your comment, but I hear the stupid "age of consent is 18 everywhere" diatribe all the time, it gets old. No hate meant towards you, dear

[JRexrode]

Thanks everybody for all the post, I appreciate them all. I am aware of the law and the age of consent, which he is 16. This is one of the reasons I fear coming out to him less likely telling him I love him. If I come out and he is not gay he is gonna have a major freak out with all of the sexual things we have done and things will be beyond weird for him. And once again the issues with his dad.

I promise you all this is not purely sexual I have very strong emotional feelings for him and love him deeply. I have not been in this deep in a long time. The thought of having to do things with anyone else kills me inside. I just hope he is feeling the same but I doubt it :/

This is a roller coaster ride where the highs are getting higher and the lows are getting lower. Just the other day we went out to spend the day after I spent the night at his house. We went to the mall together and went shopping. He even offered to buy me a pair of shoes. We rode around the city with the music blasting, dancing, laughing, having a great time. Then we went out to eat and he told me he has the best memories with me We started singing random songs out loud in the middle of Ruby Tuesday. Later on after we ate we went looking at random car lots chasing each other around throwing water on each other. We were laughing hysterically. It really was one of the best night of my life.

He calls me like every evening after football practice to come up and I go up every morning before he leaves. Things were going so well for quite a while. We were seeing each other often. And he is is still very touchy feely. But like always the signs are still mixed.

He wouldn't even let me in the room the other day when he was in the shower. I don't know if is embarrassed because my penis is bigger than his or he was afraid of his parents walking in. He says he is afraid of someone walking in and catching us. But then later that day I seen everything again. He talks about how he wants kids now. He talks about his future wife. But still includes me in his future.

I sent him a message earlier on Facebook telling him I didn't get to stop at is house this afternoon because I had to work late. He was online all evening just about and never responded. I know when I am in love with someone that is the first thing I do. I think he went to stay with a friend this evening. I would love to spend every evening with him but apparently he doesn't really care too much and doesn't feel the same. I never even heard from him this evening. I hate to sound so clingy but he is the one calling me every evening and then just quits.

So it goes from one extreme to another. I know he likes me as a person but does he love me? Does he just want me around because he is bored? The thought of him not loving me and not being in my life tears my heart out. I have seen all of these signs in other guys before, maybe not this extreme but they all turned out to be straight. I hear him say how it is just gonna be me and him going everywhere when he gets his car back together. Oh how I hope its true. He seems genuinely upset when he knows that I am and tries so hard to make me happy.

So do you guys think I should at least come out to him? I am gonna tally the votes and see which one wins.
(Please excuse the messiness of this post I was in a hurry)

[JasonLA]

Life is too short. Is he really worth all that waiting?