11-26-2008, 11:29 AM
Well done! 
That is such good news. 
You have probably achieved the hardest thing that is ever going to be expected of you. I'm tearing up too just thinking about what you have written. Your mum and dad sound like really good, caring people. That is no more than we should expect and hope for from our parents. Like fjp999 I think you should be REALLY proud of yourself. 
You have probably thought about this, but don't forget that you have had a long time coming to terms with your sexuality. This is another milestone on the journey. But if your conversation with your father was really the first time he had been forced to confront it himself, you have the advantage. Now he needs time to deal with this news and the time to talk things over with you and your mum to begin to make sense of it for himself. He and your mum are going to have to change a lot of things they had thought about and hoped for for their own futures (grandchildren, for example, are no longer to be taken for granted).
Of course things feel a little award at the moment, but this will soon pass. Your mum and dad love you and they will support you. I think it is amazing that your dad offered to attend the meeting with you. That shows real strength in my opinion. Of course the stuff about turning boys gay is nonsense, but it is still very common in popular collective consciousness. Now it is an opportunity for all of you to learn some facts. You could do a lot worse than get your mum and dad to check out the John Barrowman YouTubes ("The Making of Me - John Barrowman"), which I have mentioned several times on here. He examines the current scientific thinking on the genetic origins of same-sex feelings and nowhere is there any credible literature saying that a person's sexuality can be turned.
Your next job is to go to the meeting and make some new friends with whom you can relax and enjoy being yourself. This really is the first day of the rest of your life
Good luck ... SO proud of you
That is such good news. You have probably achieved the hardest thing that is ever going to be expected of you. I'm tearing up too just thinking about what you have written. Your mum and dad sound like really good, caring people. That is no more than we should expect and hope for from our parents. Like fjp999 I think you should be REALLY proud of yourself. You have probably thought about this, but don't forget that you have had a long time coming to terms with your sexuality. This is another milestone on the journey. But if your conversation with your father was really the first time he had been forced to confront it himself, you have the advantage. Now he needs time to deal with this news and the time to talk things over with you and your mum to begin to make sense of it for himself. He and your mum are going to have to change a lot of things they had thought about and hoped for for their own futures (grandchildren, for example, are no longer to be taken for granted).
Of course things feel a little award at the moment, but this will soon pass. Your mum and dad love you and they will support you. I think it is amazing that your dad offered to attend the meeting with you. That shows real strength in my opinion. Of course the stuff about turning boys gay is nonsense, but it is still very common in popular collective consciousness. Now it is an opportunity for all of you to learn some facts. You could do a lot worse than get your mum and dad to check out the John Barrowman YouTubes ("The Making of Me - John Barrowman"), which I have mentioned several times on here. He examines the current scientific thinking on the genetic origins of same-sex feelings and nowhere is there any credible literature saying that a person's sexuality can be turned.
Your next job is to go to the meeting and make some new friends with whom you can relax and enjoy being yourself. This really is the first day of the rest of your life
Good luck ... SO proud of you
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