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Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him?
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Suicide Attempt
I work up yesterday morning to find my boyfriend lying outside my room on the floor in the hallway. He was fully dressed with shoes on. I thought perhaps he simply passed out from exhaustion, which he's done before--he was coming home late Friday night from a 2 hour drive.

However, I tried to wake him up, as he shouldn't have been on the floor like that. I then noticed there were two knives, one under each of his arms. That's when I knew he had attempted suicide in some fashion. Thankfully he did not use the knives.

Instead, I found an empty prescription pill bottle underneath him. It appeared that he attempted to overdose on the variety of medicines he receives for his mental conditions.

I called 911 and the EMT told me it was the right call. They took him away to the ER at a local hospital and he has been there since.

Background

My boyfriend had decided to move on from our relationship about a week and a half ago. He was living with me in my apartment, so we agreed that we would keep things as they were until he left for a new home. We had been living together for almost a year, so it was a serious decision that took him a few months to make. He had been searching quite often, and I think had been very desperate to have his own place and move out. The place he found was almost an hour drive away and would have cost him a significant amount of money. For context, he comes from a poor family and didn't really have any money.

We both took our turns of crying over the break up that past week, and while I made sure to let him know that I didn't want him to go, I tried to remain supportive of his decisions, and help him out, as he had never gotten his own apartment before (lived at home and then lived with me).

This past Thursday, one of his close friends that lives about 2 hours away visited and offered him a room in his apartment. My boyfriend was happy about that, as he'd essentially be living with a good friend and also not paying much or any in rent.

He was in a good mood Friday morning when I left for work. The next time I saw him was Saturday morning when he had overdosed, and obviously something happened between Friday and Saturday to convince him to attempt suicide. He has attempted suicide in the past as well.

How do I help him now?

He is in a hospital now and has called me a few times asking me to get him checked out. The thing is that he wants me to lie to the hospital and say that I'm going to watch over him 24/7 to ensure he won't hurt himself again AND that I'll be taking him back to his family's home.

His plan was to move out Monday to his friend (2 hours away).

I am very worried for a few reasons:

1) I cannot actually protect him from himself. I failed this time, and as I don't know why he attempted suicide, what would stop him from doing it again?

2) I would be responsible if anything happened to him after I checked him out, saying that I would be with him.

3) He's going to be very far away with a friend who has good intentions but is not very mature. I'll be unable to protect/watch him obviously.

Needless to say, he was very upset when I was indecisive over the phone. Because I want to help him but I have no idea what I actually should do, if anything. He is worried the hospital will keep him for a month or longer.

Any advice also on things I should avoid asking/saying when speaking with him would be great too (to avoid triggering / blame, etc).
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Messages In This Thread
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by sethmachine - 07-31-2016, 04:07 PM
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by Gideon - 08-01-2016, 01:50 AM
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by Cuddly - 08-02-2016, 01:07 AM
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by matty7 - 08-02-2016, 08:40 PM
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by Darius - 08-03-2016, 12:11 AM
Boyfriend attempted suicide - how do I help him? - by Confuzzled4 - 08-03-2016, 03:09 AM

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