09-26-2016, 06:31 PM
It happened to me both ways.
Friends, that I would consider my best friend, but for who I've only played a minor role. Or other way round, one of my friends, considers me as close as a family member, which is really not what I feel for her. She would say "I love you" (there's a German equivalent that is not used for romantic relationships) and send me hearts on FB, and I feel bad for not responding the same way, but I just don't feel more for her than a pretty good friend, however not my best friend.
Rightnow I don't have a best friend, I really miss that feeling, but it seems like the people I once considered best friends have moved on, got partners, and thus naturally friends become less important. Or let's put it this way, when I know someone has a partner, I'm more likely to "not bother" them.
I mean it's natural, not everyone can like each other equally strong. Many friendships are so uneven that A might mean the world for B, but B is only a remote acquaintance for A....
What do you think about that? Any experience? When should one stop consider someone a close friend?
Friends, that I would consider my best friend, but for who I've only played a minor role. Or other way round, one of my friends, considers me as close as a family member, which is really not what I feel for her. She would say "I love you" (there's a German equivalent that is not used for romantic relationships) and send me hearts on FB, and I feel bad for not responding the same way, but I just don't feel more for her than a pretty good friend, however not my best friend.
Rightnow I don't have a best friend, I really miss that feeling, but it seems like the people I once considered best friends have moved on, got partners, and thus naturally friends become less important. Or let's put it this way, when I know someone has a partner, I'm more likely to "not bother" them.
I mean it's natural, not everyone can like each other equally strong. Many friendships are so uneven that A might mean the world for B, but B is only a remote acquaintance for A....
What do you think about that? Any experience? When should one stop consider someone a close friend?