08-19-2012, 10:21 AM
Hi all!
Lately I have been thinking a lot about the way my boyfriend is acting and I wanted to get opinions about his behavior and why someone would act this way. I have become very disenchanted with him and often find myself just plain hating his company.
Since the time our relationship started all he has wanted from me was sex (should have been an early indicator...), and after sex he always acted like I should vanish. He made no effort to hide how much he loved my 'package' but rarely made the effort to like me as a person.
Whenever I would try and talk to him (online or in person) he would never open up about anything. He made the statement that if I knew too much about him I could hurt him; I don't understand this because people in a relationship are supposed to share their feelings. I would always be willing to share my feelings, which he would then use to psychoanalyze me (he's a psych major...) and establish himself as superior to me.
He is incapable of replies that are more than one word long, and most of the time they don't actually say anything. Case in point, his favorite word is 'maybe', because he doesn't like to make decisions about anything. Any conversation with him consists of smiley faces and that's about it - no information to be gained.
I learned that he has actually been pursuing a very active sex life, sometimes meeting two random men in a day without protection! I also learned that this behavior has nabbed him a venereal disease, but he still tells me that all the problems in the relationship are my fault.
I feel manipulated and used by this person, as do some other people who have known him, and I wanted to know what kind of person would act like this? After a while of trying to make someone happy, when you see no results at all and everything is met with a scowl, I decided to stop trying. I've been curious to know what type of person does things like this to people; I want to understand so I know the warning signs for the future.
Thank you, hopefully it wasn't a long read!
Lately I have been thinking a lot about the way my boyfriend is acting and I wanted to get opinions about his behavior and why someone would act this way. I have become very disenchanted with him and often find myself just plain hating his company.
Since the time our relationship started all he has wanted from me was sex (should have been an early indicator...), and after sex he always acted like I should vanish. He made no effort to hide how much he loved my 'package' but rarely made the effort to like me as a person.
Whenever I would try and talk to him (online or in person) he would never open up about anything. He made the statement that if I knew too much about him I could hurt him; I don't understand this because people in a relationship are supposed to share their feelings. I would always be willing to share my feelings, which he would then use to psychoanalyze me (he's a psych major...) and establish himself as superior to me.
He is incapable of replies that are more than one word long, and most of the time they don't actually say anything. Case in point, his favorite word is 'maybe', because he doesn't like to make decisions about anything. Any conversation with him consists of smiley faces and that's about it - no information to be gained.
I learned that he has actually been pursuing a very active sex life, sometimes meeting two random men in a day without protection! I also learned that this behavior has nabbed him a venereal disease, but he still tells me that all the problems in the relationship are my fault.
I feel manipulated and used by this person, as do some other people who have known him, and I wanted to know what kind of person would act like this? After a while of trying to make someone happy, when you see no results at all and everything is met with a scowl, I decided to stop trying. I've been curious to know what type of person does things like this to people; I want to understand so I know the warning signs for the future.
Thank you, hopefully it wasn't a long read!
![[-]](https://gayspeak.com/images/duende_v3_local/collapse.png)
