Asexual... maybe? Advice appreciated.

[Anonymous]

So... I've recently come to terms with the fact that I might be asexual. I mean, I'm not completely sure... but the more I think about it, the more it makes sense. I've always identified as gay and I've definitely felt attraction to men... but it's never been sexual. I've had sex once and, whilst I didn't hate it, I didn't like it. I mean, I know I could do it again... but it wouldn't be for my own sake, it would be something I'd endure for the sake of a partner.
As stupid as it sounds it never really occurred to me that sexual desire was an important part of what I considered to be my sexual orientation. I've had intense romantic feelings for men... but my ideal relationship would be one without sex. I just want someone to spend my time with, get to know deeply and just... lie next to, I guess.
I suppose my question is this. Assuming that I am indeed asexual as I suspect... is there still a place for me in the gay community? I guess I'm worried that if I "come out" as an asexual I'll be seen as an outsider... and I'm also a little worried that accepting the fact might be equivalent to resigning myself to a life without love. Whilst I could, as I previously mentioned, go through with sex for the sake of a partner, it's not something I could bring myself to go through indefinitely...