12-23-2010, 03:05 AM
Is the prejudice against gay acting gay guys worse nowadays? I realize that the whole unisex/androgynous ideal of the late seventies (when I was a kid) has basically gone down the tubes, it's boys in blue and girls in pink. I also realize that with the focus on us in the media (who is/who isn't) nobody wants to look like a comic. But ...
I was singled out and called "faggot" from about age ten right through high school. When I got to University it was much better, but after school and getting into the working world, I really made the effort to butch it up, (the environment was macho) and succeeded. But when I see the seemingly recent paranoia (oh, nobody would think *I'M* gay!) I wonder. Sure, fems have always taken it on the chin. But in the late eighties I had a relationship with a Marxist DJ who wore base, rouge, mascara, the works, daily. Nobody ever would have thought of calling him on it, and nobody seemed to mind. Nowadays, I wonder...
Of course we were young, but really, does it do anyone any good, does it do us any good, to be tripping over ourselves (so it sometimes seems) to try to act as though we were straight as boards?
Acting "straight" has become second nature to me - but when relaxed, or highly excited, I kind of break through. I guess this ramble shows the confusion in my mind. In person, I am fairly spontaneous, and only cringe later. But really, what is wrong with a fem guy, is it any worse than any other way to be? I mean, "White acting Black guy." Really!
Maybe I'm just bitter because the world didn't pan out into the unisex utopia I had hoped for when young. It just seems, though, like the opposite has happend and it makes me sad to think we ourselves are prejudiced against ourselves... we sure rally when a straight guy puts down a feminine gay man, but then if we do it...
Maybe this should have been in Debates. Sorry as heck it's so long
I was singled out and called "faggot" from about age ten right through high school. When I got to University it was much better, but after school and getting into the working world, I really made the effort to butch it up, (the environment was macho) and succeeded. But when I see the seemingly recent paranoia (oh, nobody would think *I'M* gay!) I wonder. Sure, fems have always taken it on the chin. But in the late eighties I had a relationship with a Marxist DJ who wore base, rouge, mascara, the works, daily. Nobody ever would have thought of calling him on it, and nobody seemed to mind. Nowadays, I wonder...
Of course we were young, but really, does it do anyone any good, does it do us any good, to be tripping over ourselves (so it sometimes seems) to try to act as though we were straight as boards?
Acting "straight" has become second nature to me - but when relaxed, or highly excited, I kind of break through. I guess this ramble shows the confusion in my mind. In person, I am fairly spontaneous, and only cringe later. But really, what is wrong with a fem guy, is it any worse than any other way to be? I mean, "White acting Black guy." Really!
Maybe I'm just bitter because the world didn't pan out into the unisex utopia I had hoped for when young. It just seems, though, like the opposite has happend and it makes me sad to think we ourselves are prejudiced against ourselves... we sure rally when a straight guy puts down a feminine gay man, but then if we do it...
Maybe this should have been in Debates. Sorry as heck it's so long
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