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The 3 bands of sexual intercourse
#1
Hokay, I'm going to divulge my theory on the three bands of sexual intercourse. I developed this idea a while back, and it's obviously open for comment and development, but this is how I see it.

BROADLY-SPEAKING there are three main ways of engaging in sexual congress with somebody ... you can either :-

1) Have sex with them - which is what I consider most casual fumbles, one-night stands and sexual flings engaged in which we're growing and developing, from teenage shags to people throwing caution to the wind for a night of pleasure. There is an emotional side to it, but it's oftentimes quite selfish or naïve, insofar as it's perhaps sometimes kinda inexperienced;

2) F*ck them - which is a purely primal and physical type of sexual intercourse where the emphasis is almost solely on the physical pleasure of the act, pretty much at the expense of the emotional and intimate side of it ... people that engage in heavy fetish-related sexual play, as well as pigs and people that have fantasies that border on rape all fall into this category ... in my eyes anyway; OR

3) Make love to them - which is the most intimate and attentive of the three forms of sexual congress, as the emphasis is on the experience and the blending of the physical with the emotional ... lots of direct eye-contact, together with slow and deliberate movements calculated to please the OTHER person as well as yourself, but always being mindful that you're making love to another person, and that you want them to enjoy it to the max.

... what are your thoughts on that ?

Are there other brackets you think I've missed ??

It's just how I see it, but I welcome comments xx

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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#2
Yes ..oh...yes

And it's one we've been talking about on the thread. The sex one has in a relationship when the BIG spark dies and sex becomes....hhmmmm, sex becasue one is horny and you love your partner and they are the one you...have sex with.

Studies show....that for married couples sex, on average, takes about ten minutes. You're both horny, you know exactly (after years of practice) exactly how to pleasure each other) and the sex is more for the sex for sex than real passion. Passion still happends occasionaly, but more often than not it's sex for sex sake. The kind you have while watching porn together or (heaven forbid) fantasizing about Brad and Anjolina.

Don't know what you want to call it....but there it is. #4
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#3
"Hum-drum" ?? "Routine Sex" Wink.

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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#4
I think in a loving relationship you can have all three at one point or another (and maybe more).

When I lost my virginity I wasnt interested in the guy at all except as a teacher. So our first few times were had sex for hours and hours. After clubbing and coming home we would fuck sometimes (maybe the poppers helped at the time). and there were a few times when I am sure that we made love like no others even (for me at least) there were no emotional feelings at all - except for one human to another.

With my BF (we are now very long distance) when we first met we knew we had something for each other. Took a date or two before bedding and the first time was fumbling around and having sex just to learn about each other. It took some communication - verbal and non-verbal - before we were really into the making love thing.

He being Japanese wanted to get into some heavy stuff with ropes but when I pulled the first knot tight he screamed that I was hurting him so the fucking never happened Cry

frank
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#5
Hey, there's another one.

Several times when I was younger (early teens) I got into sexual situations where I wasn't interested in the person at all, but because of nerves and age and raging hormones...I was too scared/nervous/unsure how to say No, while being too horny to want (or unable?)to miss a sexual experience. This happened once with a woman and once with another guy. Both times they were older than me.

A name please?
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#6
Michael Wrote:Hey, there's another one.

Several times when I was younger (early teens) I got into sexual situations where I wasn't interested in the person at all, but because of nerves and age and raging hormones...I was too scared/nervous/unsure how to say No, while being too horny to want (or unable?)to miss a sexual experience. This happened once with a woman and once with another guy. Both times they were older than me.

A name please?

I d call it: Horny shag
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#7
Hee hee,

True....but also somewhat against my will. But being young, horny and inexperienced overroad my ability to say Stop in a situation where I was definatley uncomfortable and where that niavete was in a way used against me.

Not that I have any lasting trauma from the experiences, but I would definaltey not allow it today and it definatley left me feeling a bit off and taken advantage of....even though I got to have a bit of nooky. So there was of course a bit of guilt mixed up with it...didn't want it....did enjoy it, kind of ....didn't stop it...

It's why adults are supposed to know better ;-)
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#8
"Mind Rape" babe Wink.

Ok ok I know it's not - mind rape is something else, but DAMN it sounds the biz. Kidding !!!

If I had to give that a category then I guess I'd call it Mistaken Sex - where you wind up having sex without really WANTING it to happen ... "I just tripped and my d!ck fell into your husband/wife" is, however, most definitely not in the mistaken sex category, before anybody asks ...

Lol2

!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
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#9
i agree and the third one, which is making love, is more appealing to me....
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#10
Don't forget the type of sex you have when you did something wrong, and feel guilty. "Make-Up Sex". lol
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