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Not into anal sex,really?
#21
Around 60% of gay men do not do anal.

Out of the 40% left I have read research polls which demonstrate that about half those those who are doing anal believe that because they must do it in order to be 'gay' or to live up to the expectations of what being gay is about.

That means around only 20% of men like anal and actually WANT to do it.

Two influences that profoundly affect our group.

Which is the lesser of to evils I have no idea, it's a hard call, thus listing them randomly n not based on importance.

1. Porn: Porn has affected sexuality for the western human being (gay, straight, bi- whatever). all of this body shaving, from porn. go back and look at the 1970's gay porn and see all of the slender, toned and unshaven torsos. Massive muscles and shaves torsos showed up when porn answered the Gay Plague with images of 'uber healthy' males - well game to find out that those infected with HIV can have bodies just like that so that propaganda taught us nothing but did make us all pretty unrealistic about male image.

It also gave us the formulaic and lame sex act of two gay men:

Sucking, followed by fucking, followed by the glazed doughnut (cum shot on the body, face, whatever).

It was porn companies reaching out to the roughly 20% of potential clients that all of this ass fucking was shown. Gay porn always had a limited customer list, so they needed to appease as many gay men as possible thus leading to the formula.

Look at pre-Beta and VHS tape porn (reel porn) and you see a lot more sucking than fucking. This was when porn was tailored for what gay men actually wanted. And yeah body hair, pubes and totally awesome mustaches were also all the rage. Porn changed that.


2. Your Bashers:
Your Bashers call you a fudge packer and always - ALWAYS - bring up anal sex, hemorrhoids, prolapse and all manner of other ungodly stuff. Its the same people that tell us what we must be in other areas, fay (effeminate), hair dressers, promiscuous and lots of other things which we as a group adopted and made our own. 1950's gay is not the 1960's and 1970's gay. We were all about cock-sucking not ass fucking and we kept it on the downlow and few of us were really looking for endless chains of one nightstands.

These two influences have in conjunction with the AIDS epidemic and other pressures molded and made the modern homosexual into what it is today. And its composed of a lot of men who are doing a lot of things they do not want to do because they think that they MUST do it in order to appease the Gay Gods or whatever.

Sadly, we in the community also adopted the 'Law' that gay men can't actually love each other, many a jaded queens spouted that to me in the 80's and 90's, because society told them that. Society still teaches us this each time we are denied marriage. However with the acceptance of marriage gay's are actually starting to move from the 'lets fuck out brains out' mind set to the 'lets settle down and have a married love life' mind set. Which is hell - you decide.


Physically, your arse is not designed to be fucked. Period.

Yes your prostate can be massaged and enjoy it, however being pounded by a hard cock causes you prostate issues. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/scien...-find.html

Your sphincter muscles are not designed to allow a massive invader inside, hell they are not even designed to allow water to go flowing up in ya, thus allowing you to swim without getting a parasite or bacterial enema.

So yeah, it hurts to have your sphincter muscles shoved in the wrong direction, and yes many men cannot and will never adapt to this no matter how much they try.

The arse is designed to signal fullness and that is discomforting in order to get us to go find a potty place so we don't shit all over ourselves, in our beds, or where we eat. We are a species that has some bowel control because fecal matter everywhere is unhealthy. So we respond to a full ass as if its something 'terrible' is coming because yes, something terrible is on its way and we need to take that shit elsewhere.

Yes the prostate can enjoy gentle massage. Not an ass pounding fucking.

Most men (gay, bi, straight whatever) don't do anal because its not comfortable and finding the 'right man' who makes it feel good most likely isn't going to happen.

Be part of the 60% of gay men who freely admit that while you love to suck cock all day long your arse is just too tight, tender, or not adjustable to fucking.
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#22
I came just from reading Bowyn's posts, he's so good at it
are you a journalist or pretty used to writing articles, bowyn?
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#23
Quote:That means around only 20% of men like anal and actually WANT to do it.

Glad to be part of the 20%!!!!
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#24
@Bowyn

I would like to be part of the 60%,but not until I am absolutely sure I don't enjoy anal sex. I don't do it cause of porn influence though,it's more of experimenting in my part,and coincidentally I have a partner now for that.

Quote:Most men (gay, bi, straight whatever) don't do anal because its not comfortable and finding the 'right man' who makes it feel good most likely isn't going to happen.

Unfortunately,I have to agree on this part.

Bad news,our second encounter didn't go well. This time,I was impenetrable! :eek:
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#25
Rareboy Wrote:Glad to be part of the 20%!!!!

Yeah...me too. I love anal and I am certain that I could not be in a relationship with a guy who didn't like it. Although I do other things and enjoy them...anal is the main course for me.
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#26
It was never my thing, despite my ability to pick boyfriends who seem to love it...

You can and maybe should explore it. But if you ultimately conclude you just don't really get into it, that should be ok too.

I've long felt like some sort of freak-outcast because I didn't care for anal. But it's one of those things that people just don't talk about much in this community (not liking it). So it's hard to tell if I'm really in some extreme minority of weirdos or actually in a majority. I never let anyone pressure me into doing it at least. If I had been more slutty maybe that would have happened though.

Do what you like, like what you do!

Oh, I also like Bowyn's post quite a bit Smile
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#27
I like anal sex, but the older I get the less I feel like doing all the prep work (enema, douche, getting relaxed, etc), so I don't do it nearly as often as I used to. I'm very "anal" about anal sex, if I'm not perfectly clean I won't do it.
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#28
JackBoneTX Wrote:It was never my thing, despite my ability to pick boyfriends who seem to love it...

You can and maybe should explore it. But if you ultimately conclude you just don't really get into it, that should be ok too.

I've long felt like some sort of freak-outcast because I didn't care for anal. But it's one of those things that people just don't talk about much in this community (not liking it). So it's hard to tell if I'm really in some extreme minority of weirdos or actually in a majority. I never let anyone pressure me into doing it at least. If I had been more slutty maybe that would have happened though.

Do what you like, like what you do!

Oh, I also like Bowyn's post quite a bit Smile

It's the same thing if you don't like oral....everyone thinks you are a freak. As I worked behind the bar in a gay bar for 20 years..it was one of the topics the guys used to bring up to tease me all the time.....

I don't do oral...can't stand it...don't like receiving it either.....BARF....
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#29
East Wrote:It's the same thing if you don't like oral....everyone thinks you are a freak. As I worked behind the bar in a gay bar for 20 years..it was one of the topics the guys used to bring up to tease me all the time.....

I don't do oral...can't stand it...don't like receiving it either.....BARF....

Wait, no oral??

FREEEEEAK!


:p
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#30
East Wrote:It's the same thing if you don't like oral....everyone thinks you are a freak. As I worked behind the bar in a gay bar for 20 years..it was one of the topics the guys used to bring up to tease me all the time.....

I don't do oral...can't stand it...don't like receiving it either.....BARF....
Which failure of your parental units or childhood trauma is responsible for that catastrophe? Isn't there some therapy you could do?
Maybe it's like anal, if you start small and work your way up....:biggrin:
Bernd

Being gay is not for Sissies.
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