Done it -ish

Right so last night was pretty wild, a cuople of my friends staryed the night we were drinking ect ect anyway drunk.

And i know it might seem perhaps too soon, but there was just such a burden on me and soo many questions were going through my head, ill try to explain the situation:

So mandy came round again and we tried again and again and again and i just wasnt happening for me, i just kept on going floppy, , like i would be fine like with the foreplay n stuff but when it came to actually doing the deed i failed.

that brought me to the question of i love mandy but am i in love with her, and it just kept popping up all through the night and i really dont like doing that to mandy, i made her wait 8 months (8 months today actually) adnt then theres the point of im 15 regardless of my sexuality do i want to spend all my time with one person, me and samantha were discusing this and she feels the exact same way about colin as in she doesnt want to be tied down as it were.

right so im upset the vodkas flowing and i wanted to tell claire first becasue i felt she was my best friend ever but then im talking to lesley (by the way there were boys at the party just incase you thought) yeah talking to lesley and shes really supporive of the whole mandy situation and then she tells me that mandy is jelous of the time i spend with other girls, and then i got angry as well so all the emotions are flying at this time, or so i thought, so i take lesley out to my roof tell her its important, so were sitting on my roof with my blanket and she tells me like her deepst secrit, which to my schock was she used to get off with her gril pals when she was at her cousins, then she tells me that on a drunken night her and kaitlyn have lesbian sex i was not expecting it

so i feel ready and i can trust lesley with my life and we were hugging and i was crying and i just sorta came out, and she was like its ok its fine a understand, like no fuss was made atall and she kind of understood me because she has a gay uncle and i think that perhaps explained the me going floppy on mandy am i just not attracted to mandy or is it girls or what?:|

support or comforting words anyone, advice comment what ever please??

Ha fucking ha.

I was right.

I've given you my advice...
Use it wisely.

Fifteen years old, sex, vodka, female confidantes, wild parties, battling women ... all, but two of those are totally out of my league. I don't feel qualified to help at all. I tried being fifteen once, but gave it up as a bad job after only twelve months.

Originally Posted by Jake

Ha fucking ha.

I was right.

I've given you my advice...
Use it wisely.

Originally Posted by Jake

Padlocks and public places FTW!

***are you sure you really wanna take Jakes advice

Um, Robertson, You are obviously an intelligent, sensitive young man.

In my experience, and I am rather happy that I waited till around uni to start EVERYTHING, there is so much going on with you concerning relationship, sexuality, friendship... and I am sure a lot more.

Sounds like there may be a bit of a conscious working here, or performance anxiety or even some find staying hard with a condom on floppy... and ya gotta start the foreplay with it on again.

Then you add alcohol and well... anything can happen/not...

Just take it easy... dont be pressured into anything (that includes pressuring yourself) and try to relax - GOOD LUCK Robertson

***oh, you can always try padlocks in public places

Originally Posted by fjp999

***are you sure you really wanna take Jakes advice

I resent that.

Finish it with Mandy, you are obviously gay, that is why nothing is happening with her. It is not fair on her to continue.

You are only 15, you do not need to tell her why, just say you are not ready for a relationship yet. You may eventually tell her, some girls can take rejection easier if it is because the guy is gay (they do not see it as personal), but yet again others are totally devestated that someone chooses a man over them.
You have already told your secret to one friend. Discuss with your friend how she thinks Mandy would take the news, and act accordingly.

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Finish it with Mandy, you are obviously gay, that is why nothing is happening with her. It is not fair on her to continue.

You are only 15, you do not need to tell her why, just say you are not ready for a relationship yet. You may eventually tell her, some girls can take rejection easier if it is because the guy is gay (they do not see it as personal), but yet again others are totally devestated that someone chooses a man over them.
You have already told your secret to one friend. Discuss with your friend how she thinks Mandy would take the news, and act accordingly.

Yeah don't listen to this fool




You MAY be gay.

but i don't think it probable...


