What's the appeal of going to church?

[pellaz]

Nonsense, plenty of Jewish people are tolerant of gay people.

Not the 99%
-Take your boy friend to church and hold hands, see where / what it gets you.
-Most gay church going people are not out. We should have a pride gay couples go to church Sunday.

Neither is gay identity somehow going to supplant someone's ethnic and cultural identity.

Like it or not ethnic and cultural identity is dissipated after the 2.5th generation in the developing world. Ethnic cultural identity is a vestige of the past. Just hoping for that initial gay identity to get them through life.

who are we to dictate that they can't find support in a community they grew up in.

Any closed community, usually due to low economic advantage and or ineffective education, will not have significant social exposure. the gay population is more prone to clinical depression. If this wernt the case than I would say follow the straight guiding light, but it statistically is happening today.