01-08-2011, 10:45 AM
Hi everyone,
Well someone of you know my story. Ex left me for a girl (gay male here) and literally bailed. And now is living with her. Well finally exchanged all our stuff last week and I was doing okay, well as okay as anyone can be.
Cutting to the chase he called me up today and I picked up cuz I was expecting a call from someone else. Well I was a bit shocked and he said he left some things at my house and wanted to get them. So he starts talking. Basically saying that he still has feeling for me, can't have sex with this girl or its very hard because he's thinking of me. Thinks of me constantly and trys to move on. And hints that he wants to be friends with benefits. Well I told him I couldn't because one it wouldnt be fare to the girl he's with and 2 I cant do that period. He starts saying again that he wants a family and I can't give him that and that he wants to start something with this girl who's 21 and they might have a future together. And he cant risk that.
My mind knows it's not going to work even if he came back, but my heart aches for him. Why did he call? I told him not to call me since I need a lot of NC for a while to move on. The call opened up some wounds and brought back a lot of feelings I have for him. It's been three weeks since he dumped me so sleeping alone has been a problem, I sleep like 4-5 hours a night now and I've lost a lot of weight since I barely eat. It's like my body is going through withdrawls. I just dont know what to do. I want to move on. My mind say move on, but my heart aches and sometimes overpowers logic and my mind. Why did he call? What is going on through his mind? Any advice guys.
Thanks.
Well someone of you know my story. Ex left me for a girl (gay male here) and literally bailed. And now is living with her. Well finally exchanged all our stuff last week and I was doing okay, well as okay as anyone can be.
Cutting to the chase he called me up today and I picked up cuz I was expecting a call from someone else. Well I was a bit shocked and he said he left some things at my house and wanted to get them. So he starts talking. Basically saying that he still has feeling for me, can't have sex with this girl or its very hard because he's thinking of me. Thinks of me constantly and trys to move on. And hints that he wants to be friends with benefits. Well I told him I couldn't because one it wouldnt be fare to the girl he's with and 2 I cant do that period. He starts saying again that he wants a family and I can't give him that and that he wants to start something with this girl who's 21 and they might have a future together. And he cant risk that.
My mind knows it's not going to work even if he came back, but my heart aches for him. Why did he call? I told him not to call me since I need a lot of NC for a while to move on. The call opened up some wounds and brought back a lot of feelings I have for him. It's been three weeks since he dumped me so sleeping alone has been a problem, I sleep like 4-5 hours a night now and I've lost a lot of weight since I barely eat. It's like my body is going through withdrawls. I just dont know what to do. I want to move on. My mind say move on, but my heart aches and sometimes overpowers logic and my mind. Why did he call? What is going on through his mind? Any advice guys.
Thanks.
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