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The Gay World
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There are numerous stereotypes about homosexual men. If you disregard the flamboyant thing there are still plenty of prejudices left regarding promiscuity and superficiality; the kind of stuff you hear over and over.

Recently I'm beginning to realize that these generalized ideas are upheld not only by heterosexual homophobes, but also a lot of gay people themselves. Recently I've been talking to this gay guy I met on a site sort of like Gayspeak but for Swedish people only. He's 25 and after we had seen each other a few times he started dropping comments like "I wish I had come out at your age, I feel like I've missed so much", to which I obviously replied "Well, you're 25. You have many years of youth left, isn't it a bit too early to hit a mid-life crisis?"

He went silent for a while and then said "In the gay world, I went from youth to middle-age years ago". This made me think because it's not the first time I hear similar sentiments. Whether it be at a gay bar, or just walking past a pride parade, whenever I meet other gay guys aged 25-30 they somehow hint at feeling old already. I also remember when I registered on the aforementioned site (with more than 100 000 Swedish LGBT users) at 16 I would get 20+ messages every day from men in their 40's and 50's enquiring about sex. It got so bad I had to delete my account in disgust. I mentioned this phenomenon in a conversation with my ex (at 18) and he told me that a lot of gay Swedish teens apparently use the site for hook-ups, but once they turn 20 or so interest in them, even as nothing but sexual objects, begins to kind of fade.

Of course there are many exceptions, but apparently a farily substantial amount of gay men seem to fetishize the teenage body even as they grow into their middle ages and beyond. At the same time there's a substantial amount of gay teens who place ridiculously high demands on appearance; expecting their partners and one-night-stands to look like boytoys taken out of a porn flick.

Does this fairly cynical perception of the gay world match anybody else's view? I'm not saying I agree full-heartedly or anything but it bothers me when there appears to be a phenomenon that makes perfectly handsome and young 25-year olds feel too old to be desirable. That makes men feel like they lose the only purpose of existence with the decay of their bodies. That makes men fetishize bodies that are yet to be legal. I can't help but wonder how the guy I've been seeing will feel in 15 years.

I've always been sort of distanced from the idea that youth has to necessarily be the best part of life, since I enjoy so many things in the world that aren't related to the condition of my body. I can't even imagine the angst I would face in a few decades if I only saw my value as a sexual object...
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The Gay World - by HumbleTangerine - 07-28-2014, 11:35 PM
The Gay World - by Adam - 07-28-2014, 11:56 PM
The Gay World - by HumbleTangerine - 07-28-2014, 11:59 PM
The Gay World - by Aike - 07-29-2014, 12:02 AM
The Gay World - by Cuddly - 07-29-2014, 12:12 AM
The Gay World - by Muceti - 07-29-2014, 12:47 AM
The Gay World - by MikeW - 07-29-2014, 12:54 AM
The Gay World - by CellarDweller - 07-29-2014, 01:40 AM
The Gay World - by 50Plus - 07-29-2014, 01:44 AM
The Gay World - by Jake - 07-29-2014, 01:50 AM
The Gay World - by Adam - 07-29-2014, 02:05 AM
The Gay World - by East - 07-29-2014, 02:27 AM
The Gay World - by Buzzer - 07-29-2014, 02:39 AM
The Gay World - by deepu69 - 07-29-2014, 05:01 AM
The Gay World - by ExpatBrit77 - 07-29-2014, 08:35 AM
The Gay World - by Adam - 07-29-2014, 09:28 AM
The Gay World - by Bluelight - 07-29-2014, 03:46 PM
The Gay World - by Bowyn Aerrow - 07-29-2014, 04:21 PM
The Gay World - by Virge - 07-29-2014, 04:53 PM
The Gay World - by Buzzer - 07-29-2014, 05:34 PM
The Gay World - by bilkiba - 07-29-2014, 05:50 PM
The Gay World - by HumbleTangerine - 07-29-2014, 06:53 PM
The Gay World - by Humeinator2 - 07-29-2014, 08:34 PM
The Gay World - by Bowyn Aerrow - 07-29-2014, 11:46 PM
The Gay World - by Buzzer - 07-30-2014, 12:14 AM
The Gay World - by ETOTE - 07-30-2014, 02:11 AM
The Gay World - by Pix - 07-30-2014, 03:26 AM

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