02-09-2017, 11:05 PM
ShiftyNJ Wrote:I have to disagree with your friends, bud. Biggest lesson learned in gay dating: Remove the neon-pink, blinking "LOOKING" sign. If you and this dude enjoy each other's company, focus on that, and on being fun to be around, instead of trying to categorize it or take to it to the next level before either of you is ready. Guys, especially when trying to get out of a bad situation, will back away if they feel like you're trying to pin them down.
If he's stated he's not ready for something serious, take that at face value, and if you enjoy being around him enough to do so on his terms, have at it. But too heavy, too soon is a buzzkill. If more is meant to happen, it will.
I have to say I think you're pretty well spot on. I think guys are generally bad at talking about feelings and I think guys also tend to get too excited.