Gay or straight?

[rich4421972]

 Now, I wonder if I completely missed that he is gay. ?? Thoughts? (I typed quickly, sorry if confusing.)

I would look at the dynamics of your relationship. Was he diagnosed as a sociopath or was that your conclusion? It not possible to know someone's orientation by traditional indicators (is he femme, straight-acting, have a certain way of laughing). Would you accept him if he is gay? Do you harbor bad-will or have some schadenfreude for his current situation? You've asked some very deep questions and some of them don't have answers. Please don't blame yourself for not "seeing" something that was invisible to start with. Best wishes