Looking For Some Advice...

[fredv3b]

Here's my tuppence worth..

I have a few questions for you to ask yourself. How was your sex life in the first year? How did it come to and end? Do you have any form of sexual contact at all? The answers to those may well hold a clue to the underlying problem. Also how does he feel about the situation? Even if you can't find the precise reason, does he want to have sex with you but feels he can't or does he lack the desire? I agree that communication is the key, however it may be that he feels that the 'stakes are too high' for him to be able to talk to you about it. Perhaps it might help if he talked to someone else about it, a friend, maybe even a professional counsellor? My only other thought is that you should try as much as possible to reduce the amount of stress and expectation he feels about sex especially from you, try to avoid the situation where you want sex, he knows you do, he knows he can't so he avoids any sexual contact (so things can't go beyond where he might feel comfortable) and similarly avoids the conversation going anywhere near sex.