09-07-2011, 08:03 AM
Hello everyone. This could probably also qualify as coming out, but I'm really in need of some sound advice. Currently, only a hand full of people in my life know that I am bisexual. It isn't that I'm insecure in my feelings toward both men and women that is keeping me from telling people about my orientation, more just a concern that people won't understand what being bisexual means (to me at least).
When the word bisexual is mentioned, I get the impression that a good portion of people think only along the lines of "hot" girl on girl action used solely to get attention from a man. It seems to me that most girls who claim they are "bisexual" use the term mainly as an ace in the hole to be noticed. Thus, I worry that some people disregard bisexuality as a sexual orientation. What's unfortunate to me is that my train of thought is no where near what I've just described. To me, being bisexual goes beyond sexual relationships. True, I find pleasure in sleeping with both sexes equally. But honestly, I was one hundred percent sure of my orientation when I could visualize having a healthy, loving relationship with either a man or a woman.
My question then would be: how do I let those I am close to know that when I say I'm bisexual, it has nothing to do with seeking attention or a "hotness" quotient? I can see some people around me cautiously accepting this, but others I can see being completely choosing not to believe me. This is a bind I've been for quite a while now, but I haven't yet found a place to seek advice.
Thanks to anyone with some insight! mile:
When the word bisexual is mentioned, I get the impression that a good portion of people think only along the lines of "hot" girl on girl action used solely to get attention from a man. It seems to me that most girls who claim they are "bisexual" use the term mainly as an ace in the hole to be noticed. Thus, I worry that some people disregard bisexuality as a sexual orientation. What's unfortunate to me is that my train of thought is no where near what I've just described. To me, being bisexual goes beyond sexual relationships. True, I find pleasure in sleeping with both sexes equally. But honestly, I was one hundred percent sure of my orientation when I could visualize having a healthy, loving relationship with either a man or a woman.
My question then would be: how do I let those I am close to know that when I say I'm bisexual, it has nothing to do with seeking attention or a "hotness" quotient? I can see some people around me cautiously accepting this, but others I can see being completely choosing not to believe me. This is a bind I've been for quite a while now, but I haven't yet found a place to seek advice.
Thanks to anyone with some insight! mile: