Friends with ex-boyfriend.

[rroepcke]

Hey guys,

I've been seeing this guy for about six months now and so far it's been pretty bumpy trust-wise, we've resolved all of these issues and made changes. I love him an incredible amount but there's a small issue I can't seem to get over and want to post about it.

He is friends with all of his exes and ex-FB's - I don't understand it. Anyway this is about one ex in particular - this week he went out to dinner with his most recent ex (he only has three and quite a few more ex-FWB/FB's). I do not trust this ex at all, he cheated on my partner when they were together with his current boyfriend and from what my partner has told me appears to be a not very nice person. I have outright asked to meet him because I've met one of his other exes and we got along well and are now friends, but every time my partner asks him he says 'not interested, I don't care about meeting him and I don't want to know him'. I think it's incredibly suss and that the ex has some sort of dodgy agenda.

I brought this up with my partner and he told me outright to deal with it - I think he thinks it's more jealousy than anything but it's not - I want him to have friends and friend/alone time and I'm happy to be accommodating with those sorts of things - the thing I'm not comfortable with is not being able to know this guy and see the way that they interact with each other which would put me at ease.

I also have more questions to ask about the ex - I'm fairly sure the ex hasn't told his current boyfriend that he's back in contact with my partner, and they only talk via snapchat chat, which is adding fuel to my suss-fire (haha) because that way there's no record of the conversation. I think I need to think of a way to ask these kinds of questions without making my partner feel attacked.

And yeah there is definitely some jealousy in there along with a couple of trust issues - I don't want my partner to fall for this guy again (not just for my sake but because I think the guy is a player) and also unfortunately (because I have a crazily active imagination) after the dinner he came over to my house and generally we are pretty sex crazy with each other and he didn't want to (and hasn't all week, and just cancelled our standing friday plans) I don't know if i'm being paranoid or if something is up - I guess I would like some advice on the random jumble of feelings above!