12-21-2010, 12:03 PM
Hi Techno,
yeah I can relate to a lot of your setting here, this was slightly similar to my way of coming out; was going to a lot of parties and hiding crushes, and every so often I'd let slip with more than I should have done.
You sound like you have really strong feelings for your buddy, and I know how much this hurts when you feel there's nothing you can do about it. You may have peed in the pool a little bit with coming on so strong to your best bud and his boyfriend, but I really don't blame you; I've done X and shrooms respectively and I know the sort of frame of mind they can put you in, no inhibitions and very tactile responses.
You're about to do the hardest part - your first 'outting' ... there's no easy way to do it other than with someone you trust implicitly, and that you read into their background to present it the best possible way. For me I kinda said "you know that person I'm seeing... it's a guy" then you just sorta wait for the response. The odd thing is you normally get some confession in return, like my mate Pete "that's okay, one time I did so-and-so" it's kinda funny.
*sighs* I think this is one of those where you need to sh*t or get off the pot (sorry for being crude but it seemed apt here) ... there's sadly a good chance you'll see less and less of him and things will start to drift. I'm also hesitant because it sounds like you both have something pretty special that you want to keep throughout your life. Having all those feelings built up means you're likely to tell him 'too much' , when honestly I think small confident chunks of honesty would work wonders.
If I'm reading this right - He's dated at least one guy, so I can imagine this wouldn't be a big issue for him.
Hope it works out dude, feeling for ya there.
yeah I can relate to a lot of your setting here, this was slightly similar to my way of coming out; was going to a lot of parties and hiding crushes, and every so often I'd let slip with more than I should have done.
You sound like you have really strong feelings for your buddy, and I know how much this hurts when you feel there's nothing you can do about it. You may have peed in the pool a little bit with coming on so strong to your best bud and his boyfriend, but I really don't blame you; I've done X and shrooms respectively and I know the sort of frame of mind they can put you in, no inhibitions and very tactile responses.
You're about to do the hardest part - your first 'outting' ... there's no easy way to do it other than with someone you trust implicitly, and that you read into their background to present it the best possible way. For me I kinda said "you know that person I'm seeing... it's a guy" then you just sorta wait for the response. The odd thing is you normally get some confession in return, like my mate Pete "that's okay, one time I did so-and-so" it's kinda funny.
*sighs* I think this is one of those where you need to sh*t or get off the pot (sorry for being crude but it seemed apt here) ... there's sadly a good chance you'll see less and less of him and things will start to drift. I'm also hesitant because it sounds like you both have something pretty special that you want to keep throughout your life. Having all those feelings built up means you're likely to tell him 'too much' , when honestly I think small confident chunks of honesty would work wonders.
If I'm reading this right - He's dated at least one guy, so I can imagine this wouldn't be a big issue for him.
Hope it works out dude, feeling for ya there.
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