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How out is "out" in your book?
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Hey guys, I've been wondering about this for a while:

How out is "out"? Does it mean letting everybody (and I mean *everybody*) around you know you're gay? Or just those closest to you (family and friends)?

For instance, at work? Most of the work I do itself is solitary, but I do work at a hospital and am in contact with other staff members often. There are two days out of the week I work at our occupational medicine department and like to chit chat with the staff there, but they're mostly middle-aged women in straight relationships, talking about their kids and husbands, etc. I don't feel I'm "lying' to them seeing as am I'm not in a relationship of any sort, but I'd feel...awkward....to just let them randomly know I'm gay.

And what if you work with clients? Most of the folks I see at the clinic are senior citizens, and most of them are very sweet, but they're products of a different time and mind set, and many are openly more conservative-leaning. I like to keep it professional and not go into my personal life too deeply, but I do get the occasional curious patient wondering if/when I'm getting married, if I have a girlfriend, etc. For the sake of keeping our relationship with the clientele harmonious, I don't wave rainbow flags in front of them (and I'm not exactly flamboyant so it's not super obvious without asking).

Is it bad that I don't disclose my orientation to them? Would a potential future partner be turned off about the lack of disclosure, or would he be more understanding?

All my friends, my boss, even my bass teacher, I'm out to. (Working on my parents - there may be a future post about that). I'd like to believe that any future partner would respect the level of my outness, and that I am slowly-but-surely making it a more well-known fact to those around me.

What do you guys think?
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How out is "out" in your book? - by Drew - 12-16-2011, 04:00 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by dfiant - 12-16-2011, 04:06 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Marvinteck - 12-16-2011, 05:15 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Bowyn Aerrow - 12-16-2011, 05:29 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by East - 12-16-2011, 05:40 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by pellaz - 12-16-2011, 06:22 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Pix - 12-16-2011, 06:30 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by hamsandwizh - 12-16-2011, 06:37 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by dlboy53 - 12-16-2011, 07:04 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Kiid - 12-16-2011, 11:20 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Kaybee - 12-16-2011, 01:48 PM
How out is "out" in your book? - by WalkingParadox - 12-16-2011, 01:58 PM
How out is "out" in your book? - by AirBorn - 12-16-2011, 02:22 PM
How out is "out" in your book? - by pellaz - 12-16-2011, 04:32 PM
How out is "out" in your book? - by TommyinKY - 12-17-2011, 10:01 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by fenris - 12-17-2011, 10:14 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Jay - 12-17-2011, 11:01 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by fenris - 12-17-2011, 11:35 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Jay - 12-17-2011, 02:43 PM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Pix - 12-18-2011, 01:38 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Jay - 12-18-2011, 06:31 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by fenris - 12-18-2011, 10:34 AM
How out is "out" in your book? - by Jason74 - 12-29-2011, 01:43 AM
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