09-17-2016, 04:25 AM
Hi everyone, I'm new here.
I've been single for all my life. Never had a boyfriend, never had sex, so I'm pretty much clueless as to how an inexperienced guy like me can find one in college. I know desperation isn't attractive, but honestly I'm pretty much at the point where I'm super desperate for a boyfriend, as in I NEED a man as soon as possible or else it's the end of the world sort of feeling. Like, I'm rushing to be in a serious long-term relationship with a guy that can give me all the love and security that I've always needed.
I have a tendency to scout around college campus to see if I can spot any "potential mates" that might be gay/bi, but of course when I do see one that I feel might be gay, I chicken out at the last minute, and when it's too late I feel nothing but regret for not making a move. For me to approach a random guy takes so much courage. Like, what am I supposed to say to him without looking awkward? What if he thinks I'm ugly? What if he's actually straight? What if he rejects me? There's so many "what if's" popping in my mind, it's giving me so much anxiety.
Now, on the other hand, I haven't yet tried the LGBT clubs that are available in my college because they only have it on Mondays, which doesn't fit with my schedule as I only have classes Tuesdays and Thursdays. Plus, I don't think any of the guys in my classes are gay, which is unfortunate.
What's a lonely guy like me to do? How do I even get a boyfriend? I don't want to go on dating websites because it kinda scares me, so college seems to be my only option at this moment.
I've been single for all my life. Never had a boyfriend, never had sex, so I'm pretty much clueless as to how an inexperienced guy like me can find one in college. I know desperation isn't attractive, but honestly I'm pretty much at the point where I'm super desperate for a boyfriend, as in I NEED a man as soon as possible or else it's the end of the world sort of feeling. Like, I'm rushing to be in a serious long-term relationship with a guy that can give me all the love and security that I've always needed.
I have a tendency to scout around college campus to see if I can spot any "potential mates" that might be gay/bi, but of course when I do see one that I feel might be gay, I chicken out at the last minute, and when it's too late I feel nothing but regret for not making a move. For me to approach a random guy takes so much courage. Like, what am I supposed to say to him without looking awkward? What if he thinks I'm ugly? What if he's actually straight? What if he rejects me? There's so many "what if's" popping in my mind, it's giving me so much anxiety.
Now, on the other hand, I haven't yet tried the LGBT clubs that are available in my college because they only have it on Mondays, which doesn't fit with my schedule as I only have classes Tuesdays and Thursdays. Plus, I don't think any of the guys in my classes are gay, which is unfortunate.
What's a lonely guy like me to do? How do I even get a boyfriend? I don't want to go on dating websites because it kinda scares me, so college seems to be my only option at this moment.