Views of Men who are......

I pretty much agree with Rainbowmum's feelings.

mental disorder or not, he is a vile predator of the innocent and needs to be stopped before he ends up hurting someone.

I could go on, but I don't want to get all preachy and self-righteous so I'll hold my tongue on the rest of my feelings.

[Genersis]

Originally Posted by dfiant

Laws are Laws...and there is no such thing as a 'little bit' of a paedophile...you are either a paedophile or you aren't...if you ARE responsible for the sexual exploitation of minors and children, you ARE a paedophile.

Your friend IS a paedophile...no two ways about it, he may not have had sex with a child, but he is without a doubt looking/watching material of children being sexually abuse...HE IS A PAEDOPHILE.

GIVE HIM THE ULTIMATUM

Pure unfounded speculation.
At least be deccent enough to give the guy you've never met, the benefit of the doubt.

[dfiant]

Originally Posted by Genersis

Pure unfounded speculation.
At least be deccent enough to give the guy you've never met, the benefit of the doubt.

He has confessed to 'liking' BOYS under 10...what the fuck sort of doubt does he deserve?

no way.

There are no degrees of paedophilia...a paedophile is a paedophile...NO DOUBT

I will not apologise for my narrow views when it comes to (potential) harm of any child.

[Nick9]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

If I turn him in and the police check him out and he hasn't done anything, they will just let him go and thats it. I wouldn't have helped him or anything, I might have made it worse for him. So anytime anyone is a pedophile they are a threat to society and should be locked up? I just am not sure if I agree with that. I am sure I will be atttacked because I am not doing anything about it.

I don't think you should do anything. Help him get professional help. He may be a good friend to you, but it is possible that without a professional help he won't be able to resist the urge.
If he hypothetically tells you that he wants to kill himself because he has depression, what will you do?
Depressive person has very limited strength to resist the urge to commit suicide.
So, what would you do? You would probably arrange a professional help for him.

So do it. Before it becomes uncontrollable.

My brother came out and told me that he was a pedophile and was attracted to young boys and I hated him for telling me and wish that he would have never said a thing to me because like 3 weeks later he ended up molesting a child and he got caught in the act by the boys mother and he went to prison for 5 years and then got out and then did it again and again. I keep wondering if I could have prevented him from ever doing anything and hurting the children that he hurt. He sent me letters telling me to come visit him and I never have. He is currently in prison for child molestation and they just keep giving him 2nd and 3rd and 4th chances. I just wish that they would keep him in prison for the rest of his life. I have no clue why he told me and I never asked him, I am not sure if he told me because I was gay and he thought that I had the same desires or what. Its just very strange

[DoubleDiamond]

If he truly has not acted on his desires, he is somewhat more likely to benefit from psychotherapy than someone who has been abusing children.

It bears repeating that there is a HUGE difference between an 18 and 70 year old having sex and an adult abusing the power differential he has over a child. Your friend has a serious mental disorder and, if he doesn't seek help, he's at high risk of committing a heinous crime and severely damaging an innocent child.

I think that if he is not acting on his desires or looking at photos or porn of children engaged in acts with children that he is not doing anything wrong. I think that society has gotten so used to putting people down that have pedophilia desires that we just put them aside like they are monsters and then they think they are monsters and act on those desires because nobody takes the time to understand what they are going through.

Its just like saying that all gay men are drag queens and are going to dress up in a dress. Its just bullshit that we don't try and understand men with pedophilia feelings and help them through this and help them change. Instead we want them dead or get therapy. I mean what will a therapist really do for someone that is attracted to children?

I mean I read articles that say that pedophiles cannot change and don't want to change, yet if you are gay and suddenly you become straight how is that possible? I mean if someone who is a pedophile really wants to change I feel like it is possible. You can bash me for being pedophile friendly but that's just how I feel and I am sick of being one of those judge mental pricks that just acts like everyone else in society.

[mrk2010]

I'm sorry but anything illegal like that is sickening to me and I hope that whatever happens justice will be done. I seriously think this thread should be closed as its just a bit sick.

That is why its a confession room because that person doesn't have any other outlet to talk about this and you want to shut this down because you are uncomfortable with the subject? Then why respond if you are? Wow that just makes no sense at all.

[DoubleDiamond]

I'm beginning to think that there actually is no "friend," i.e., that the writer is the pedophile.

