12-27-2011, 04:15 AM
I am never one to start rumors. I've never outed anyone before either. And what you feel is "taking control of another persons life" to me is helping them live their life with the realization that I support the true them. I would never do this unless my gaydar was screaming.
Don't you, as a gay man, find it harder to be friends with someone who didn't support the idea of being gay? When someone is closeted for no reason, I feel that it is often the result of internalized homophobia. I don't judge everyone on that basis, but my social experience tells me that this is often the case (keep in mind that I'm talking about an adult here, not a teen or a kid). It's self-destructive and can be destructive for other people. I would never automatically assume this is why someone is closeted, nor would I force anyone out of the closet, telling everyone I know that this person is gay. But if we're all among friends, and we all want to speak our minds among friends, it seems weird to just ignore the elephant in the room when I know that elephant would be happier roaming the open plains like we do.
Don't you, as a gay man, find it harder to be friends with someone who didn't support the idea of being gay? When someone is closeted for no reason, I feel that it is often the result of internalized homophobia. I don't judge everyone on that basis, but my social experience tells me that this is often the case (keep in mind that I'm talking about an adult here, not a teen or a kid). It's self-destructive and can be destructive for other people. I would never automatically assume this is why someone is closeted, nor would I force anyone out of the closet, telling everyone I know that this person is gay. But if we're all among friends, and we all want to speak our minds among friends, it seems weird to just ignore the elephant in the room when I know that elephant would be happier roaming the open plains like we do.
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