Hi,
In a long term relationship and unsure what to do.
Bf using class b drug that h knows without doubt is causing me annoyance. However he just plods along.....
Beeen known to self-harm also. This can tie in with an argument all over his use.
He turns everything on me as if all is well. A complete disregard for how this is bothering me.
Sex never happens also which is concerning...
Been told what is happening comes under 'domestic abuse' however I can't see it!
If we were not living together I think we would be over. As I would feel more easy ending it for some reason.
Suggestions....
Thanks
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Your BF needs proper medical help, does not sound like he is willing to save himself and you alone cannot deal with all his problems. Tell him how much what he is doing is hurting you and push him to get the help he needs, be direct and straight with him, and make it clear you cannot continue living this way it is no good for either of you. good luck.
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Does not sound like he is willing to listen to you, just sinks back into his old habits. He needs a reality check and proper professional help.
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We're told if you love someone, you stick by them, no matter what. For better or worse, till death do you part.
In many trying circumstances I would agree with this, but not in your situation. This is bigger and more than you can handle, especially with him siding against you, the abuse, and your finances at stake.
I have no doubt you love him and did everything you could. Some people can't be helped, and will only drag you down with them. Save yourself. Walk away. Maybe your leaving will be the wake up call he needs to seek help for himself... or he will continue down his road to ruin.
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What issues do you have with moving out of the sickness?
Life's too short to miss an opportunity to show your love and affection!
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I know this isn't a very popular sentiment.... but sometimes love isn't enough. Love cannot overcome all obstacles. It cannot solve all problems.
Sometimes, love just isn't enough. Period.
Your situation, IMO, is one of those situations. This issue is too big for you alone, and yet your partner refuses help.
It's time to leave. I know it may be hard to do with you living together, etc.... but that doesn't mean it's the wrong move. In fact, from what you say about if you weren't living together it would already be over? It's the only -right- move left.
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