09-20-2012, 03:43 AM
It seems a little unnecessary to be out to the world. I spoke to a friend from years ago, a boyhood friend who lives an out and proud life style. Not saying that he is wrong for that, more power to him. But I was telling him I was bisexual, he had a few opinions about male bisexuality that I disagree with, but that isn't the point. I told him I didn't see a need to make a big deal about it. Like pride bumpersticers and flags and rainbow bracelets and so on. Not saying that that is wrong, I just don't want to be all about pride. There is way more to me than just my sexuality, I actually feel my sexuality is incidental. But he was telling me I need to be out and proud and "act gay" (what ever the hell that means)
Is there really a need to tell the whole world about it? My friends know, my family knows but is in denial. Why would my boss, or traffic behind me or the clerk at Starbucks need to know? I don't feel I am hiding anything. Am I wrong here? Should I make my persona more indicative of my sexuality? If you ask me, I am out. If someone asks my sexuality I will tell them, but I don't think its necessary to advertise it. I always thought the cutesy gay guy talk and hair styles and the earrings were to tell other gay guys you are gay, so they could hit on you without fear of violence from a potential heterosexual guy.
I don't know about all of that business.
Is there really a need to tell the whole world about it? My friends know, my family knows but is in denial. Why would my boss, or traffic behind me or the clerk at Starbucks need to know? I don't feel I am hiding anything. Am I wrong here? Should I make my persona more indicative of my sexuality? If you ask me, I am out. If someone asks my sexuality I will tell them, but I don't think its necessary to advertise it. I always thought the cutesy gay guy talk and hair styles and the earrings were to tell other gay guys you are gay, so they could hit on you without fear of violence from a potential heterosexual guy.
I don't know about all of that business.