Like i told you, stress.

you were thinking about it too much.
And by the way you described it to me...

(which by the way i hate you for)

you CLEARLY weren't thinking of the fun side of it

Originally Posted by marshlander

I tried being fifteen once, but gave it up as a bad job after only twelve months.

comical stuff marshlander

thanks for the advice bar the randomer, that was a bit harsh and i dont know ill give it one more try see what happens

Third times the charm.

[princealbertofb]

Robertson, honey, I'd like to give you some words of support, but to my mind doing this while being drunk does not help. I'm not surprised you couldn't perform. To be honest, alcohol is not the best ally of sex addicts... It tends to work in the opposite way. It may make tongues loose, but then it also makes you go limp if you've had too much to drink. Smoking and drinking are definitely not the sex performer's friends.
So there's that aspect of things and also the fact that you are still wondering whether you should really give it a go. I think at 15 you have all the time in the world to fall properly in love with the right person. Why are you so impatient? Of you are gay, then you ought to be drooling over some guy, or maybe guys... not Mandy.

[fredv3b]

Originally Posted by Robertson

So mandy came round again and we tried again and again and again and i just wasnt happening for me, i just kept on going floppy, , like i would be fine like with the foreplay n stuff but when it came to actually doing the deed i failed.

that brought me to the question of i love mandy but am i in love with her, and it just kept popping up all through the night and i really dont like doing that to mandy, i made her wait 8 months (8 months today actually) adnt then theres the point of im 15 regardless of my sexuality do i want to spend all my time with one person.

Originally Posted by Robertson

i think that perhaps explained the me going floppy on mandy am i just not attracted to mandy or is it girls or what?:|

Think that really is a good question. It seems to my mind that there are 3 basic explanations for you going floppy:-

1. A combination of alcohol, performance anxiety, concern over your sexuality and other circumstances. I.e. you wouldn't have gone floppy with her at a better time and place.

2. You're just not attracted (sexually speaking) to Mandy.

3. You're just not attracted girls.

Simple as that theory sounds in practice trying to work out which one is true is not quick and simple. I think that it might make things simpler if when you try to work out how you feel about girls (sexually speaking) you don't think about Mandy. You clearly have strong feelings for her (even if its not clear what sort of feelings they are and are not) which obviously complicate the issue when you think about her.

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Finish it with Mandy, you are obviously gay, that is why nothing is happening with her. It is not fair on her to continue.

IMO Anonymous is just wrong, you are not obviously gay. Although as you have admitted yourself that remains a definite possibility. That said I think you have to think about the future of your relationship with Mandy. What do you want from it, are you getting it, if not do you think you will in the future? What does Mandy want from it, if she getting it, do you think she will in the future? I have don't know the answers to those questions, but it may be that you are carrying on a relationship for no real reason, on the other hand maybe you are both enjoying it and should carry on, at least for now. I also think the question of your relationship with Mandy is separate from the question of how you feel about girls in general.

P.S. Also you are only 15 I think it would be no bad idea for you to hold off having sex until you are a little older, perhaps a little wiser, and less confused about what it is you really want.

Originally Posted by Jake

I resent that.

Sorry Jake.

I thought the joke I was trying to make was obvious:

Originally Posted by Jake

Padlocks and public places FTW!

***are you sure you really wanna take Jakes advice

Originally Posted by princealbertofb

Smoking and drinking are definitely not the sex performer's friends.

Speak for yourself, my doodle works just fine thank-you

Originally Posted by Jake

Speak for yourself, my doodle works just fine thank-you

That's not very polite, specially since you are addressing someone who has made it well known on here he neither drinks alcohol nor smokes:

Originally Posted by marshlander

That's not very polite, specially since you are addressing someone who has made it well known on here he neither drinks alcohol nor smokes:

D: HOW WAS II SUPPOSED TO KNOW!!

D:

I hate being impolite.

I like to think my wit brings humour, not uncourtteousnes.