Differences in relationships

[Darius]

You described a major challenge in most relationships.

I'm seeing a trend where people date a carbon copy of themselves because it's...easier. Having hobbies and common interests is a quick way to bring folks together.

Staying together is really what matters...
Growth and dynamics seems to keep relationships solid.

Personally I would never date a carbon copy of myself.. it would really end in battling egos and competitiveness.

^^^^^
Some couples dig that sort of stuff..

CorsacReborn..
I love your post.

I agree completely with this. For me, I would rather date someone quite different from me rather than a cookie cutter of myself. Someone else said it depends from couple to couple but I think it is from individual to individual. In any kind of relationship we have to compromise and change. The individual makes the change. It's a give and take. It would be immature not to. When I look at my circle of close friends, I see people with whom I share certain commonalities but also many differences. I like it that way.
I don't know how it would work out, however, if the two people had absolutely nothing in common.

I was dating a guy that I really liked but he was always pretty passive. While he was always ready, willing and more than able to do what I wanted, I preferred him to take the lead some of the time. It seemed to go against his nature even when I talked to him about it. It was the same with sex, he was very sexual but I always had to initiate. I got used to that, but one day in the shower, he pushed me hard up against the wall, grabbed my dick and kissed me hard, then told me "this is how it is going to be". It was some of the best sex. He actually began to be less submissive after that in the rest of our lives, too. I think we grow in relationships.