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Still completly confused. Gay, Straight, Asexual, Trans !?
#1
Hey, so my story is kind of strange:

In my teen years i only mastubated to woman and they really aroused me. Also in real life. I was always checking out girls. Then came the porn time and i watched alot of porn. Even more (more times daily i masturbated) when fast internet was out. So i got "bored" of straight porns. I figured out that I also got aroused by gay porn and it was more exciting. So i watched gay porn but also straight porn sometimes. Then I watched Domina porn. Thinking about being the one who gets fucked. And at first i found it really disgusting to look at it but then i kind of got hooked on transexual porn. So thats where i was at the end of my porn career.

I have to say that i was a complete shy kid with social anxiety till i was 24, when i went to canada for a year to face my shyness and change my life. After this i decided to talk to woman and try to figure out my real sexuality. Since im a good looking guy i had some chances and i normaly get semi-errections when i talk to attractive girls. but as soon as it gets further and we land in bed i get pretty quickly bored by what is going on and i dont get a real hard one.

At the same time i had some experiences with transexual "woman" and that was really exciting to me. So the first times i got a real hard-on and i could have sex with them activly.

Then I thought that it might come from my heavy porn consume. So i decided to dont watch porn and masturbate for 90 days. Ok, after I finished I talked to a girl to which i was attracted (just by the looks) and i got a semi-errection just by talking to her. but as soon as it went further and she wanted to sleep with me, there it was again..no arousel and no hard-on

I also had the chance to have sex with a guy sometimes but i never really tried it, because i can tell if a man is good looking in real life but i never REALLY felt the urge to kiss a man or get close to one.

So now im back at watching tranny porn again and think about going to tranny hookers again.

So what do you guys think about my wired case of sexual confusion Big Grin ? And what would you do in my position ?

Thanks for the advice,
Fusion
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#2
First of all, I don't think your sexual confusion is wierd at all, sexual confusion is completely normal. Secondly, if I were you I would just expirament and see what you like most. You'll never know what you like until you give it a try Wink. And don't worry, your not alone at all. I myself am often confused about my sexuality, but just remember, whatever the case is, it's up to you to decide what you want. Hope this helps Smile
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#3
You say you have semi erection with girls and then it's stop when you go further...
You may just be nervous or want it so bad. You also said you were bored.

I am also quite confuse with my sexuality myself, something I think I am straight, some other time, bi and some other time gay. So I understand where you are coming from. I think the best advice I would give would be to stop being nervous finding out what you are and go explore with girls and guys if you can. I do agree with jared!
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#4
Try to nartow it down more. What is it about tranny sex that excites you? Is it the mystery? The danger (by this I mean that the unknown is attractive and sometimes being rebelious is a turn on)? The dick? The dick with the boobs?

For me it was easy. I realised I picked my porn (straight), based on the men. I looked at the men. Bingo, gay, easy. I hope you figure it out, but whatever you find, remember that your sexuality is just a small part of your life.
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#5
Cuddly Wrote:Try to nartow it down more. What is it about tranny sex that excites you? Is it the mystery? The danger (by this I mean that the unknown is attractive and sometimes being rebelious is a turn on)? The dick? The dick with the boobs?

For me it was easy. I realised I picked my porn (straight), based on the men. I looked at the men. Bingo, gay, easy. I hope you figure it out, but whatever you find, remember that your sexuality is just a small part of your life.

It funny you mention this. Before i realized i was gay, looking back i always chose porn based on how hot the guy was vs what the girl looked like. This should have been a sign but i missed it.

Cuddly, i think you just need to be open and explore what it is that you really want.
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#6
Fusion7 Wrote:[...] Then I thought that it might come from my heavy porn consume. [...]

Yes, it's possible.

There are several studies on the negative impact of porn, e.g. all sorts of sexual dysfunction.
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#7
It does sound like you may want to try having some simple, safe sex with a guy. I mean it sounds like you're open to it so you might as well since you're having all of this confusion.

I don't think you need to nail down a label as to "what you are" though. Just figure it out for yourself Smile
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#8
I wish the 'Powers-That-Be' had never allowed porn to be freely accessible via the internet. It confuses people,,, it desensitizes our feelings towards normal sex, it creates fantasies that are not realistic, it makes us feel incompetent in bed with a real-live-person,,, etc.............

Forget the porn completely. Don't have sex with an individual until you feel an emotional attachment to him/her. It's the emotional attachment (love) that dictates what your sexual orientation is, whether that to for a man or a woman or both. It's who your emotionally attracted to, so forget about what gets your ding-dong-a-throbbing for a moment, and concentrate on what type individual (man/woman/both) that gets your heart throbbing.

Hyper sexualized fantasies created by porn movies are like a drug,,, the more you see, the more variation you will want in order to achieve that wild erotic moment of orgasm from a new heightened sexual experience. It's all in the mind, and your brain can't correlate that wild sexual fantasy with the reality of having are real live bonafide human laying beside you.

In other words,,,, cool your jets down, do a little more detoxifying from porn,,, and try to find an emotional connection before having a sexual connection.

Sincerely,
Jim
We Have Elvis !!
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#9
Fusion7 Wrote:So i got "bored" of straight porns. I figured out that I also got aroused by gay porn and it was more exciting. So i watched gay porn but also straight porn sometimes.

This is one of the wonderful side effects of porn in the modern world.

Sadly once you burn out the excitement with one thing and move on to bigger things, well you never recover the excitement of the smaller thing.

Meaning you most likely will never get back into straight vanilla porn.

https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=por...ht+guy+gay demonstrates yours is a sadly all to common.

Watching porn does chemical things to the brain, thus its a chemical addiction. https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl#q=por...+addiction

I strongly suggest you follow both of my links and read a few sites under each searches to get a better idea of what is happening so you can take steps now to curtail future major disaster.
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