[mrk2010]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

That is why its a confession room because that person doesn't have any other outlet to talk about this and you want to shut this down because you are uncomfortable with the subject? Then why respond if you are? Wow that just makes no sense at all.

Excuse me who the f**k do you think you are? You've came booling through this forum like jonny long penis posting a very controversial and upsetting topic which may effect other members. I couldn't give a fiddlers fart that it's a confession board I think that the subject matter is sick and anybody who does anything against a child is a sick f**k and either needs to be convicted or have the death penalty. You know what doesn't make sense is the fact you are "anonymous" I am sensing that this is a facade and this "friend" may not exist and the truth lies closer to homes.

[Pix]

Just for the record I wasn't saying he should get help so he can change but so he can hopefully control his harmful tendencies. I doubt that his desire can be changed, but I don't judge people by what they feel or desire but how they act on those feelings. Therapists can help with that, including with drugs (granted, I don't know how effective such treatments are as I have no experience with them and don't know anybody who has).

However, he doesn't have to be a slave to his desire, and I know there are some who have these feelings don't want them and fight hard against them and feel terrible guilt when they do act upon them, and to those people I give some pity & sympathy as I see them as cursed more than evil, much like I'd see a werewolf in Buffy or Harry Potter (who have a beast in them that can come out and destroy innocents, but they don't want to be that way and do everything they can to fight against it). Of course if they can't keep the beast under wraps then it's up to others to. And for those who "embrace the beast" well those people have my loathing and hatred.

Hopefully there's no need for me to point out why going after children sexually is completely different than going after adults, and why gays are just as justified in heterosexuals in not accepting acts of pedophilia.

[mrk2010]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

Wow mrk2010 getting a little worked up aren't ya? I am sorry that something bad happen to you when you were a child.

Who is Johnny Long Penis? Is that some kind of stupid no teeth UK thing? Its funny how someone can get you so stirred up so easily, do you have anger problems my friend? does the my friend comment stir you up a little bit?

Well anyway calm down and I really don't care if you think I am the pedophile or not, it seems that anyone that doesn't talk bad against a pedophile is a pedophile themself, wow that is kind of sad thinking. Perhaps mrk2010 is a pedophile and hiding behind all that anger and frustration, keep it real my friend

I beg your f***ing pardon? You the f**k are you to talk to me like that you sick f**k. Sex offenders destroy lives, I know people who have had their lives destroyed because of things like this. You whoever you are are disgusting and I hope you seriously rot in hell. I feel uncomfortable with this thread because of those experiences. And as a matter of fact yes I have had anger problems and I am totally honest about the problems I've had on this forum and I don't have to hide behind a mask and get kicks out of taking the piss and trivialising sex offenders. Whoever you are you are a sick sick individual and I pity you . . . . .

[dfiant]

Anonymous, you post on an extremely controversial topic and you don't expect backlash?

Everything everyone has said is justified and your seemingly defence of paedophilia and your anonimity raise more questions than answer.

People have been touched and the react the way they do to this subject. Like I have said, there are no degrees of paedophilia...you are either a paedophile or you aren't, confess to being a paedophile as a 'FRIEND' then you ARE a paedophile and deserve to be treated with comtempt and disdain.

The way you are acting is absolutely disgraceful, attacking members for having an opinion...PERSONAL attacks are just not on.

Okay I will just admit it then. Its not my friend and its is me and I am a gay pedophile and I knew that nobody would accept me for who I am and I know that people would look upon me as a monster just because I am attracted to young boys. I sometimes wish that I wasn't this way but I am and I sometimes do wish that I was dead and maybe some day soon I will be. I mean I have tried to get help and no therapist wants to see me. I have tried to turn myself in to the police but they say that they can't put me in jail unless I act on my desires with a child.

So how can I get help for this when nobody wants anything to do with me? I am a monster because I have these desires and yet I still am a monster when nobody wants to help me cure myself of this sick desire that I have. I wish 100 times over and over again that I wouldn't be this way, its not as easy as to say I can't be this way anymore. I wish it was that easy.

Call me whatever names you want and treat me like shit because I can't find a way to get help and create a better person for myself. You would have judged me from the start anyway and wouldn't care about me. Who cares that I was molested by a pedophile myself and is most likely the reason that I am a pedophile to this day. I handled this the wrong way, yet I knew that no matter what I was going to be judged and I accept that. God help my soul and I sure would hope that you looked down upon me with pitty.