Finally got around to joning

[Dville118]

Perhaps she still has the ideas and values she was brought up with, but isn't prepared to reject her son over them?


It seems that your lack of dating women is beginning to worry him. While I, generally speaking, would not agree with never telling your father, you need to choose the time carefully. Perhaps waiting till you have found yourself a good man and are happy with him? You would then be successful, happy and whatever stories he may have heard regarding endless casual gay sex clearly don't apply to you. You may be in a better position to convince him, not to regard your homosexuality as a personal failure, and perhaps to see you success and happiness in life as a personal success (even if it wasn't quite what he had in mind).

I think you're right on both accounts.

My father has said things like "well the only thing that's important to a father is that his son is happy." He's actually said the word "partner" before to me which is also a pretty big indicator.

He flat out asked me if I was gay about 2 years ago. At the time I was in denial so I said no.

in fact I've been in denial for a very long time. I was one of those hyper straight I'm only saying this for myself types that would randomly say "man I sure do love women!" .. for seemingly no reason. guh.. what a terrible existence.

Yea, ya know that's one thing that I actually joined this place for.. to help me find peace of mind in the "gay community" in so far as getting away from the popular culture image of homosexuals.. casual gay sex, rampant diseases etc. I was raised to believe in the traditional family and was taught abstinence and.. for obvious reasons.. have adhered to it's principles. I considered myself an average non-church going christian. Now all of a sudden of sorts.. that religion that was supposedly all inclusive now says I'm an abomination, a sinner and an insult to god.. and.. my abstinence that was supposedly so important is not unachievable thanks to state law.

At any rate.. I still want to be in a monogamous relationship and pursue the normal "boy meets boy" kind of thing.. I want nothing to do with "rent boys" or adult ads on CL or any of those types of things.. it's just deplorable!.. and tbh has gotten me down about the community that I am inevitably a part of.