11-01-2013, 07:19 AM
Thanks Guys for all the replies.
I do know there are jerks out there.
I started seeing this guy a little over 3 months ago. Initially, all I wanted was to be friends with benefits. After several nights (not necessarily in a row) with him I realized that just being fuck buddies wasnât going to be possible for me and I put an end to the sex. I told him I needed more than just sex, and apologized for having misled him. He told me that if I wanted more than just sex then a more meaningful relationship was ok with him. Nevertheless, the sex really hasnât changed. He has been openly gay since his teens. Therefore, I donât think he has any problem with his own sexuality. He has told me that all the relationships heâs been in involved him satisfying his partner with little regard to his own feelings. He said that since I have come into his life heâs never been more sexually gratified and is perfectly happy with the way things are. He refers to me as his husband and that satisfying him is part of my responsibility. Almost every part of my being says it doesnât feel right. However, there is one little part of me that enjoys the sex even if Iâm not getting what I want and need. That part of me says hold on to what you have. It will get better. The past couple of times weâve been together I did finish first but didnât have the heart to do to him the same thing he does to me. I donât see a happy ending to my dilemma and fear the longer I let this go on the harder itâs going to become to call it off.
Peace, Love And, Mickey
I do know there are jerks out there.
I started seeing this guy a little over 3 months ago. Initially, all I wanted was to be friends with benefits. After several nights (not necessarily in a row) with him I realized that just being fuck buddies wasnât going to be possible for me and I put an end to the sex. I told him I needed more than just sex, and apologized for having misled him. He told me that if I wanted more than just sex then a more meaningful relationship was ok with him. Nevertheless, the sex really hasnât changed. He has been openly gay since his teens. Therefore, I donât think he has any problem with his own sexuality. He has told me that all the relationships heâs been in involved him satisfying his partner with little regard to his own feelings. He said that since I have come into his life heâs never been more sexually gratified and is perfectly happy with the way things are. He refers to me as his husband and that satisfying him is part of my responsibility. Almost every part of my being says it doesnât feel right. However, there is one little part of me that enjoys the sex even if Iâm not getting what I want and need. That part of me says hold on to what you have. It will get better. The past couple of times weâve been together I did finish first but didnât have the heart to do to him the same thing he does to me. I donât see a happy ending to my dilemma and fear the longer I let this go on the harder itâs going to become to call it off.
Peace, Love And, Mickey