10-06-2010, 08:39 PM
Hello, Justaguy,
I feel, as probably others do, that you are lucky to be able to state the question now at such an early (ish) age... For some of us being gay wasn't even an option and it took many more years of introspection to realise what made our hearts (and our dicks) tick.
You should allow yourself to have both experiences, and remember that being gay does not mean you cannot have children. If you are bisexual, you ought to be able to enjoy adventures with both sexes indifferently, but I guess that then, it's the person that counts over sexual preference (which you state, at the moment, as being for waking up in a man's arms).
It takes many years of soul searching and self exploration to come to any one conclusion, so maybe, for the time being, and since you are, after all, only 17 and not too experienced, you should let the labels rest and just try experiencing what feels right (as others have said).
However, bear in mind two things:
1) your sexual safety (with man or woman, condoms are a requisite still. That way you not only protect yourself, but also your future partners, whoever they may be),
2) Consider what your options are in whatever environment you are living in (I mean school, family, religious group if any, social environment (small town, village, city), etc) because like any person that you choose to marry or partner, there will always be the family to take into account (theirs and yours), and your social envitonment to contend with.
Good luck with finding out who you really are...
I feel, as probably others do, that you are lucky to be able to state the question now at such an early (ish) age... For some of us being gay wasn't even an option and it took many more years of introspection to realise what made our hearts (and our dicks) tick.
You should allow yourself to have both experiences, and remember that being gay does not mean you cannot have children. If you are bisexual, you ought to be able to enjoy adventures with both sexes indifferently, but I guess that then, it's the person that counts over sexual preference (which you state, at the moment, as being for waking up in a man's arms).
It takes many years of soul searching and self exploration to come to any one conclusion, so maybe, for the time being, and since you are, after all, only 17 and not too experienced, you should let the labels rest and just try experiencing what feels right (as others have said).
However, bear in mind two things:
1) your sexual safety (with man or woman, condoms are a requisite still. That way you not only protect yourself, but also your future partners, whoever they may be),
2) Consider what your options are in whatever environment you are living in (I mean school, family, religious group if any, social environment (small town, village, city), etc) because like any person that you choose to marry or partner, there will always be the family to take into account (theirs and yours), and your social envitonment to contend with.
Good luck with finding out who you really are...
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