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05-09-2013, 03:18 AM

Hey everyone I need some suggestions... I've been with my fiancÃ© for 3 years now and engaged for a year. We've had issues in the past with him camping with guys and exchanging pics but that has not happened in about a year and a half. Since that happened (it happened three times) we have agreed that we would not jerk off solo and only together he and I have been fine with that without any problems. My question is about me going to visit my parents for a few days. He will be staying home and I'm stressed out about him relapsing back to doing stuff while I'm gone he said nothing will happen what I should do to help me not worry

05-09-2013, 03:33 AM

have the rents stay with you. yessss

05-09-2013, 03:34 AM

Lol cant irs for my sisters graduation

05-09-2013, 03:49 AM

If you have such insecurity, you need to think a little about how much you can trust him... Sad

.You won't be able to babysit him like this through your marriage. You'll either have to work on this together and build up your trust together, or think about what you're going to do about a relationship you're not happy with.

05-09-2013, 04:03 AM

It's not that I'm not happy I am. Very happy. I guess I'm just not sure how to get over this fear

05-09-2013, 04:17 AM

Okay. Well, you realise that there's like a 100% he'll jerk off while you're gone, right? Talk to him about your concerns, if he gets 'bored' he can always watch porn instead of camming (which would bother me a bit too, to be honest). It's not likely your fears will be relieved if you don't talk to him about it. An alternative could always be to have him go along with you, and stay at your parent's/a hotel while your with your sister during her special moments, but I think it's probably more important to solve the problem more directly, since this will come up again later if you don't.

05-09-2013, 04:21 AM

He says there is a 100 percent chance he won't do it. (I won't do it either). He says he respects my request for him to not do it and he would not hurt me... suggestions on how to not worrying?

05-09-2013, 06:07 AM

Quote: He will be staying home and I'm stressed out about him relapsing back to doing stuff while I'm gone

Hmmm...that's something to build a friendship on hey?

Just saying.

05-09-2013, 06:10 AM

rmf Wrote:He says there is a 100 percent chance he won't do it. (I won't do it either). He says he respects my request for him to not do it and he would not hurt me... suggestions on how to not worrying?

If you are going to worry even if he gives you 100% assurance then you can't possibly love him as much as you say because love is based on trust and from your point of view there is absolutely no trust, you probably have a very good reason not to trust him hence my first gut reaction to answer your question is leave him and find someone you do love and trust Wink

05-09-2013, 06:14 AM

rmf Wrote:He says there is a 100 percent chance he won't do it. (I won't do it either). He says he respects my request for him to not do it and he would not hurt me... suggestions on how to not worrying?

Step 1: smash head against brick wall
Step 2: repeat
Step 3: let sweet sleep take you

Seriously, if I had to go three days without gherkin jerkin, chicken choking, monkey spanking, or generally masturbating, I would bite people. I'm not even kidding, I've really considered biting someone due to sexual frustration.

So if he says he won't, why can't you trust him?