Painful anal sex

[ridin_solo88]

Hi guys! Ok, so i am with my bf for 1 month now and we havent had anal sex. Hes top and I haven't tried it before. I've been fingered and i've attempted using dildos. But its so painful. The pain is not a stretching kinda pain, but more of like a very sensitve feeling. The kinda feeling (brace yourself for the gross part), you get when you ate extremely spicy food or when you are having a bad tummy ache. I dont know if there are other guys who feel like this. But more lube doesnt quite help in this case. Also, for me i am fine not having sex but for him penetration is important.

I have a couple of questions that im hoping you guys could help me with:

Is there a chance that i am not meant to enjoy being penetrated?

Can your partner with a big penis damage you anal tissues or generally harm you?

Also, how does it feel like when being penetrated? Is it a good feeling? Isnt it better to fuck than to get fucked cos even though the prostate gland can be better stimulated from the rear, wouldnt the front be the one that makes you attain the ultimate orgasm?