Attention from the same-sex (without sexual tension)

[Drew]

So it's the holidays, and while I wish I was having a holly-jolly time with the boyfriend, unfortunately he does not exist.

I gave up looking for guys on Adam4Adam and Manhunt about two months ago and have deleted my accounts on them. I realized I was on those sites more for attention than for actually hooking up (I used to think I was just picky but I realized that it was more of an attention thing after I stopped looking). I really don't like hook-up sex; it feels forced and while it's hot for about the first 10 minutes I lose....potency....if I feel pressured to perform. I'd rather be with a long-term boyfriend that I feel relaxed around and that the sex is more spontaneous rather than forced.

I don't really have any prospects on OkCupid, so I'm not currently talking to anybody. While I don't consider myself an attention-whore, I wish I had a guy to talk to/share attnetion with during the holiday season. I'm going to Provincetown, MA, for New Years, by myself, but it'd be sweeter to be with someone.

Is there a way to talk/flirt with guys without feeling like a piece of meat (which is what the above websites and going to the bars make me feel like)? I'm frustrated constantly because of this, both sexually and psychologically. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. Any advice?