Long relationship but lacking sex...HELP!

[TimeBandit]

In my limited experience lack of sexual interaction has meant something was up. Either for me or the other person in the relationship. In each case it meant one or the other was losing interest in the relationship. I think it's very important to talk about it with your partner. The fact that you tried withdrawing your affection did not result in any questioning from him makes me think he is less invested in this relationship than you are. But unless you two have an honest and open conversation about what's happening, you won't know. Better to talk about it and get it all out in the open. I know it's scary and vulnerable but it is best for you to know, I think.

I hope this is something that the both of you can work on together and improve. You may never get the level of sexual interaction that you had in the initial stage of your relationship, but hopefully you can get to a point of satisfaction. Sex is not the most important part of a relationship but I think it's a pretty good barometer of how the relationship is doing as a whole.