Rate Thread
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
Sex Addict
#1
I really don't know where to turn and I am needing some advice from someone who is the same position as me.

I have been talking with my therapist and he thinks that I am a sex addict, to which I agree. But I don't know where to turn or how to get this fixed. My local town is small and doesn't have a 12 step group or Sex Addicts Anonymous type group.

Here is some background:

I am 28 and I have hooked up about 3 to 4 times a week for the last 10 years, anywhere from Gyms, restrooms, parks, malls, stores, parking lots, hotels, work, craigslist, phone apps, etc. Each time I do this I always have regret and guilt and vow to never do it again. But I always see a trigger and I revert back to my old habits. The problem is I can't eliminate the triggers, because one of them is seeing guys free ball or show a bulge, anytime I see that i get this empty feeling and its almost like I step outside my body and something else has taken control. If I think about a trigger or see one, there is no stopping me. I will go until I find what I want. I have been arrested a few times for hooking up in public and almost been caught be coworkers and family. I have created anywhere from 50+ email accounts over the years because I will create it find what I want and then delete it only to recreate it the next day.

This is killing me inside, because I know its wrong and I want to change, but don't know where to start and don't have anyone to talk to who knows what I'm going thru. The thing that hurts the most is I feel like I have no control, I think about it all the time and it just takes over my life, and until I get off i will not focus on anything else.

Is there anyone out there that has gone through the same thing or is currently that has any advice?
Reply

#2
google "sex addiction support online"

https://saa-recovery.org/Meetings/United...p?state=OK

http://www.psychforums.com/sexual-addiction/

http://www.sexualrecovery.com/?rdnaCampa...wordType=p

Sad to read about your struggle. Hope you'll stay connected here!
Heart  Life's too short to miss an opportunity to show your love and affection!  Heart
Reply

#3
You might look into hypnosis therapy. It's usually the "last resort" when "groups" or "step programs" dont work.
Reply

#4
CCRox Wrote:google "sex addiction support online"


Sad to read about your struggle. Hope you'll stay connected here!

Thank you! I have checked those out, the local group here doesn't fit in my work schedule. Like today I recreated my email acct and started talking to a guy i hooked up with all the time and I want to delete it again, but can't. I feel like I will be losing something if I delete it. I don't know why this takes over my life, I wish there was an outlet I could call when i am having temptations and have someone who can walk it through with me.
Reply

#5
Its really hard what you're going through, I hope you find a way to feel at ease and gain control, I wont use the word "cure" because I have and addiction I struggle with everyday and its tough to cure them 100%, I've tried with mine and once in a while you cave but its better than it was before you got a hold of it, I still to this day have a huge struggle with mine and no therapy or group has ever helped me, I just fight the urge as much as I can. It affects my life everyday all day and nobody can ever understand how something like this can make you feel claustrophobic and very anxious. I really wish you the best and hope you do gain some control over it, just a tiny bit of control can change things greatly like I mentioned been there and still am.
Reply

#6
funguy88 Wrote:I really don't know where to turn and I am needing some advice from someone who is the same position as me.
We've heard the best cure is to stop watching porn and daily pray the Rosary.
Reply

#7
is the problem not bigger than JUST sex addiction?

Is the bigger problem promescuity?

Would sex addiction be so hard to deal with if it was inside a relationship?
Reply



Forum Jump:


Recently Browsing
1 Guest(s)

© 2002-2024 GaySpeak.com