09-09-2012, 11:48 PM
I've been living with a roommate for a few years now, and we aren't particularly close to each other (maybe because we are both introverted). But recently, I believe he may be gay or bi (like me) and perhaps hooking up may be a good idea.
Due to my psychological issues (anxiety, depression etc...) I haven't had any sex (gay or straight) for about five years now (and before that I had only one long-term straight romance & one brief gay encounter). So I am not somebody for whom these things come easy. And my roommate, who is almost a decade younger (around 20 I think), probably is not a person who can initiate these sort of things either.
Besides sexual lust, I have a more practical problem here:
(1) If I initiate, and my roommate proves to not want it (or not be gay/bi) then he may move out from being offended .
(2) If I don't initiate, my roommate, due to the sexual frustration may find another guy to share the house with.
So it's a classic catch 22 scenario for me: I may lose my roommate whether I do or don't do something.
Now is the fact that he walked into my room in his underwear once, under the pretext of petting one of my cats, suggests he may want to hook up? (Or other instances were we mutually pet cats) How in the world do I found out, without committing an unforgivable faux pas ?! Any indirect ways of probing ?
Due to my psychological issues (anxiety, depression etc...) I haven't had any sex (gay or straight) for about five years now (and before that I had only one long-term straight romance & one brief gay encounter). So I am not somebody for whom these things come easy. And my roommate, who is almost a decade younger (around 20 I think), probably is not a person who can initiate these sort of things either.
Besides sexual lust, I have a more practical problem here:
(1) If I initiate, and my roommate proves to not want it (or not be gay/bi) then he may move out from being offended .
(2) If I don't initiate, my roommate, due to the sexual frustration may find another guy to share the house with.
So it's a classic catch 22 scenario for me: I may lose my roommate whether I do or don't do something.
Now is the fact that he walked into my room in his underwear once, under the pretext of petting one of my cats, suggests he may want to hook up? (Or other instances were we mutually pet cats) How in the world do I found out, without committing an unforgivable faux pas ?! Any indirect ways of probing ?