outing people

[CellarDweller]

I don't agree with outing, I think it's a disgusting thing to do.

Gfxtwin, if you want to help someone come out of the closet, you need to do it as my friend did for me. I was in the closet and in denial. One New Year's Eve party, a friend came to me and we had a conversation. During that conversation he said to me:

"Chuck, I think you are a tortured soul, and I don't think you'll be happy until you admit what you need to admit."

and he left it at that. A few minutes later, I came out to him, and to my friends at the party. My comming out anniversary is New Year's Eve, and I've been out since 1997.

To publicly out your friend takes his control and security away. To talk to him privately will be a better idea.