My boyfriend, me and a cat.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has became totally crazy in the last time. He's always been a big animal lover, but now he's obsessed with the thought of having a cat. We're living together and I have a different opinion about it. I've never had any pets and I don't want to have any pets. I like animals but I don't want them to make a mess in my living place. At the moment he doesn't work and is looking for a job and we don't have a lot of money which means we cannot afford to feed one more mouth. And it surprises me that he doesn't understand it. Every day he shows me photos of kittens that people are giving away for free. I offered him some other option - there are animal shelters in the place where we live, where you can meet a lot of animals, take dogs for a walk and there are also a lot of cats there. I told him - feel free to go there, spend there as much time as you like, pet all the cats if you wish, but don't bring any home. However he said that it's not the same. We started to have arguments because of this and eventually I told him that if he brings any cat home, we'll have a very big fight.

Now the last few days he was very quiet and huffy. He almost didn't talk to me. When I asked him if he's still upset about that cat thing, he didn't give a direct answer. However yesterday, when I came home from job, he told me that he has been to that shelter I advised him and he has found a wonderful cat there that has been abused and hurt by the previous owner, and he's taking it home whether I want it or not. We had the big fight I was talking about before, I told him that I'm not going to take care of the cat and he was like "well, then f.ck you". It felt like that creature is more important to him than I am.

The day when he promised to bring it home, is tomorrow. We're in a very big argument, I hate it when he doesn't take my wishes into consideration. I tried to help him with his animal love - he can meet them everyday. Why is it so important to have one home, I don't understand? And I also don't understand what to do now. I love him after all.