Just SO FREAKING TIRED OF IT ALL!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

South Carolinia is one of the worst places in the USA to try to live as a gay couple - or for that matter as any human being that isn't white, male, middle class, married (to a woman of course).

Since you are 40 (we are of the same generation) you can look back and recall how bad it was 20 years ago - and use that to put today in perspective.

Yes its been a long, slow war with many battles won and lost, but we ARE better off today than we were 20 years ago even ten years ago. Ten years from now we will even be in a much better place.

Take your husband. He can now openly serve - he couldn't do that a year or two ago.

When things are looking bleak and you feel like shit due to the petty hatred of some low level bureaucrat who will never amount to anything - you should focus on the wins in life. It's called 'counting your blessings'.

It may make you feel better to know that recent polls the general public is more accepting of LGBT than ever before in the USA: [Only registered members can see links. ]

Or it may help you to feel better knowing that our 'losing streak' may be over: [Only registered members can see links. ]

Yes it is hard to stay happy (gay?) and joyful in this world all the time. The little crap and little people love nothing more than to keep our spirits down.

But just remember (and if necessary chant it if it helps) Things are getting better!

[Zet]

Originally Posted by mrk2010

Plus in England if you have a housemate, this could be a friend or family member they have to declare their earnings too, it's all a bit bullshit if you ask me

Heh my brother used to live together with one of his friend and there was no problems what so ever with it, atleast here in Sweden. I would totally agree that it all sounds a bit fishy to me.

I wish you best of luck mate

[dfiant]

The battles we fight now make life easier for how many others in the future????

I'm sad that there are still battles like this that we are fighting and I'm sorry you have come into this situation...but fight the fair fight, the present and the future will benefit

Hello beuax,
Right under the equality law which im sure it is the same over there this woman has NO right to state what she has stated and what you and your husband do is your business not hers... She is paid to process the paperwork not ask questions about your lifestyle so the first thing you want to do is demand for her to be servierly repremanded potential dismissal... Secondly you havent come this far to just throw it away and yes fighting is shit i admit but to be honest if you dont fight for your right then what right do you have? I would recommend taking her on and putting a letter of complaint into her boss and if not happy with the outcome then inform her manager that you are going to be taking legal action against the company and her for the way that this has manifested itself onto someone who is trying to study... Explain that just because you are gay does that mean your not intitled to an education later on in life and deserve to be riddicled by this bitch? I would i would go absoluitely mental about it and walk in and demand to see her manager end of!"

[worknlife]

I hate to hear you experienced that. I don’t understand at what point in time we as people started to place categories on family, relationships and love….and then started to judge people on it. I have yet to run into that kind of situation and to be honest I think that I push my potential partners away because I am afraid of being ridiculed or judged on the simple fact that I am in a relationship with a man. I am an African American and I was asked by a TSA (airport security) how I was able to afford my carry on bag and how I could live in an ’exclusive’ city. Not that it was any of his business but I had to explain to him that I live in my parents house and what I did for a living (I did not make this easy for him). She had no right telling you tax laws and she can be sued for that as she more than likely does not have a license to give tax advice or to consult on tax matters. I have a mortgage, securities and insurance license and trust me when I say a person can’t give advise, suggestions or tell you what is or is not legal unless they have a license in that field. My mother told me once when I was younger “the best way to shut someone up, is to take their money” and that is my suggestion to you. I hope she reaps what she sow’s and you get you just rewards.

[Rainbowmum]

Hello Beuax,
This really pushes my buttons.
I am so sorry that you have been treated that way.
Who died and left her to play God, what a horrible person.

I know you are sick of fighting and in a perfect world you would not have to do so .

Sometimes it seems that nothing is changing but it is ,it really is .
Hang tough mate, it may not mean much , but know that you are loved and respected here among your friends.

"Illegitimi non carborundum".

I am tired of it as well

[Matty71]

Beaux:

That all sounds so horrible!

I am happy though that you have a good Husband, someone to rely on.

I wish you both the best.

-Matthew-

[Mr. Not So Lonely]

Courage my friend Keep fighting for what is right.

And the next time you run into one of these so called Christians use the bile against them the way they do to you.

and Jesus said " Love your god with all your heart all your mind and All your soul... AND LOVE your neighbor AS yourself." LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR MEANS ALL OF THEM

[ManicLewis21]

Is that what she said? I would've ripped her face off and served it to the pigs on a silver dish. Trash like her isn't worth my attention. I hope she simply dies in a car accident begging for her life and asking to see her children only to find out she has lost her children to social workers because she is unfit to be a human on this earth. I really hope you graduate and I HOPE SHE DIES.

sorry if it's harsh, but those quotes kinda sparked a primal side of me.