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My Parents are Awesome
#1
This is gonna be a long story, but I think anybody who would spend the time reading this kind of thing will love it.

So... I had a long rough patch with my mom at one point. Around late middle school, early high school. I kind of hated her for reasons that are now very unclear to me... I guess it was maybe that my parents (especially my mom, who was home more) put a lot of pressure on me involving my school work. Things had to be absolutely perfect, like... Once, I brought home a 93% on a test, and my mom asked why I got an A- instead of an A or an A+. Anyways, I retaliated by being cruel, writing cruel things about her in a journal (which she eventually read), and tearing up old Mother's Day presents (and then feeling extremely guilty).

I didn't actually come out to my parents. They just found out. They spied on me a lot (they were in general, very controlling). One thing that they would do is check my computer history. No, believe it or not, it isn't porn that gave me away. They read posts I made on a forum about my homosexuality. At the time my dad was in San Francisco for work (but he was coming home that night). My mom was crying when she picked me up from a church choir practice, and wouldn't explain why. When my dad came home, they confronted me. My mom mostly cried and asked if it was her fault, and my dad questioned my ability to judge my own sexuality.

For a long time after that, my sexuality was a pretty untouched subject. I was really happy once when my mom asked me if I wanted to apply for a gay scholarship for college, even though I didn't want to. Besides that, I often got quite annoyed at how they would avoid bringing up my sexuality. They avoided the word gay. However, I eventually found out that they had been going to PFLAG meetings (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), had gone to therapy to talk about how they felt about it, and had even read books on the subject.

The final bit of my story involves a recent event, and how I truly know that my parents fully support me.

Over the summer, I went to my grandparents' house with my mom a few times to eat lunch. The last time that my mom and I went (just last week), there was a VERY awkward situation. I'm not sure how the conversation ended up where it did, but my mom and I were treated to my grandma's opinion that gays should not be allowed to marry and most of us are very strange (my grandma does not know about my homosexuality). My mom pretty quickly stated that we shouldn't talk about the subject, and then gave an excuse for us to leave pretty quickly afterwards.

As soon as we got into the car and had started driving away, my mom asked me if I was upset and if I wanted her to talk to my grandparents about it. It was really, really nice (even though my answer to both was no.) I'm sure if my dad had been there he would've given me his support too.

Anyways, I'm sure this is irrelevant to most of you, and pretty uninteresting... But I thought it was a good story. It's also nice to say how much I appreciate my parents because I'm not very good at expressing that to them.

Well! Hope you enjoyed it.
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#2
Your parents are awesome, indeed. My parents are still not convinced with my homosexuality. They're simply confused. My mom believes that some gay men were trolling me to believe that I'm gay. I hope they come to terms with it soon.
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#3
Cutieboy Wrote:Your parents are awesome, indeed. My parents are still not convinced with my homosexuality. They're simply confused. My mom believes that some gay men were trolling me to believe that I'm gay. I hope they come to terms with it soon.
Maybe you should get them a book or find a similar organization to PFLAG and bring them there.

They might just need to hear from other people about how it's a harmless part of people, and perfectly normal.
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#4
Yeah, I doubt they'd be convinced. My mom is very conservative and she claims to know who gay people are and she believes I'm not one of them. My mom would refuse to go to therapy or anything like that.

Now as for a book... I'm going to go and find a book. I'll have it for myself and then show them.
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#5
I totally hate my dad. Not that he beats or whatever. Just for the way he acts around, jokes about anything and purpousedly annoys me all the time. Just for the way that he is a selfish (a words here). Just for the way he is, trying to be like on top all the time, trying to be the male figure. Even if he did change, which he will not, I wouldn't forgive him. I mean...that's it, I hate him and this will only get stronger throughout the years I'm still living with him.

So...you must be a great person to be able to, well...sort of forgive and accept that easily. :]
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#6
Yes .. I think that you are a lucky one, too. Not only because you can talk about being gay in your age.. if your parents are so open minded you have much less Problems at home as others have.
And if your Grandparents someday know that you are gay, they would change their opinion very fast.
And you are a complete winner ..if you hear the first jokes at home about you and being gay.
That reminds me on my mom and my nephew and me having breakfast one day. My nephew ( same age ) read the Text on a milk bottle.. and ask my mother .. Whats pasteurized ? My mother explained ... then he found "homogenized" ..asked my mother... she looks at me... grinning .. I think " mess I´m in trouble"... she answered him : Don´t know what that means ... ask your uncle... he has some "... My nephew : Has what ? My mom: Homo genes....
with such things you have to live, too *g
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#7
Congratulations, Tyke. How interesting that your parents have been in touch with PFLAG and didn't say anything!
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#8
I forgot to mention, wow you have some pretty open-minded parents. Oh yeah and you hating your mother, that's pretty much some phase that most teens go through. I'm glad you now have a positive attitude about your parents. I like that a lot. My ex used to hate his mom a lot and he would write stuff about it over on a forum. He was pretty extreme about it too. Sadly, he should still be (he's your age, but will turn 19 this month)... she's the one who is abusive, close-minded, hypocritical and ignorant. Gah! I should stop it before he finds out I'm discussing this.

Anyway, I love your attitude to yours parents. Way to go! There should be more parents like that in this world. Your supportive parents are cool!
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